La Nueva Felicidad

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla

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Ruiz, reader, hard- working, writer and lover of personal development.

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In today' s episode we'
re going to talk about the book The

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New Happiness, a book just published
just a month or two ago and written

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by Stephany Harrison. This book has
autobiographical aspects. At one point, the

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author, Stephane Harrison, thought she
finally had everything she thought she was going

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to do. Happy had got a
prestigious job, if he had bought a

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great house, he had a very
promising future ahead and despite all that,

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he felt deeply inferio. She says
she had anxiety attacks practically every day,

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she felt lonely, etcetera. And
it was at that moment, when she

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decided to change her life, when
she decided to start studying what she calls

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the science of happiness, and in
this book she decided to tell all the

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things she learned on that path.
You' ve ever stopped to think about

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what happiness really means to you as
we usually don' t do this,

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as we usually don' t ask
ourselves most people simply adopt that definition of

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happiness that society gives us. Society
tells us that happiness comes from being perfect,

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from making more money, from getting
more material possessions. But these objectives,

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at least for themselves, will not
only make us happier, but they

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can even make us less happy,
because all that pressure all that competitiveness generates

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stress and, moreover, it often
leads us to loneliness. It is what

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the book calls old happiness, that
of individual success, that of material wealth,

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that of winning above all and all. But we can redefine that way

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of understanding happiness, we can prevent
all those beliefs from dictating our thoughts and,

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therefore, our actions. True happiness
comes from discovering who you are,

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from putting your gifts and talents at
the service of others, from pursuing what

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you really care about in the world. And the best of all is that

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this idea of happiness, this new
happiness, not only benefits you, but

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it will also have a positive impact
on everyone around you, that is,

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that somehow your own happiness can change
the world. The problem, then,

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is that we have all been taught
at least three lies about happiness. The

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first is that we lack something by
nature that, no matter how much we

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achieve, we will never be enough
and that is why we judge ourselves,

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we punish ourselves when we feel that
we have a lack, we think we

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are fools or that we do nothing
right. And those thoughts are not original

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thoughts. Our answers are conditioned by
a culture that is constantly telling us that

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we are not enough. So don' t confuse your self- esteem with

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your actions. You try to separate
what you do, that sometimes it will

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be fine and sometimes it will be
worse. Separate those actions, separate what

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you do from your worth as a
person. They' re two absolutely independent

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things and so you have to see
them. The second lie they teach us

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about happiness is that happiness will come
when we achieve objectives that are generally external,

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for example, wealth, for example, fame, popularity, etcetera.

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But it' s not like that. Those external objectives are usually going to

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leave us with a sense of emptiness. Once we' ve reached them.

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Andrea Gacy, for example, the
famous tennis player tells in his book that

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his name is Open by the way, that he felt absolutely nothing when he

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reached number one in the world ranking, because it was a goal imposed by

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others. The goals imposed by others
or imposed by society, will not fill

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you because they are not yours.
That' s why it' s so

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important that you reflect on your goals, that you think about the things that

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really matter to you. You think
if what you want to achieve today is

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given by social expectations or by your
personal values, and focus on the latter

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in internal goals that meet your true
needs and desires. Those goals are the

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only ones that can bring you closer
to happiness, not only when you achieve

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them, but throughout the whole process, that is, they will make you

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happy even if you don' t
reach them. And the third lie that

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most of us face around this theme
of happiness is the belief that we are

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separated from each other. Modern culture
fosters individualism and that leads many people to

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a sense of isolation. The reality
is that true happiness is deeply linked to

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our relationships with others. All studies
have shown that the happiest people are those

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who are most connected to others.
Loneliness, on the contrary, especially when

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it is loneliness that is not sought, when it is involuntary, that loneliness

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can have harmful effects on our health, both mental and physical. That'

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s why it' s important that
you encourage social connections, that you find

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points in common with other people.
I know that you do group activities,

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that you are interested and that you
like them. In reality, our true

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potential is unlocked through our relationships with
others, helping others is also essential for

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new happiness to help the human being. You know it' s a necessity.

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It' s like sleeping or eating. It' s something that increases

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our level of well- being.
In fact, it' s a scientific

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thing. Helping others activates the same
part of the brain as food or sex,

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that is, releases neurotransmitters that make
us feel good. And yet for

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some strange reason we find it hard
to ask for help. We are influenced

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by the cultural belief that we need
help. It makes you unworthy and everyone

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needs help. That' s the
reality. So I invite you to think

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this way. When you ask for
help, you are giving someone the opportunity

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to feel the joy, to feel
the pleasure that will give them to help.

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Another key aspect of this new happiness
to be able to discover and use

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our unique gifts and talents remembers that
everyone has gifts and talents, and those

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gifts and talents serve to put them
at the service of others. That'

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s why he put them there.
Either God or whatever you prefer to call

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it, how do you identify what
your gifts and talents are, because there

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are many people who still don'
t seem to be clear about them you

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identify them by how they make you
feel, because when you do something that

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involves those gifts those talents, that
is, when you use them, you

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feel alive, you feel connected to
your true self, so discover what excites

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you, discover what interests you.
Think about what those activities are that lead

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you to the state of flux,
to that state in which you are so

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absorbed in what you do that time
seems to disappear. If you discover and

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use your gifts, your talents,
you will improve your well- being,

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and not only that, but you
will also have a positive impact on the

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people around you. And another key
aspect that the book gives us to achieve

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that new happiness is to begin to
see the world as a space in which

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we are all interconnected. Do not
look just like an individual, but as

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a human being among billions of human
beings, that is, become aware of

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how much the rest of the world
contributes to your well- being. Be

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aware that many past and present people
have made their contribution and that allows you

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to live in a more comfortable way. Think about it and when you think

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about it, look for the way
you can also contribute to the world and

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make others' lives a little better. If you see the world this way,

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if you start to think that way, then you will realize that success

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is no longer just about winning or
accumulating wealth, fame, power, etcetera.

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All that stuff we were talking about
was old happiness. You will realize

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that true success is in using your
gifts and talents to have a positive impact

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on that interconnected community. So design
your work to fit your gifts and not

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the other way around. Identify a
problem that you like, that passions you

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and thinks how you can use your
gifts your talents to solve that problem,

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and then it' s mathematician believe
me that there will be people who will

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be grateful to you in one way
or another and, as a result,

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will pay you for it. It
will end up paying you for it,

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because money is the way society has
to thank us many times, so you

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know, true happiness is not in
external achievements. You are enough, as

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you are and happiness, at least, that new happiness that the book tells

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us about, is to discover what
are those gifts, what are those talents

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that make you unique and start putting
them at the service of others to help

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them solve a problem that you are
passionate about solving and when you see the

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world that way, you make you
live better and the people around you live

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better. And now, before I
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you very much. As always and until

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the next time, without a friend' s dermament, all of it,

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