Huye de la resignación

0:10 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio fencer Ruiz, a heavy reader and lover of personal development. Today I want to talk to you about how to stop resigning ourselves to living something that doesn' t fill us. But before you start, as always, remind yourself that you have at your disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas about personal development in my four books. Also that if you want to train in personal development in depth, I tell you what has worked for me, which is the personal development master' s degree online of App. You know it' s the best training that exists in this field and there are many. And if what happens to you is that you' ve decided to start changing your life, but you' re not ready to do a full master' s degree yet. I recommend that you download the ebook for free twenty- five habits for economic abundance, a system with which you are going to improve your relationship with money and thus have the lifestyle you want. I leave you the link to my books, to the four, to the master Clash of the personal development master and to Libuk Free in the episode notes, and now we' re going to talk about how we can get out of resignation. Maybe you ' ve lowered the bar. You may have resigned to mediocrity. You may have told yourself that your true aspirations in life are nothing but a fantasy,

1:42 they are nothing but a chimera. Perhaps you think that success is something exclusive to the geniuses of this world or to the people who have enough money to be able to follow its purpose, without thinking about the economic consequences that that has today. I want to ask you to forget all that. The truth, the pure truth, is that everyone is capable of achieving what he aspires to. The difference between those who achieve it and those who are not the mentality, it is not the intelligence, it is not the money, the difference between achieving what you aspire to and it is not your mentality. What has to change in your mentality to get the things you aspire to. The first thing is to change your attitude to uncertainty, fear of the unknown.

2:44 It' s natural, it' s something that helped our ancestors to be protected from predators. But when we strive to avoid uncertainty completely, then we are also closing ourselves to new possibilities. Uncertainty is not something to be feared. On the contrary, uncertainty is something that stimulates us, it is something that allows us to discover many good things. Therefore, if we do not face it, if we are not able to face it, we will never be able to discover those good things that uncertainty brings with it. What I recommend is that when you feel that uncertainty, you always wonder what the worst possible result would be and then think about the probability that that terrible outcome will occur. And when you have it, when you' ve thought about it, put it in writing, because you know that writing things puts them in perspective and you also know that the worst rarely happens. Something bad will happen, well, but the worst is it' s very difficult for them to happen. It' s very complicated that all the circumstances that can go wrong come together and happen to you most of the time. You' ll see that the things you value the most are going to remain intact, even in

4:15 the worst case scenario, and recognizing this reality, it' s going to disarm your fears. He' s gonna make you somehow free to start your own trip. So that' s the first thing. Change the way you currently have to see uncertainty. The second thing you can change is stop settling. Life is full of routines, of rituals, of things we do because we do, because we play them without quibble. We get up every day at the same time. We took the same road to work. We eat the same thing every day. And this is very useful to us, because in reality, no one has the time, the desire or the ability to analyze in depth each of the decisions, thousands of decisions we make in one day. But when we blindly follow a routine, that routine, we don ' t know if it' s obsolete or not, because what we do is prioritize the process over the outcome. And prioritizing the process over result if you think about it doesn' t make any sense. Let' s question the process at least once in a while, at least once. So if we don' t, instead of wondering if there' s a better way to do something. What we' re doing is getting caught up in habits

5:47 that may be hindering our growth. So, what I invite you to do is to question all your routines, to let go of all your assumptions, to reflect on why you do the things you do every day and why you do them the way you do them. Why don' t we do this, because the problem is that society teaches us to fear risk. And this is great too because it keeps you safe when you' re little, but it also slows you down when you' re grown up, because you end up telling yourself that you don' t have what to have to ask your boss for a promotion or that you don' t have what to have to ask that person that you like a date, so it' s about changing the story that you' re telling yourself. There are many people who think, for example, that success belongs to the elite, not to ordinary people.

6:50 It belongs to people who have special abilities that he or she doesn' t have, so they don' t even bother trying. And that' s a shame. That is why I told you that the first obstacle that prevents you from achieving your goals is neither your current account, nor your intelligence, nor your lack of time. It' s your mind. Your mentality starts to generate ideas without any restrictions. All the things you want to do have a way you can make it possible, but you have to generate ideas and you have to think outside the box you have to generate all kinds of ideas. They are all welcome, regardless of whether they can then be carried out in the real world or not. Do not think of a limit in the real world all the ideas you have leave them in writing and consider them a possibility. The goal is to generate as many ideas to achieve your goals as possible. It is not a question of finding a perfect solution at this stage. It' s about people volume of ideas. Get out of the box. As I was saying, ask yourself what solution you' d come up with in a world of science. Fiction, banish the rational voice from your head, at least for the moment, and leave your mind free to explore what you could do, instead of exploring what you think you should do?

8:22 Explore what you might not do what you should do And when you' re done, then, yes, then you let in your rational self, your adult self, your self that sticks to the things that happen in the world and that' s realistic and that rational self that picks up and evaluates all those ideas. And we' re already writing it down. But to start with the first step, don' t put any clear restrictions on yourself. In order to do this brainstorming exercise, you need two things. You need time and you need space. That is precisely why modern workplaces, modern offices, modern businesses, are so uncreative in general, because most people are trapped in a never- ending cycle of work. Every email we send gives rise to another email with which we are answered and then we feel obliged to respond to that second email. We are so under pressure, pressure to get results, pressure to deliver what we have promised, that the margin for innovation that we have left is very low. Then we end up falling obviously into thought patterns that are obsolete, that are completely ankylosed. Solution against this.

9:45 What I' m inviting you to do is try to add more free time to your schedule. Why, because when the mind, let itself be carried away the areas of the brain, which are responsible for the creative come to life. That is why there are many researchers who defend boredom as a fantastic way of creativity. In fact, I give you an example. In nine hundred and ninety, before smartphones were invented and we' re all looking at the smartphone today. In nine hundred and ninety, that train that was supposed to take JK Rowling from Manchester to London was four hours late. In those four hours, JK Rowling came up with the idea of writing about a character who in his head called Harry Potter. Why did he think of it?

10:43 Because he was in a boring station, he had nothing to do and he started to wander. He got bored, had nothing to do, got bored, and Harry Potter came up. It' s just an example of what your mind could give you if you gave yourself a little time to wander, to do nothing, to wander mentally, that' s what it' s called. That' s why I invite you the next time you feel stuck trying to solve a problem or need a creative solution of any kind. Put on your sneakers and go for a walk, because walking is the perfect activity for creativity. It puts you in an ideal mood for innovation. Why, because it relaxes you on one side and at the same time allows the gears of your subconscious to keep spinning. Therefore, walking allowed incredible scientific advances, such as those made by Darwin or those made by Tesla truth, these two names were very, very fan of going out for a walk and on those walks they had magnificent ideas. So, once again, the next time you need a solution to a problem, take a walk the longer, the better when you have that idea, when you have that creative solution, what you

12:13 have to do is put the test. Propose the test of truth, because our brain is continually seeking information that confirms our point of view and ignores the point of view of others that is contradictory to ours. And this is called confirmation bias, and we all have it. No one is immune to confirmation bias. In fact, there are a lot of people who hear opinions that are contrary to theirs they are distressed, they are so distressed that they avoid it at all costs And every time I think that we are all falling a little bit more into that thanks to the bubble that is generated on the Internet, in which you consume a type of content, a kind of ideological and all the news that comes to you, all the notifications are on that same subject or over counted from the point of view of that ideology to which you have previously made clip, we are feedback in our own bubble and we are obviously missing out a lot of things. Returning to the confirmation bias, as we have that tendency to see what only we want to see you, I invite you to avoid sticking to your opinions, to think of your opinions as working hypothesis, which could be correct and demonstrated, which could be refuted or

13:48 even abandoned. And in this way, instead of having an opinion, you will have a hypothesis and you can be more objective. Generate as many ispothesis as you can. The more hypotheses you have the better, because you' re going to keep from being stuck in a single truth, in a single conclusion, which can be wrong. In fact, I invite you to strive to refute your hypotheses rather than prove you' re right. Present yourself with your own hypotheses, your own opinions, as if they were someone else' s opinions. Try yourself to find faults in your own arguments. Destroy your hypotheses throw them down, because every hypothesis of yours that you are able to refute brings you one step closer to the truth. And people don' t see it that way. People think if you' re not right, they ' re moving away from the truth. And it' s exactly the opposite.

14:54 When it' s proven you' re wrong, you' re one step closer to yours to being right. And when you have your hypotheses validated with yourself, you have to test them in the real world, you have to test them in the situation more similar to the real environment. And that ' s exactly what many of us don' t do. It' s like we' re afraid to test our hypothesis in the real world. Then we practice a speech from the comfort of our home, not in a wide space, under a lot of lights and under a lot of looks, or we ask our family or our friend to do with us a job interview drill and then we go in Chandall and we are on our couch. And this isn' t like that. That' s not testing a hypothesis, that ' s not training, that' s not practicing the most likely thing is that, when the big day comes, as the test has been so different from reality, let' s fail at that moment and that' s the moment of truth prove it in a real environment. If you have to speak in public, go speak in public this Sunday, at Mass or something like that. And if the test is a failure, then what you have to do is analyze it, analyze it, why dissect that failure until you find the cause. When you have the cause, obviously change it. And if

16:27 it proves a success, then we also have to be somewhat skeptical of our successes. In fact, the root of many failures lies in successes that have happened in the past, because people who succeed sometimes generate so much self- confidence that they blind themselves, think they know what they are doing because they have done it before, but that you have succeeded, does not mean that you have not made mistakes, and that is why it is crucial to remember that success is not an end in itself to the goal, it is not success. Success is a milestone in this journey which is life and which, in the end, is an endless journey, it is a journey of continuous discovery, but it is not the end. Success is not the end.

17:21 So you know that. Don' t settle down, don' t resign to mediocrity, Change your mindset to be more comfortable with uncertainty, challenge routines, be less afraid of risk, instead of living trapped in a mold. Generate unrestricted ideas, take free time to foster your creativity and, when you have those ideas, try them as soon as possible in real or near real situations so you can evolve them. And whether that test is a success. As a failure, you will have learned something and surely you will be closer to a better life. If you liked this episode, please give it to me like, share on social networks or visit three wwws ideas to live better.

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