Huye de la resignación

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio fencer

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Ruiz, a heavy reader and lover
of personal development. Today I want to

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talk to you about how to stop
resigning ourselves to living something that doesn'

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t fill us. But before you
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to my books, to the four, to the master Clash of the personal

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development master and to Libuk Free in
the episode notes, and now we'

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re going to talk about how we
can get out of resignation. Maybe you

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' ve lowered the bar. You
may have resigned to mediocrity. You may

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have told yourself that your true aspirations
in life are nothing but a fantasy,

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they are nothing but a chimera.
Perhaps you think that success is something exclusive

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to the geniuses of this world or
to the people who have enough money to

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be able to follow its purpose,
without thinking about the economic consequences that that

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has today. I want to ask
you to forget all that. The truth,

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the pure truth, is that everyone
is capable of achieving what he aspires

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to. The difference between those who
achieve it and those who are not the

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mentality, it is not the intelligence, it is not the money, the

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difference between achieving what you aspire to
and it is not your mentality. What

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has to change in your mentality to
get the things you aspire to. The

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first thing is to change your attitude
to uncertainty, fear of the unknown.

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It' s natural, it'
s something that helped our ancestors to be

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protected from predators. But when we
strive to avoid uncertainty completely, then we

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are also closing ourselves to new possibilities. Uncertainty is not something to be feared.

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On the contrary, uncertainty is something
that stimulates us, it is something

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that allows us to discover many good
things. Therefore, if we do not

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face it, if we are not
able to face it, we will never

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be able to discover those good things
that uncertainty brings with it. What I

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recommend is that when you feel that
uncertainty, you always wonder what the worst

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possible result would be and then think
about the probability that that terrible outcome will

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occur. And when you have it, when you' ve thought about it,

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put it in writing, because you
know that writing things puts them in

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perspective and you also know that the
worst rarely happens. Something bad will happen,

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well, but the worst is it' s very difficult for them to

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happen. It' s very complicated
that all the circumstances that can go wrong

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come together and happen to you most
of the time. You' ll see

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that the things you value the most
are going to remain intact, even in

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the worst case scenario, and recognizing
this reality, it' s going to

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disarm your fears. He' s
gonna make you somehow free to start your

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own trip. So that' s
the first thing. Change the way you

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currently have to see uncertainty. The
second thing you can change is stop settling.

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Life is full of routines, of
rituals, of things we do because

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we do, because we play them
without quibble. We get up every day

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at the same time. We took
the same road to work. We eat

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the same thing every day. And
this is very useful to us, because

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in reality, no one has the
time, the desire or the ability to

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analyze in depth each of the decisions, thousands of decisions we make in one

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day. But when we blindly follow
a routine, that routine, we don

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' t know if it' s
obsolete or not, because what we do

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is prioritize the process over the outcome. And prioritizing the process over result if

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you think about it doesn' t
make any sense. Let' s question

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the process at least once in a
while, at least once. So if

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we don' t, instead of
wondering if there' s a better way

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to do something. What we'
re doing is getting caught up in habits

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that may be hindering our growth.
So, what I invite you to do

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is to question all your routines,
to let go of all your assumptions,

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to reflect on why you do the
things you do every day and why you

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do them the way you do them. Why don' t we do this,

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because the problem is that society teaches
us to fear risk. And this

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is great too because it keeps you
safe when you' re little, but

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it also slows you down when you' re grown up, because you end

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up telling yourself that you don'
t have what to have to ask your

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boss for a promotion or that you
don' t have what to have to

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ask that person that you like a
date, so it' s about changing

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the story that you' re telling
yourself. There are many people who think,

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for example, that success belongs to
the elite, not to ordinary people.

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It belongs to people who have special
abilities that he or she doesn'

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t have, so they don'
t even bother trying. And that'

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s a shame. That is why
I told you that the first obstacle that

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prevents you from achieving your goals is
neither your current account, nor your intelligence,

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nor your lack of time. It' s your mind. Your mentality

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starts to generate ideas without any restrictions. All the things you want to do

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have a way you can make it
possible, but you have to generate ideas

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and you have to think outside the
box you have to generate all kinds of

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ideas. They are all welcome,
regardless of whether they can then be carried

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out in the real world or not. Do not think of a limit in

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the real world all the ideas you
have leave them in writing and consider them

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a possibility. The goal is to
generate as many ideas to achieve your goals

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as possible. It is not a
question of finding a perfect solution at this

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stage. It' s about people
volume of ideas. Get out of the

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box. As I was saying,
ask yourself what solution you' d come

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up with in a world of science. Fiction, banish the rational voice from

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your head, at least for the
moment, and leave your mind free to

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explore what you could do, instead
of exploring what you think you should do?

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Explore what you might not do what
you should do And when you'

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re done, then, yes,
then you let in your rational self,

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your adult self, your self that
sticks to the things that happen in the

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world and that' s realistic and
that rational self that picks up and evaluates

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all those ideas. And we'
re already writing it down. But to

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start with the first step, don' t put any clear restrictions on yourself.

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In order to do this brainstorming exercise, you need two things. You

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need time and you need space.
That is precisely why modern workplaces, modern

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offices, modern businesses, are so
uncreative in general, because most people are

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trapped in a never- ending cycle
of work. Every email we send gives

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rise to another email with which we
are answered and then we feel obliged to

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respond to that second email. We
are so under pressure, pressure to get

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results, pressure to deliver what we
have promised, that the margin for innovation

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that we have left is very low. Then we end up falling obviously into

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thought patterns that are obsolete, that
are completely ankylosed. Solution against this.

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What I' m inviting you to
do is try to add more free time

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to your schedule. Why, because
when the mind, let itself be carried

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away the areas of the brain,
which are responsible for the creative come to

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life. That is why there are
many researchers who defend boredom as a fantastic

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way of creativity. In fact,
I give you an example. In nine

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hundred and ninety, before smartphones were
invented and we' re all looking at

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the smartphone today. In nine hundred
and ninety, that train that was supposed

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to take JK Rowling from Manchester to
London was four hours late. In those

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four hours, JK Rowling came up
with the idea of writing about a character

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who in his head called Harry Potter. Why did he think of it?

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Because he was in a boring station, he had nothing to do and he

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started to wander. He got bored, had nothing to do, got bored,

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and Harry Potter came up. It' s just an example of what

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your mind could give you if you
gave yourself a little time to wander,

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to do nothing, to wander mentally, that' s what it' s

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called. That' s why I
invite you the next time you feel stuck

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trying to solve a problem or need
a creative solution of any kind. Put

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on your sneakers and go for a
walk, because walking is the perfect activity

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for creativity. It puts you in
an ideal mood for innovation. Why,

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because it relaxes you on one side
and at the same time allows the gears

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of your subconscious to keep spinning.
Therefore, walking allowed incredible scientific advances,

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such as those made by Darwin or
those made by Tesla truth, these two

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names were very, very fan of
going out for a walk and on those

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walks they had magnificent ideas. So, once again, the next time you

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need a solution to a problem,
take a walk the longer, the better

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when you have that idea, when
you have that creative solution, what you

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have to do is put the test. Propose the test of truth, because

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our brain is continually seeking information that
confirms our point of view and ignores the

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point of view of others that is
contradictory to ours. And this is called

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confirmation bias, and we all have
it. No one is immune to confirmation

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bias. In fact, there are
a lot of people who hear opinions that

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are contrary to theirs they are distressed, they are so distressed that they avoid

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it at all costs And every time
I think that we are all falling a

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little bit more into that thanks to
the bubble that is generated on the Internet,

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in which you consume a type of
content, a kind of ideological and

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all the news that comes to you, all the notifications are on that same

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subject or over counted from the point
of view of that ideology to which you

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have previously made clip, we are
feedback in our own bubble and we are

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obviously missing out a lot of things. Returning to the confirmation bias, as

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we have that tendency to see what
only we want to see you, I

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invite you to avoid sticking to your
opinions, to think of your opinions as

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working hypothesis, which could be correct
and demonstrated, which could be refuted or

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even abandoned. And in this way, instead of having an opinion, you

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will have a hypothesis and you can
be more objective. Generate as many ispothesis

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as you can. The more hypotheses
you have the better, because you'

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re going to keep from being stuck
in a single truth, in a single

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conclusion, which can be wrong.
In fact, I invite you to strive

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to refute your hypotheses rather than prove
you' re right. Present yourself with

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your own hypotheses, your own opinions, as if they were someone else'

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s opinions. Try yourself to find
faults in your own arguments. Destroy your

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hypotheses throw them down, because every
hypothesis of yours that you are able to

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refute brings you one step closer to
the truth. And people don' t

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see it that way. People think
if you' re not right, they

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' re moving away from the truth. And it' s exactly the opposite.

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When it' s proven you'
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step closer to yours to being right. And when you have your hypotheses validated

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with yourself, you have to test
them in the real world, you have

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to test them in the situation more
similar to the real environment. And that

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' s exactly what many of us
don' t do. It' s

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like we' re afraid to test
our hypothesis in the real world. Then

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we practice a speech from the comfort
of our home, not in a wide

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space, under a lot of lights
and under a lot of looks, or

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we ask our family or our friend
to do with us a job interview drill

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and then we go in Chandall and
we are on our couch. And this

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isn' t like that. That' s not testing a hypothesis, that

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' s not training, that'
s not practicing the most likely thing is

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that, when the big day comes, as the test has been so different

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from reality, let' s fail
at that moment and that' s the

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moment of truth prove it in a
real environment. If you have to speak

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in public, go speak in public
this Sunday, at Mass or something like

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that. And if the test is
a failure, then what you have to

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do is analyze it, analyze it, why dissect that failure until you find

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the cause. When you have the
cause, obviously change it. And if

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it proves a success, then we
also have to be somewhat skeptical of our

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successes. In fact, the root
of many failures lies in successes that have

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happened in the past, because people
who succeed sometimes generate so much self-

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confidence that they blind themselves, think
they know what they are doing because they

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have done it before, but that
you have succeeded, does not mean that

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you have not made mistakes, and
that is why it is crucial to remember

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that success is not an end in
itself to the goal, it is not

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success. Success is a milestone in
this journey which is life and which,

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in the end, is an endless
journey, it is a journey of continuous

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discovery, but it is not the
end. Success is not the end.

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So you know that. Don'
t settle down, don' t resign

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to mediocrity, Change your mindset to
be more comfortable with uncertainty, challenge routines,

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be less afraid of risk, instead
of living trapped in a mold.

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Generate unrestricted ideas, take free time
to foster your creativity and, when you

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have those ideas, try them as
soon as possible in real or near real

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situations so you can evolve them.
And whether that test is a success.

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As a failure, you will have
learned something and surely you will be closer

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I leave you the link to both
things in the episode notes and just say

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goodbye. Thank you very much.
As always and until next time, a

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fear, a fear, an engine
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