Vivir de verdad

0:03 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio Palla, ruiz, reader, hard- working and lover of personal development. Today I want to share with you the importance of living in the moment, the importance of living in the present in order to live truly, in order to live with capitals. But before I start, I want to remind you that you have at your disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas and tips on personal development. In my four books you already know them free, healthy and happy, thirty- one days to improve your life, minimalism for normal people and seven steps for a purposeful life. I leave you the link to all of them in the episode notes and now we' re going to talk about real living. None of us want to come to the end of his life and suddenly realize that he has not lived fully. And yet we have a frantic lifestyle that leads us to exactly that result. We' re running from place to place or we' re sticking to our screens and that' s how we' re stealing the present moment. And the present moment is all we have. The past is behind us, the future has not arrived.

1:34 Neither exist. Then why do we allow ourselves that luxury of not connecting with the here and now, if it' s really the only thing that exists. The first reason is that sometimes we think we' re alone in the world, and that' s not true. Our body is formed by armchairs of cells that keep us alive, but we also carry within us other things, We carry within us the air that we breathe, the food that we eat, and we carry within us also the education that they have given us, the culture that we have accumulated, and that all that together is what gives shape to who we are. We could even say that we carry within us the experiences of our ancestors, the experiences of previous generations that go back in time. If you removed any of these elements, it would simply not be you anymore because human beings are not separate entities, we are not islands.

2:46 Each person is an interser, it is a combination of extracted elements, from different sources that coexist through time and through space. All that, that ' s what we are. We' re not islands. Look at the kids. For example, a child not only physically resembles his parents, he also talks like his parents, he also acts like his parents. And, in the same way, if we look at the parents, we' ll find traces of that child. Therefore, neither the child nor the parents are a separate me. They are deeply connected and cannot exist independently. And this is good news, because reminding yourself that you are not alone in the world is a great comfort, regardless of the moment you are going through. Recognizing that you are part of that living cell, that it breathes and that we call the world is a very good thing, because it means that that world is also part of IT. And just this idea can help you get through the bad times. Other times, what happens to us is that we are afraid of death, for example, and in that case what we should think about is clouds. Yes, in the clouds, because you see a cloud

4:18 passing through the sky and suddenly you don' t see it is gone. The cloud is gone, you can' t see it anymore, but that doesn' t mean that cloud doesn' t exist anymore. The cloud does still exist. The cloud doesn' t disappear. It just becomes something else. It can be transformed into fog, can be transformed into rain. And this is in line with the first law of thermodynamics that I' m sure you know, which tells us that energy is neither created nor destroyed, but only transformed. The same thing happens with the cloud, which can' t stop being the cloud you saw yesterday, it can be the water you' re drinking today, for example, what happens is that we need to call things somehow. We need to name them a person cloud, because that helps us manage in the world and helps us identify what we see. But in reality, if we wanted to see the complete nature of existence, we would have to go further. One person. What we call a person is an entity that has always existed and will always exist. The thing is, we need to tag. Birth and death are signs we use to mark dates on

5:48 a calendar. But one thing is what defines his concept as a person, which is birth and death. That does not mean that these two signs fully represent existence. Before you were born you were in your mother' s womb and before that the elements that made you existed, there was a sperm, there was an egg and before that there were other things, in your ancestors, in your grandparents, in your great- grandparents, etcetera. So this we could look at as, actually there was never a time when you didn ' t exist in one way or another. You weren' t a good person, but to exist You probably existed in another way and you' ve just been continually transforming yourself into what you are today, which is a person.

6:53 Well, if you' re afraid of death, you might think you ' re going to still exist in another way after death. So, although there are a lot of people who see death as a negative thing. Maybe death is just another transformation. Maybe it' s just a cloud that turns into rain and, in fact, death is what makes life possible, because in the end it' s what triggers the birth of a new way of being. This is very profound and obviously neither I nor anyone else has the answer. I simply limit myself to philosophizing a little today in today' s episode, to make you think, to make you think and then tell me what you think in the comments. Other times, what scares us and what stops us from living in the present moment is change. We' re afraid of the corporal. There' s a Greek philosopher. I don' t remember which one right now that said you can never bathe twice in the same river, that water you first swam in, when you give yourself another bath, it' ll be a different water and the same way. You' re not the same person you were yesterday There are cells in your body that

8:24 have died, been replaced, etcetera. But as people, as humans, we tend to be afraid of change, because we think that change means difficult times are coming and we often forget that change also has the potential to improve our lives. We forget that thanks to change there are diseases that are cured thanks to change, there are despotic regimes that come to an end, that is, the impermanence of things is a blessing in some way. So, the human body, which we already know is an incredible tool, which can do wonders, walk to talk, think, feel, because there will come a time when it cannot do those things because it will have changed and become dust. And this idea, instead of being afraid of what I invite you to do, is to help you appreciate the gift that is life, to value the present moment even more and to understand that without change there would be no progress. The seed would never become a plant and the children would never become adults. And not only do objects, physical objects, they also change our thoughts and our feelings. Our interior landscape is constantly changing. And that

10:00 ' s good and it' s natural, because today' s you isn ' t the same as yesterday' s you or the future' s you. On the positive side that your pain, your fears, all of that is also impermanent. And knowing this can help you, because when you feel fear, when you feel pain, you may be aware that at some point, sooner rather than later, those feelings, those thoughts will change. Nothing remains forever, neither good nor bad. But beyond fears, the main brake that prevents us from living in the present is our obsession with living in the future. There have been generations who were obsessed with living in the past.

10:52 I don' t think that' s the case with our generation. I think we' re more trapped in the future by anxiety than by the past. And this is somehow natural, because, as we have spoken many times, our ancestors had to develop the ability to anticipate the future? Why? Because they needed to anticipate the threats of predators, they needed to anticipate the piece they wanted to hunt in order to feed themselves. But today we no longer need to run the same way to survive. We do not need to be permanently in the future, even if that momentum is still etched in us in some way. We already feel that anticipation for what we' re going to hunt. We' ve changed the target. Now we pursue that money, health, recognition, whatever. We do not pursue different things, but we continue to anticipate and continue to leave the present to travel to the future.

12:05 And in that process we sacrifice the wonders of the present moment. We tell ourselves that there is a reward for all that effort that one day we will achieve what we want, reach our own version of heaven and that we will be happy. But it is that, perhaps, the sky is already within our reach and we are letting it pass. And maybe, if we stopped running, if we stopped having anxiety about the future, about getting ahead, we could enjoy that sky right now, right now. A maxim is that peace is born of stillness and the opposite of stillness is running. If we are constantly running, if we are constantly looking for something that we believe we do not have, then we are left without the freedom to embrace the present moment, instead of connecting with him here, with him now, with the joy, of being alive our mind is bubbling with plans, with tasks and being in that constant state of longing for things will prevent you from feeling at peace. So what I' m inviting you to do today is try to be aimless. Every once in a while. Being aimless doesn' t mean doing nothing, it doesn' t mean lying on the couch and lighting netflix or any of these platforms. Being aimless is a State in which desire

13:39 is abandoned, goals are temporarily stopped. The goals are not important, you know, but one day, two days, three days, in which you abandon all your goals, in which you do not have a goal to pursue, in which you are free to stand still, to commit yourself thoroughly to the present moment that stillness will bring you peace and it will open your eyes to the wonder that it is to be alive, to pay attention to everything that surrounds you, etcetera. It is a very simple exercise, but very powerful. And another thing that prevents us from enjoying the present moment is our cravings, longings, desires call it what you want, that end up stealing freedom from us. This is like a fish that swims in the river and meets a bait. When the fish bites, the bait also bites the hook and at that very moment, without realizing it, has lost its freedom.

14:48 The same thing happens to humans. Many times. The baits have many ways, but I don' t know think about a car, for example, maybe a high- end car for you is a bait, but it also comes with a hook that' s not only the price, it' s also the maintenance, the worries. I don' t know the breakdowns, the space, everything that might seem like a bait or everything that' s a bait what might seem like a craving? Something you really want to have. Always think about where the hook is, because, maybe there' s a hook you' re not seeing and if you saw it, maybe you ' d walk past that bait and you' d be freer. They' re things we dream about. But many times those things keep us from seeing the hook and hooking us up. And then, instead of making us happy, in the end, all they do is cause us suffering. Let' s stop chasing the bait or at least realize each time we get a bait or chase on a bait, what is the hook that is inside and that will take away some of our freedom, because in addition, the problem with cravings or baits is that you are never satisfied. Even if you get exactly

16:18 what you want. The human being is designed to immediately get something, want something else, want something new. So you know that. To be truly alive means to live the moment, to live in the here and now. And that' s a challenge, because sometimes we think we' re alone, sometimes we' re afraid, sometimes we have anxiety about the future, we have cravings and all those things keep us away from the present moment, they drive us away from it, because facing it seems too hard. But when you find the courage to stand still, to embrace your pain, then you start to heal and you start to free yourself from all those distractions that rob you of peace and that allows you to connect with yourself and, of course, live a better life. If you liked this episode, please give it to me like, share social networks or visit three wwws ideas to live better. Dot com there you can subscribe and download for free a copy of my latest book, Seven steps for a life with purpose, and also remember that you have in link to all my books, where you will be able to know much more about this topic and many others in the notes of the episode and without further saying goodbye. Thank you very much, as always and until the next