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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to share with you the
importance of living in the moment, the

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importance of living in the present in
order to live truly, in order to

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live with capitals. But before I
start, I want to remind you that

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you have at your disposal a compilation
of the most relevant ideas and tips on

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personal development. In my four books
you already know them free, healthy and

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happy, thirty- one days to
improve your life, minimalism for normal people

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and seven steps for a purposeful life. I leave you the link to all

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of them in the episode notes and
now we' re going to talk about

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real living. None of us want
to come to the end of his life

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and suddenly realize that he has not
lived fully. And yet we have a

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frantic lifestyle that leads us to exactly
that result. We' re running from

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place to place or we' re
sticking to our screens and that' s

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how we' re stealing the present
moment. And the present moment is all

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we have. The past is behind
us, the future has not arrived.

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Neither exist. Then why do we
allow ourselves that luxury of not connecting with

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the here and now, if it' s really the only thing that exists.

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The first reason is that sometimes we
think we' re alone in the

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world, and that' s not
true. Our body is formed by armchairs

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of cells that keep us alive,
but we also carry within us other things,

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We carry within us the air that
we breathe, the food that we

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eat, and we carry within us
also the education that they have given us,

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the culture that we have accumulated,
and that all that together is what

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gives shape to who we are.
We could even say that we carry within

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us the experiences of our ancestors,
the experiences of previous generations that go back

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in time. If you removed any
of these elements, it would simply not

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be you anymore because human beings are
not separate entities, we are not islands.

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Each person is an interser, it
is a combination of extracted elements,

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from different sources that coexist through time
and through space. All that, that

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' s what we are. We' re not islands. Look at the

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kids. For example, a child
not only physically resembles his parents, he

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also talks like his parents, he
also acts like his parents. And,

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in the same way, if we
look at the parents, we' ll

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find traces of that child. Therefore, neither the child nor the parents are

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a separate me. They are deeply
connected and cannot exist independently. And this

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is good news, because reminding yourself
that you are not alone in the world

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is a great comfort, regardless of
the moment you are going through. Recognizing

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that you are part of that living
cell, that it breathes and that we

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call the world is a very good
thing, because it means that that world

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is also part of IT. And
just this idea can help you get through

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the bad times. Other times,
what happens to us is that we are

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afraid of death, for example,
and in that case what we should think

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about is clouds. Yes, in
the clouds, because you see a cloud

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passing through the sky and suddenly you
don' t see it is gone.

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The cloud is gone, you can' t see it anymore, but that

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doesn' t mean that cloud doesn' t exist anymore. The cloud does

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still exist. The cloud doesn'
t disappear. It just becomes something else.

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It can be transformed into fog,
can be transformed into rain. And

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this is in line with the first
law of thermodynamics that I' m sure

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you know, which tells us that
energy is neither created nor destroyed, but

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only transformed. The same thing happens
with the cloud, which can' t

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stop being the cloud you saw yesterday, it can be the water you'

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re drinking today, for example,
what happens is that we need to call

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things somehow. We need to name
them a person cloud, because that helps

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us manage in the world and helps
us identify what we see. But in

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reality, if we wanted to see
the complete nature of existence, we would

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have to go further. One person. What we call a person is an

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entity that has always existed and will
always exist. The thing is, we

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need to tag. Birth and death
are signs we use to mark dates on

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a calendar. But one thing is
what defines his concept as a person,

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which is birth and death. That
does not mean that these two signs fully

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represent existence. Before you were born
you were in your mother' s womb

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and before that the elements that made
you existed, there was a sperm,

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there was an egg and before that
there were other things, in your ancestors,

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in your grandparents, in your great- grandparents, etcetera. So this

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we could look at as, actually
there was never a time when you didn

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' t exist in one way or
another. You weren' t a good

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person, but to exist You probably
existed in another way and you' ve

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just been continually transforming yourself into what
you are today, which is a person.

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Well, if you' re afraid
of death, you might think you

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' re going to still exist in
another way after death. So, although

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there are a lot of people who
see death as a negative thing. Maybe

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death is just another transformation. Maybe
it' s just a cloud that turns

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into rain and, in fact,
death is what makes life possible, because

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in the end it' s what
triggers the birth of a new way of

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being. This is very profound and
obviously neither I nor anyone else has the

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answer. I simply limit myself to
philosophizing a little today in today' s

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episode, to make you think,
to make you think and then tell me

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what you think in the comments.
Other times, what scares us and what

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stops us from living in the present
moment is change. We' re afraid

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of the corporal. There' s
a Greek philosopher. I don' t

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remember which one right now that said
you can never bathe twice in the same

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river, that water you first swam
in, when you give yourself another bath,

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it' ll be a different water
and the same way. You'

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re not the same person you were
yesterday There are cells in your body that

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have died, been replaced, etcetera. But as people, as humans,

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we tend to be afraid of change, because we think that change means difficult

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times are coming and we often forget
that change also has the potential to improve

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our lives. We forget that thanks
to change there are diseases that are cured

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thanks to change, there are despotic
regimes that come to an end, that

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is, the impermanence of things is
a blessing in some way. So,

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the human body, which we already
know is an incredible tool, which can

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do wonders, walk to talk,
think, feel, because there will come

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a time when it cannot do those
things because it will have changed and become

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dust. And this idea, instead
of being afraid of what I invite you

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to do, is to help you
appreciate the gift that is life, to

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value the present moment even more and
to understand that without change there would be

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no progress. The seed would never
become a plant and the children would never

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become adults. And not only do
objects, physical objects, they also change

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our thoughts and our feelings. Our
interior landscape is constantly changing. And that

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' s good and it' s
natural, because today' s you isn

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' t the same as yesterday'
s you or the future' s you.

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On the positive side that your pain, your fears, all of that

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is also impermanent. And knowing this
can help you, because when you feel

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fear, when you feel pain,
you may be aware that at some point,

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sooner rather than later, those feelings, those thoughts will change. Nothing

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remains forever, neither good nor bad. But beyond fears, the main brake

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that prevents us from living in the
present is our obsession with living in the

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future. There have been generations who
were obsessed with living in the past.

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I don' t think that'
s the case with our generation. I

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think we' re more trapped in
the future by anxiety than by the past.

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And this is somehow natural, because, as we have spoken many times,

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our ancestors had to develop the ability
to anticipate the future? Why?

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Because they needed to anticipate the threats
of predators, they needed to anticipate the

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piece they wanted to hunt in order
to feed themselves. But today we no

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longer need to run the same way
to survive. We do not need to

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be permanently in the future, even
if that momentum is still etched in us

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in some way. We already feel
that anticipation for what we' re going

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to hunt. We' ve changed
the target. Now we pursue that money,

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health, recognition, whatever. We
do not pursue different things, but

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we continue to anticipate and continue to
leave the present to travel to the future.

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And in that process we sacrifice the
wonders of the present moment. We

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tell ourselves that there is a reward
for all that effort that one day we

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will achieve what we want, reach
our own version of heaven and that we

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will be happy. But it is
that, perhaps, the sky is already

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within our reach and we are letting
it pass. And maybe, if we

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stopped running, if we stopped having
anxiety about the future, about getting ahead,

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we could enjoy that sky right now, right now. A maxim is

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that peace is born of stillness and
the opposite of stillness is running. If

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we are constantly running, if we
are constantly looking for something that we believe

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we do not have, then we
are left without the freedom to embrace the

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present moment, instead of connecting with
him here, with him now, with

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the joy, of being alive our
mind is bubbling with plans, with tasks

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and being in that constant state of
longing for things will prevent you from feeling

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at peace. So what I'
m inviting you to do today is try

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to be aimless. Every once in
a while. Being aimless doesn' t

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mean doing nothing, it doesn'
t mean lying on the couch and lighting

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netflix or any of these platforms.
Being aimless is a State in which desire

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is abandoned, goals are temporarily stopped. The goals are not important, you

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know, but one day, two
days, three days, in which you

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abandon all your goals, in which
you do not have a goal to pursue,

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in which you are free to stand
still, to commit yourself thoroughly to

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the present moment that stillness will bring
you peace and it will open your eyes

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to the wonder that it is to
be alive, to pay attention to everything

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that surrounds you, etcetera. It
is a very simple exercise, but very

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powerful. And another thing that prevents
us from enjoying the present moment is our

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cravings, longings, desires call it
what you want, that end up stealing

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freedom from us. This is like
a fish that swims in the river and

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meets a bait. When the fish
bites, the bait also bites the hook

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and at that very moment, without
realizing it, has lost its freedom.

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The same thing happens to humans.
Many times. The baits have many ways,

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but I don' t know think
about a car, for example,

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maybe a high- end car for
you is a bait, but it also

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comes with a hook that' s
not only the price, it' s

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also the maintenance, the worries.
I don' t know the breakdowns,

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the space, everything that might seem
like a bait or everything that' s

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a bait what might seem like a
craving? Something you really want to have.

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Always think about where the hook is, because, maybe there' s

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a hook you' re not seeing
and if you saw it, maybe you

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' d walk past that bait and
you' d be freer. They'

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re things we dream about. But
many times those things keep us from seeing

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the hook and hooking us up.
And then, instead of making us happy,

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in the end, all they do
is cause us suffering. Let'

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s stop chasing the bait or at
least realize each time we get a bait

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or chase on a bait, what
is the hook that is inside and that

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will take away some of our freedom, because in addition, the problem with

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cravings or baits is that you are
never satisfied. Even if you get exactly

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what you want. The human being
is designed to immediately get something, want

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something else, want something new.
So you know that. To be truly

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alive means to live the moment,
to live in the here and now.

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And that' s a challenge,
because sometimes we think we' re alone,

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sometimes we' re afraid, sometimes
we have anxiety about the future,

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we have cravings and all those things
keep us away from the present moment,

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they drive us away from it,
because facing it seems too hard. But

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when you find the courage to stand
still, to embrace your pain, then

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you start to heal and you start
to free yourself from all those distractions that

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rob you of peace and that allows
you to connect with yourself and, of

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course, live a better life.
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episode and without further saying goodbye.
Thank you very much, as always and

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until the next