Soberanía Personal (y un regalo al final del episodio)

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working, writer and lover of personal development.

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In today' s episode we will
talk about the book Sovereignty, a

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book written very recently by Emma Zepala. To be a sovereign person means to

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regain your inner power, means to
be able to live with more freedom,

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free yourself from those social expectations,
from the traumas of the past and from

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limiting beliefs. So the goal of
the book, its central idea is to

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go explaining step by step, how
we can recover that sovereignty by taking the

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steps above. The first thing to
say is that many people struggle against an

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inner critic who carries within and without
and who blocks their potential and exhausts their

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energy. But one thing has to
be understood. There is a huge difference

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between self- criticism and self-
awareness. Self- criticism is hard thoughts

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with yourself that exhaust your mental and
physical well- being. And, obviously,

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in the long run, that way
of thinking, that self- criticism

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is going to give you anxiety,
it' s going to generate depression and

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it' s going to bring you
all the problems you know. Self-

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consciousness, on the other hand,
helps you recognize your flaws without judging them

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as very important, and foster growth
and learning. And this is very different

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from encouraging shame, encouraging self-
criticism and encouraging such a demanding and so

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critical mentality with oneself. What happens
is that human beings have a deep-

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rooted need for social approval, and
this can lead us to change, to

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try to adapt to the expectations of
others and to harm or hide or bury

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our true self. That despair of
belonging to a group can cause a lot

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of stress. So what the book
proposes is that, instead of looking only

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at others to know how you have
to act, the important thing is to

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understand that true belonging begins by accepting
and valuing oneself. That is, there

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is no belonging, there cannot be
if a person has not accepted himself before

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and does not value himself. So
treat yourself with the same kindness you would

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treat a friend or a person you
love a relative with. And when you

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fail or when you make a mistake
that' s inevitable and everyone makes them.

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Don' t fall into that spiral
of self- criticism. Be aware

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of the mistake, but don'
t criticize it. Don' t fall

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for self- criticism. Another important
idea of the Book to regain our personal

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sovereignty is to know, to manage
your emotions. There are many people who

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try to suppress their emotions, or
more than repress them, numb them with

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food with alcohol, with drugs,
even with massive entertainment, even watching a

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football game. But in the end
you realize that' s just a quick

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fix. And that quick fix all
it does is intensify emotions and have negative

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effects on health in the long term. The problem is that society tells us

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that showing emotions, especially in work
environments, is inappropriate and this mistake only

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leads to people repressing their emotions and
repressing your emotions. All he' s

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going to do is increase your stress
and harm your physical health and mental health.

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Instead of repressing your emotions, the
book recommends accepting them and observing them.

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Accepting and observing your emotions without identifying
with them is key to regaining control.

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Try to look at situations that happen
to you from different perspectives or do

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breathing exercises to try to calm your
nervous system and restore rational thinking before acting,

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before responding to a situation that happens
to you. Another way to process

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your emotions can be creativity, you
may learn to manage your emotions through writing,

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through drawing, through music. Expressing
those emotions in a creative way is

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going to bring you much more relief
than exploding, much more than repressing them

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or letting them go, going out
in a violent way or exercising, for

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example, to be able to be
outdoors in another great way, to process

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your emotions in a healthier way.
In the end, the key that the

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book gives us is that your emotional
well- being is in your hands and

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that you can regain control over yourself
and your emotions. Another very important aspect

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to be aware of the type of
media you consume. Focus on content that

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encourages content that inspires you instead of
sitting in front of the television and letting

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others avidate your fear, your anxiety
that throws garbage into your mental garden,

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which is what happens when you put
yourself in front of the television and just

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let others be the ones who manage
and decide the content to which you are

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exposed. Another very important point,
the subject of limiting beliefs. You know

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that beliefs are deeply rooted ideas that
are formed within us from the experiences that

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have happened to us in life or
from social conditioning, for example, with

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the media that we talked about before. And those beliefs can be positive or

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empowering, they can be neutral,
or they can be limiting or negative.

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Those ideas, those beliefs shape everything, shape our perceptions, and therefore shape

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our reactions, and obviously, at
the end of the cycle, they are

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also responsible for the results we get. Then, the book invites us to

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recognize what are the limiting beliefs that
are diminishing our power. Take the time

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to think about them, what things, what preconceived ideas you have in your

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mind that are preventing you from succeeding, that are preventing you from doing what

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you want to do and doing it
in a healthy way. Be nice.

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With yourself understand where those limiting beliefs
come from and then ask yourself if they

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are true. Everyone who' s
from I don' t know what country

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they are. I don' t
know what you' re absurd all the

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short ones are, I don'
t know what else. Many times,

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most of the beliefs we have are
absurd. And another important point to regain

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your personal sovereignty is to establish good
relations with others. People you relate to

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can change your life. Social connections
you already know are vital to your physical

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health and mental health, so take
time to really worry about others, to

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show interest in the people you have
nearby. Offer support, offer kindness,

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offer compassion, understanding, especially in
difficult times, avoid blaming others, forgive

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mistakes that others can make, and
focus on the positive aspects of the whole

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world to create a positive environment in
which you can flourish and not an environment

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in which you are permanently uncomfortable.
In the end, the negative relationships,

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which are those you already know where
your energy is drained instead of sharing your

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energy with the other person. Such
negative relationships often come from unresolved limiting beliefs,

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that is, emotional wounds from the
past. That' s important to

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understand and change. Another vital component
for a positive relationship forgiveness, letting go

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of grudges. Forgiveness already you know
that it is an act of self-

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pity rather than an act in favor
of the other person, because when you

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forgive you are freeing yourself from the
burden of the past, you are improving

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your personal sovereignty. Forgiveness makes you
freer, makes you carry less backpacks,

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less loads. It' s an
even selfish act. If you forgive someone

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else, you' ll be better
off. The other person will necessarily be

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better. Another important point in regaining
your personal sovereignty is to start relying on

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your intuition and, unfortunately, society
seems to have given up intuition in favor

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of the logic of reason. And
it' s a shame. Many times,

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what happens is that we don'
t even have time to listen to

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our intuition, because we don'
t leave a space for silence in our

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day to day, it reduces distractions
in the form of news, opinions,

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entertainment, program dead times in your
agenda, in your day to day to

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allow your mind to have space,
space for what, then, space for

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creativity, space to listen to your
intuition. And that is done, then,

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taking a walk in the park or
listening to music or being silent for

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a while, without needing to be
doing anything. And this is a natural

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need of our body. And another
point the book gives us is precisely related

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to this. Many people live disconnected
from the natural needs of their body and

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there is no sovereignty without physical health
and mental health. It' s like

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personal development or how professional development can' t exist if there isn' t

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a physical and mental health basis before. The problem is that we mistreat our

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bodies in many ways, ignore natural
rhythms, lead a sedentary lifestyle, eat

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unhealthy foods and spend too much time
in artificial environments or surrounded by harmful substances,

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and that has consequences. There'
s no way he doesn' t

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have them. So here the book, in this section gives us the recommendations

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that I think if you listen to
the podcast, you know them. Rest

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well, eat real food, move
tea spends a lot of time in nature.

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He regularly devotes time to reflection,
to meditation, spends some time disconnected,

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enjoys solitude from time to time.
Anyway, I think this part of

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the book I summarized by saying that
he treats your body as an ally,

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not as an enemy. So you
know that. Recover your personal sovereignty,

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change limiting beliefs for empowering beliefs,
manage your emotions, take advantage of your

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intuition, build positive relationships and also, of course, reconnect with your body,

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with your mind and with your spirit
and you will see how your life

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transforms for the better. And before
I say goodbye today, I have some

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news to share with you. This
week I published my first novel. It

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is a historical thriller entitled The Sacred
Table. It is a fictional novel that

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is full of intrigue, of suspense
and, moreover, I have introduced it

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to the contest Amazon Storyteller two thousand
twenty- four, which is something that

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makes me very excited. It'
s my first novel and, besides,

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it' s obviously also the first
I can present to such an important contest.

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So, if you are passionate about
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beginning, in the end I invite
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Table measure and what it is about, because it is a power struggle,

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a novel about power that spans centuries
of history from medieval Spain of the 11th

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century to the dark days of the
Second World War. It is an archaeological

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discovery that happens in a small town
that is also mine and that triggers a

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series of events that connect the secrets
of the war with ancient conspiracies and also

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culminate in an end that I think
is quite surprising. So, if you

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I' ll just say goodbye.
Thank you very much, as always and

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until the next