Marcarnos objetivos (y alcanzarlos)

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio pallar

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Ruiz, a hard- working reader
and lover of personal development. Today I

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want to talk about the importance of
setting goals in our lives and how we

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can achieve those goals. But before
you start, as always, remind yourself

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that you have at your disposal a
compilation of the most relevant ideas and tips

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on personal development in my four own
books. I leave you their link in

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the notes of the episode and also, as many of you have asked me

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how and where to train in personal
development. I tell you what has worked

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for me, which is IPPE'
s master' s degree in personal development

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online, an institute of positive thinking. You know the best training in that

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field. If you want to take
a look at the most free trails,

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I leave you in link in the
notes of the episode and if you have

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decided to change your life, but
you are not yet ready to do a

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master' s degree, I recommend
that you download the ebook for free twenty

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- five habits for economic abundance,
an approved system, step by step with

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which you will get better your relationship
with money so you can start having the

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lifestyle you want. I also leave
your link in the episode notes so you

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can download it. And now we' re going to talk about targets.

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Think about the last time you crossed
a task off your to- do list.

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Surely what happened next is that another
task immediately arose that took its place.

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And this isn' t bad.
This is good. You don'

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t want to have a single goal
in life, because after you get it,

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you might find yourself lost. They
think what happened, for example,

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to the astronauts traveling on the Apollo
ship when they returned from their journey to

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the Moon, unfortunately several of them
fell into a depression because they felt they

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had nothing left to fight for.
And so, today, NASA, as

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part of its training of these astronauts, urges them to have goals to pursue

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them once their missions are completed.
So, if astronauts have targets, how

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can you not have targets? You
who are listening to me or I'

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m talking to you about how we
set those goals, because the first thing

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is to take a notebook. You
can also do it on the computer,

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on an excel sheet. You take
a notebook or excel and think about everything

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you want to get in the next
one to ten years. And then you

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write a list of all the things
you want to get in the next ten

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years as quickly as possible, without
thinking too much about the things that are

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coming out of you. Try to
have about fifty goals in total, about

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when you have them you will assign
each of those objectives to one of these

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four categories a year, three,
years, five years or ten years,

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depending on what you think the time
you think will lead you to achieve that

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goal. I recommend that you balance
that list so you don' t have

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too many goals in any category,
remove items from those categories that have too

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many goals, and add new ones
to those categories that have very few.

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What I' m trying to tell
you is that you don' t have

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all your fifty goals, don'
t put them in the ten- year

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period, report them to you in
one-, three-, five-,

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ten- year periods. Next,
what I' m asking you to

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do is to mark with a circle
or to sub- ray on the extel

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that or to make one that you
put in another color on the extel the

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four most important objectives of each category, four by four. Well, you

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' re gonna have a list at
the end of this exercise, a list

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of sixteen targets in total. Okay, let' s assume those are your

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targets. What I' m going
to ask you to do later is write

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a paragraph on each target. In
the first half of that paragraph, I

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want you to describe exactly what that
goal is, to expand the description or

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name you have given it. And
in the second half of the paragraph,

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what I want you to do is
write down why you want to achieve that

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goal. If what happens to you
is that you can' t think of

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any reason to have that goal,
to want to achieve that goal, then

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that goal doesn' t deserve your
time to erase it and trade it for

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another goal. On the other hand, when you' re clear about your

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goals, you' re going to
have to prepare yourself to achieve them.

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In most fields, people do not
expect to achieve success without spending years studying,

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without spending years practicing, For example, in the field of medicine,

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no one would try to operate on
another person with an open heart without having

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been studying before for years. So
I recommend you create your own walking college.

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And this you can do through books, through videos, through podcasts.

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Find Ile biographies of people who have
achieved what you want to achieve and put

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their teachings into practice And if questions
arise, because obviously you cannot ask a

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book. You can always look for
a person you think has succeeded or is

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where you want to be and invite
them to have coffee, because the price

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of that coffee is going to be
worth it if you take advantage of the

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time and if you ask them the
right questions that you have to prepare in

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advance. Another idea is to attend
lectures, courses, seminars that are taught

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by those people you admire. Pay
close attention to their small gestures, ask

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them about their daily habits, because
if you can identify the habits that successful

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people share, you can use them
in your own life. And, obviously,

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they won' t guarantee you getting
to where they are, but they

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will put you in a much more
favorable context. The idea how you see

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is that the more time you spend
with people, whether with physical presence or

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through their teachings, with people who
are already where you want to get better

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than better. So whatever method you
choose to be close to these people,

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reserve at least thirty minutes a day. I no longer ask you for 30

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minutes a day to learn from them
and even a small part of your income

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every month. On the issue of
income there is a concept that is quite

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simple. Normally, people who have
a balanced budget and who manage their money

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well tend to spend about seventy percent
of their income on their needs. Here

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we go rent, mortgage, food, leisure, etcetera. But there is

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another thirty percent who reserve in a
special way. They reserve that thirty percent

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divided as follows, five percent for
formation, income that you use to train

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in what interests you, another five
percent for charitable works, can already be

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contributing to your community to help those
in need. Whatever you want. With

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that we already have a ten-
five percent formation, five percent charities and

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then another ten percent would go to
savings so that you can accumulate wealth over

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the years and another ten percent that
will invest to create wealth. And here,

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then, there are different ways to
do it. You know, property,

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monetizing hobbies. Anyone, any path
that serves you to create wealth.

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But remember, whatever you earn from
how you spend it, it all starts

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with your personal development. Unfortunately,
we see many people seeking to fulfill their

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goals in life without improving themselves before. And that' s very difficult.

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To increase your value, to get
what you want to do no matter what

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it is, you first have to
develop yourself personally, because if you don

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' t have that point of personal
development, it' s easy for you

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to start blaming others when something happens
to you that you don' t like,

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is that you start making excuses when
you stumble on some obstacle when something

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goes wrong. We already know that
it is much easier to point your finger

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at, rather than accept that the
problem is within yourself. And when you

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do this, you' re hindering
your own improvement, your own personal development.

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Because, after all, if your
problems are never your fault, then

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you have no reason to take responsibility
for your own life and start changing.

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Besides, we all know stories about
celebrities or super rich people who are deeply

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unhappy, even though they seem to
have everything in life. How is that

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possible, because, unfortunately, even
though those people have made so much money,

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they have so many things, they
most likely have never learned to be

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satisfied with what they have. And
that' s personal development, too.

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Remember everything we' ve talked about
in previous episodes about gratitude, and I

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know that there are many people who
already agree with this that money doesn'

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t give happiness. But there are
also many others who continue to assume that

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the money will make them more successful, it will make them feel better.

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The reality is that money cannot change
your character or your general satisfaction with life.

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So if you' re unhappy now
or if you' re insecure now,

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chances are this won' t go
away. If you make a lot

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of money. And now that we
have objectives, we have training, we

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have developed ourselves personally. Now what
it' s about is dividing those goals

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into tasks and organizing your days from
those tasks. You don' t have

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to choose between success with an excessive
workload or mediocrity with enough time to relax

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and do nothing. It' s
not about that. You don' t

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have to go to either end.
You have to devote time to every aspect

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of your life. There' s
time to work, there' s time

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to be with the family, there' s time to do nothing. When

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you spend too much time in one
of the areas of your life, your

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lifestyle gets unbalanced and becomes unsustainable in
the long term. So, to avoid

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this, an essential strategy is to
plan every day before it starts. You

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need a plan, you need a
calendar with plenty of space so you can

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write down what you need to do
every day of the week and every hour

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of the week, without forgetting to
leave time blank to do nothing every day,

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which is also very healthy. This
is difficult if you need a lot

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of discipline to organize. It'
s hard to follow a schedule, as

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it is, too, but if
you try and try it, you'

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ll find that you don' t
need to sacrifice any aspect of your life

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for someone else that fits into your
life. If you organize them well,

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and the last point is your environment, dedicate your time to the right people.

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Our friends, the people around us
tend to influence us. Whether we

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realize this or not. For example, if you surround yourself with people who

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aren' t careful with their money, people who waste, you may as

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well end up wasting. Or if
you surround yourself with people who spend the

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weekend drinking, chances are you'
ll end up drinking, too. People

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with bad habits end up making you
adapt their bad habits, simply because you

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start to see them as normal and
they don' t surprise you. You

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know maybe drinking is bad, but
you start to normalize it, because the

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people around you do it and it
happens the other way around. It'

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s the same thing. If you
surround yourself with people whose habits are to

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exercise and sleep well, then you' re going to end up doing it

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too then what I know, which
is hard to admit that there may be

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people around us who are bad influences. But if you' re honest,

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with yourself, with yourself, you
can eliminate those relationships before they hurt you.

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Or if that' s impossible,
if you can' t eliminate them,

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try at least to spend as little
time as possible with those people and,

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when you' ve eliminated those negative
relationships from your life, the next

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logical step is to make the most
of positive relationships. In this case,

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with those kind of people who told
you before they exercise, sleep, read

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study are formed. What you want
is to expand the time you spend with

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them, spend more time with people
whose mentality affects you positively. That'

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s the idea I want to convey
to you. So you know that.

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You have to have goals for every
aspect of your life. But in order

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to fulfill them, you' re
going to have to train yourself first of

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all in personal development, which is
the basis of everything, and then in

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other fields, obviously related to your
goals. And once you have that foundation,

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you have to divide your goals into
tasks and manage time effectively to balance

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work, family, and free time, in a way that allows you to

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maintain a healthier, more sustainable lifestyle
that leads to a better life. If

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to both things in the notes of
the episode and just say goodbye. Thank

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you very much. As always and
until next time