Diseña (y vive) tu vida ideal

0:05 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I' m Eugenie Valla, reading ruiz, stubborn and loving personal development. We have heard time and again that we have to work very hard if we want to succeed, and that is why we strive hard and commit our personal life to jobs that, in most cases, we do not even enjoy. It shouldn' t be like that. We all have two parts, an inner self, that perceives reality, that feels, that thinks, and an outer self, that is what it does and the key. I think it' s about combining the strengths of both me and the inside and the outside to do things that inspire us. Just as each person has a unique actilar footprint, we also carry unique spiritual footprints that spiritual footprints are created from our first experiences. Everything we' ve been through, the good, the bad, the beautiful, the ugly, everything leaves a mark on us. And the result of these spiritual footprints is a set of values that in our lifetime guide our decisions and behaviors. And they usually do it on an unconscious level. They do it

1:36 even if we don' t know what they' re doing. And those values, from a certain point on, are only going to change when you have an experience that alters your life, a trauma, for example, a death, an accident. Those values are like the constitution that we all carry within Countries have constitutions and we have values. The problem is that in this society very few people know what their values are. Then becoming aware of what your values are is the first step you must take in order to have a direction and to have a clear sense. If you don' t know what your values are, you end up making a career that leads you to a job and leads you to a life of frustration. Instead, if we are aware of our values, it is much easier to know what impact we want to have on the world, what actions we want to carry out, what roles we identify with. But how we discover our values, because the first thing is to identify what are the most important experiences of your life. It ' s a time line and it points out what are the experiences you don ' t forget, experiences for the good or the bad, positive, negative, experiences you wouldn' t go through again, experiences that have made you

3:09 feel happy write them down in detail, what happened, who was present, how you felt and then think about what beliefs emerged from each of those experiences. And those beliefs unite them with values, because I' ve told you before. Values arise from beliefs of that spiritual footprint that we all carry within us based on the experiences we live. When you know what your values are, everything is going to be easier because, because you' re going to look for jobs that match those values, you' re going to reject jobs that don' t fit those values, you' re going to approach people who share those values and reject people who don' t share them. Everything is much simpler. You' re taking off just because you understand your values.

4:04 You' re taking off a lot of mental noise, a lot of work. You' re making your life easier because in the end remember what I say many times, the important thing is not what you do, but why you do it. You have to have a purpose that connects with your emotions and connects with the emotions of others. That is precisely why many people feel attracted to a particular company or brand rather than to others. Think of Apple, which is the typical example given always thinks of Ickea. They have a purpose and that purpose attracts some and frightens others. Then you should have a purpose and once you have that clear purpose, you should articulate it in the form of vision. Vision is what you want and how you' re going to achieve it and for that it looks to the future. And ask yourself where you want to be in three years, what you want to get, who you want to work with, how you want the world to see you. That' s a super powerful exercise, because once you' ve answered these questions, then you' re going to be able to work in retrospect to define what steps you need to take to make that vision a reality.

5:29 And once you have those steps, the next thing you have to do is set quantifiable goals to follow those steps, to reach those steps and, of course, giving you permission to fail, because we know that when people are not afraid of failure they will experience more, and that' s what really leads to important results, to discover new things, and so on. Think of Google. At Google, forty percent of their projects are a failure and they' re okay with it. In the air army. Pilots who shoot down more enemy planes than anyone are also the ones who waste more bullets because they don' t expect to be 100, 100% safe before firing.

6:20 They just see a shot and they do. What does this mean in our lives? In your life it shortens the time it takes you to make decisions. Move faster if it doesn' t work out, at least you ' re going to learn an important lesson that does matter to everyone else' s opinion, but you have to overcome the need to feel important in the eyes of others. And this requires quite a lot of work, because human beings by nature long for approval, but it must be done, we must strive. And the first step to abandoning that need for approval is to want to realize that we are already complete people, that our self- esteem cannot depend on external factors such as failure or cannot depend on someone liking us.

7:20 So make a list of all those things that you really value from IT yourself and focus on enhancing those positive traits. And the next step to abandoning the need for approval is to design a life that is perfect for you. Many people let the family media society influence their way of life and the result is very mediocre. It is a life created to please others and therefore it is a life that will hardly work. And what happens to a lot of people is that eventually you realize that you hate your life. So, to avoid this, you have to sit down and design your life as soon as possible and you have to design it as a true reflection of who you really are.

8:22 And from there, growing and growing is transforming, not learning something new. What' s the difference between growing up and learning. Those who learn or what you learn can forget it very easily. You can be a day or two days and suddenly, you don' t remember what you' ve learned anymore. But transformation is irreversible. A transformation changes your way of seeing the world, modifies your beliefs. What transformation is going to happen, it ' s going to happen in your life, like it happens in all lives, and it' s going to happen in one of these two ways. Either you will experience something very painful that forces you to change, even if you don' t want to or you will change voluntarily and I assure you that in the latter it hurts much less, because it can be done little by little. It can be done through a transformation routine, which is what I invite you today to have your own personal transformation routine. How would be a perfect day in your life. I' m not talking about extreme one - day experiences. I' m not talking about a normal day in your perfect life. Sit down with a paper, with a boley or in front of the computer and write it down with all the details and then ask yourself how your ideal? You have to decide that that' s what you' re your ideal for Write it and decide that you' re that because the

9:56 way you see yourself shapes your experiences in turn. If you have positive beliefs about yourself, your behavior. It' s going to follow the same path, it' s going to follow those beliefs and, therefore, your results as well. So, as I tell you, describe that day and describe that person with all the details, what his beliefs are, what his behaviors are. The ultimate goal is for you to transform your current self and your present self into your ideal self, living your ideal day. Most days, so you know, neither life nor work has to be hard. This is not a valley of tears that we have come to suffer. It is possible to have a happier, more rewarding existence, a better life. In short, that' s what I' m doing this podcast for. How, then, by discovering your values, by first defining your purpose and then, by aligning it, you do your work, your environment with those values and that purpose sets objectives, designs a routine and forget the opinion of others.

11:11 And that all seems very simple to you, but I know it' s very complicated. It' s a process. All that will bring you closer to your ideal self, living an ideal day and, therefore, to a better life. Thank you so much for your attention. See you in the next episode an Embrace?