Diseña (y vive) tu vida ideal

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I' m Eugenie

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Valla, reading ruiz, stubborn and
loving personal development. We have heard time

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and again that we have to work
very hard if we want to succeed,

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and that is why we strive hard
and commit our personal life to jobs that,

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in most cases, we do not
even enjoy. It shouldn' t

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be like that. We all have
two parts, an inner self, that

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perceives reality, that feels, that
thinks, and an outer self, that

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is what it does and the key. I think it' s about combining

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the strengths of both me and the
inside and the outside to do things that

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inspire us. Just as each person
has a unique actilar footprint, we also

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carry unique spiritual footprints that spiritual footprints
are created from our first experiences. Everything

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we' ve been through, the
good, the bad, the beautiful,

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the ugly, everything leaves a mark
on us. And the result of these

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spiritual footprints is a set of values
that in our lifetime guide our decisions and

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behaviors. And they usually do it
on an unconscious level. They do it

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even if we don' t know
what they' re doing. And those

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values, from a certain point on, are only going to change when you

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have an experience that alters your life, a trauma, for example, a

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death, an accident. Those values
are like the constitution that we all carry

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within Countries have constitutions and we have
values. The problem is that in this

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society very few people know what their
values are. Then becoming aware of what

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your values are is the first step
you must take in order to have a

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direction and to have a clear sense. If you don' t know what

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your values are, you end up
making a career that leads you to a

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job and leads you to a life
of frustration. Instead, if we are

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aware of our values, it is
much easier to know what impact we want

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to have on the world, what
actions we want to carry out, what

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roles we identify with. But how
we discover our values, because the first

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thing is to identify what are the
most important experiences of your life. It

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' s a time line and it
points out what are the experiences you don

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' t forget, experiences for the
good or the bad, positive, negative,

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experiences you wouldn' t go through
again, experiences that have made you

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feel happy write them down in detail, what happened, who was present,

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how you felt and then think about
what beliefs emerged from each of those experiences.

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And those beliefs unite them with values, because I' ve told you

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before. Values arise from beliefs of
that spiritual footprint that we all carry within

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us based on the experiences we live. When you know what your values are,

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everything is going to be easier because, because you' re going to

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look for jobs that match those values, you' re going to reject jobs

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that don' t fit those values, you' re going to approach people

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who share those values and reject people
who don' t share them. Everything

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is much simpler. You' re
taking off just because you understand your values.

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You' re taking off a lot
of mental noise, a lot of

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work. You' re making your
life easier because in the end remember what

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I say many times, the important
thing is not what you do, but

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why you do it. You have
to have a purpose that connects with your

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emotions and connects with the emotions of
others. That is precisely why many people

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feel attracted to a particular company or
brand rather than to others. Think of

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Apple, which is the typical example
given always thinks of Ickea. They have

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a purpose and that purpose attracts some
and frightens others. Then you should have

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a purpose and once you have that
clear purpose, you should articulate it in

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the form of vision. Vision is
what you want and how you' re

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going to achieve it and for that
it looks to the future. And ask

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yourself where you want to be in
three years, what you want to get,

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who you want to work with,
how you want the world to see

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you. That' s a super
powerful exercise, because once you' ve

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answered these questions, then you'
re going to be able to work in

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retrospect to define what steps you need
to take to make that vision a reality.

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And once you have those steps,
the next thing you have to do

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is set quantifiable goals to follow those
steps, to reach those steps and,

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of course, giving you permission to
fail, because we know that when people

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are not afraid of failure they will
experience more, and that' s what

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really leads to important results, to
discover new things, and so on.

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Think of Google. At Google,
forty percent of their projects are a failure

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and they' re okay with it. In the air army. Pilots who

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shoot down more enemy planes than anyone
are also the ones who waste more bullets

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because they don' t expect to
be 100, 100% safe before firing.

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They just see a shot and they
do. What does this mean in

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our lives? In your life it
shortens the time it takes you to make

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decisions. Move faster if it doesn' t work out, at least you

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' re going to learn an important
lesson that does matter to everyone else'

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s opinion, but you have to
overcome the need to feel important in the

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eyes of others. And this requires
quite a lot of work, because human

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beings by nature long for approval,
but it must be done, we must

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strive. And the first step to
abandoning that need for approval is to want

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to realize that we are already complete
people, that our self- esteem cannot

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depend on external factors such as failure
or cannot depend on someone liking us.

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So make a list of all those
things that you really value from IT yourself

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and focus on enhancing those positive traits. And the next step to abandoning the

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need for approval is to design a
life that is perfect for you. Many

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people let the family media society influence
their way of life and the result is

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very mediocre. It is a life
created to please others and therefore it is

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a life that will hardly work.
And what happens to a lot of people

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is that eventually you realize that you
hate your life. So, to avoid

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this, you have to sit down
and design your life as soon as possible

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and you have to design it as
a true reflection of who you really are.

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And from there, growing and growing
is transforming, not learning something new.

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What' s the difference between growing
up and learning. Those who learn

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or what you learn can forget it
very easily. You can be a day

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or two days and suddenly, you
don' t remember what you' ve

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learned anymore. But transformation is irreversible. A transformation changes your way of seeing

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the world, modifies your beliefs.
What transformation is going to happen, it

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' s going to happen in your
life, like it happens in all lives,

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and it' s going to happen
in one of these two ways.

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Either you will experience something very painful
that forces you to change, even if

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you don' t want to or
you will change voluntarily and I assure you

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that in the latter it hurts much
less, because it can be done little

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by little. It can be done
through a transformation routine, which is what

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I invite you today to have your
own personal transformation routine. How would be

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a perfect day in your life.
I' m not talking about extreme one

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- day experiences. I' m
not talking about a normal day in your

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perfect life. Sit down with a
paper, with a boley or in front

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of the computer and write it down
with all the details and then ask yourself

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how your ideal? You have to
decide that that' s what you'

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re your ideal for Write it and
decide that you' re that because the

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way you see yourself shapes your experiences
in turn. If you have positive beliefs

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about yourself, your behavior. It' s going to follow the same path,

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it' s going to follow those
beliefs and, therefore, your results

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as well. So, as I
tell you, describe that day and describe

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that person with all the details,
what his beliefs are, what his behaviors

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are. The ultimate goal is for
you to transform your current self and your

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present self into your ideal self,
living your ideal day. Most days,

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so you know, neither life nor
work has to be hard. This is

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not a valley of tears that we
have come to suffer. It is possible

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to have a happier, more rewarding
existence, a better life. In short,

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that' s what I' m
doing this podcast for. How,

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then, by discovering your values,
by first defining your purpose and then,

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by aligning it, you do your
work, your environment with those values and

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that purpose sets objectives, designs a
routine and forget the opinion of others.

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And that all seems very simple to
you, but I know it' s

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very complicated. It' s a
process. All that will bring you closer

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to your ideal self, living an
ideal day and, therefore, to a

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better life. Thank you so much
for your attention. See you in the

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next episode an Embrace?