Como ser un buen líder

0:08 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio Valla, ruiz, reader, hard- working and lover of personal development. Today I want to talk to you about power, but before I begin I also want to remind you that you have at your disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas and advice on personal development in my four own books, you already know them free, healthy and happy, thirty- one days to improve your life, minimalism for normal people and seven steps for a life with purpose. I leave your link in the episode notes just below the play button and also, as many of you have asked me how and where to train in personal development. I tell you what has worked for me is that it is the personal development master' s degree online, from IPP Institute of Positive Thinking.

1:06 You know the best training that exists in this field, the training that covers in depth the six main areas of life, self- knowledge, body and health, emotions, relationships, transcendence and money and professional career. If you want to take a look at the free class mastre without any commitment, I leave your link also in the notes of the episode. Under there, next to my books, and now we' re going to talk about power. We often think that power is something mysterious, something reserved for very intelligent people or people without feelings. It' s often said that if you get too high, it' s because you' re a psychopath. You don' t feel or suffer for others. We think of status, we think of wealth, we think of authority, we think of you titles when we hear the word power. And it is true that many times people with those things, with status, with money, with titles, can be powerful. But so can those people who have no money, no titles, or anything like that. And this happens simply because power exists in all relationships and as we all depend on each other in different ways and in different intensities, we all have some degree of control over each other. We all have power over others.

2:37 Power, in the end, is the role we play in the lives of others. And we all have a role in one way or another even if we don' t think so. For example, a boss has power, obviously because he can decide who works, what projects and how much they are paid. But also an employee who does very well his work under, an employee who is highly sought after in his sector, has the power to negotiate those conditions. Today we hear many times about people who abuse power. Corruption, for example, leads us to think that power brings the worst out of people. But the problem is not power. In most cases, those who corrupt themselves in a position of power, those who abuse that position of power, what happens is that they have certain insecurities. It' s not the power, it' s the person, it' s the human.

3:36 Then they use these people power. They use it as a way to feel better, to cure those insecurities. But great power carries a great responsibility. As they said in Spiderman' s film, as Charchild said, People who are at the top of an organization, whatever it is or at the top of a group or family, have a lot of power and the way they use it is going to have an impact on all members of that group. So, being responsible with that power means using it for the benefit of those around you, for the benefit of the group. To use power well as a leader means to guide, means to care for others, means to raise the people around you, to give them direction, to reinforce the general objectives.

4:38 But a leader must also be an example of good behavior and not just good behavior of a leader. A good leader is expected to act quickly when some of the people below have committed some kind of abuse of power, or become corrupt, etc. When a leader does all this, every person who is part of that team feels happy and will contribute in the way he touches him in the best way possible, he will leave everything. There are three qualities that distinguish a good leader. The first is that he cares more about learning and doing his job well than about moving up quickly. The second is human quality. A good leader cares about others, and not only that, but he is also willing to help others succeed. And the third and final quality of a good leader is that he sees power as a tool to serve others, serve his country, serve his company, serve his family, serve anything. But it is a tool to serve, not to serve. So, when we think about how to use the power we have, be it a lot or a little bit, we should consider how we can help other

6:09 people. The problem is that in our society power is used as a way to pass over others, as a way of imposing respect. There are many people who emphasize their authority. For example, Henry Ford is famous for silencing any employee who contradicts him by simply saying my name. It' s in the building, not yours, so it' s done. What I say clearly before that is difficult to refute. There are also people who use their power to disrupt their subordinates, to ignore them, to imprison them, to put more and more pressure on them. There are also leaders who are dedicated to judging, to criticizing those below. Such leaders, those who use power to reassert their dominance or to intimidate others, are not good leaders. In fact, a feature of good leaders is that they try to seem less powerful than they are. That diminution of power is a way to connect with people, it' s a way to earn their trust. So, these kind of leaders are going to do what they' re going to do, because it' s either make a joke about themselves or ask a subordinate for approval to do something, and these actions are going to diminish the powerful person and

7:40 elevate the people on their team around her and why they do it. Well, because that game of pulling power down is a way of demonstrating the will that leader has to connect with people, not just to control them, not just to tell them what they have to do. They' re also looking to connect. It is a way to show that those in power are more concerned with working together than maintaining or increasing their own status. And this likes people and fosters a relationship of trust. And there are many people who dream of holding positions of power, whether in a company, in a social group, wherever, and sometimes, when they do, they get stage fear.

8:31 People by our very nature, you know how the brain works. We' ve seen it in many episodes of this podcast. People often question our own abilities. We' re worried that others will judge us. If you want to be a leader, but don' t feel like a leader, because you' ll have to behave like the character you want to be, you ' ll have to see the world. From that perspective, imagine how the person you think would behave would be in that position at the time. In particular, imagine how that person would behave and behave exactly the same as the one playing a role. You can help with tricks like changing your dress.

9:20 You might want to adapt it to the person you want to be. It ' s a gesture that seems silly, but it influences how you dress if it influences your behavior. It influences, of course, the answers and the treatment given to you by other people. Another way to treat the anxiety or vertigo of seeing you leading a situation is to rehearse. When you do something over and over again that something becomes a habit. So, when you rehearse your role, you turn those unknown actions into natural behavior and then, little by little, you feel safer about your role. Most people want to be the star of the show, the important one, they want to have more power than anyone else, but the reality is that not all of us are going to be able to be protagonists, just as not all of us can be the Director General of our company, so that everything works properly for everyone, both those who have power and those who have other power, the primary actors, the protagonist reactors and the secondary actors, we have to play our role. And I already say both the protagonists and the secondary actors have power.

10:39 They have different power in different areas, but they both have power. So, if right now you' re playing a secondary role in a given group or in your work, in your company, in your venture, if you have to do that supporting role, give priority to the team' s mission. Any group has a general objective, which is why everyone is there. Not then each function is supposed to be designed to help the company or group approach that goal. But people don' t usually see it that way. People often see the more secondary, more subordinate, more supportive functions, as a stepping stone to reach something that is larger to ascend. And this is a mistake. When you' re in a position, whatever it is, whether it' s supportive or not, your goal should always be to create positive results for the group, that is, to focus on the mission and support that mission, not just to promote, to promote, to move on to the next step. And when you adopt that mindset, when you do your job well aligned with the mission, you' re going to earn the trust of your peers, you' re going to earn the trust of your superiors. And surely that step over the top damage will come on its own without the need for you to force it. So you know, we all have some kind of power with which we influence each other' s lives

12:11 and that power carries a great responsibility and that' s why we need to know how and when to use it. Use your power for the benefit of others. Give them an address to have unblemished behavior or take no importance. If you' ve just acquired that power, whatever it is and it gives you a little vertigo, behave yourself, like that person who fits the paper perfectly. Speak like her, act like her, dress like her, and take time to rehearse your role. And if it' s your turn to be a secondary character in this show. Today, at the moment we are, it gives priority to the mission of the team, rather than trying to take on the leading role at all costs. Using well the power you have at every moment, much or little, is one of the best tools to start living better. If you liked this episode, please give it to me, share it on social networks or visit three wwws. Point ideas to live better. Punto com There you can subscribe and download for free a copy of my latest book, Seven Steps to a Purposeful Life. And if you want to learn a lot more and train in personal development with the best experts, check out the free class master' s degree in personal development online from ipp

13:45 TE. I leave your link in the episode notes. There, under my books and without further ado I say goodbye. Thank you very much, as always and until the next two ss sss