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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Valla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to talk to you about
power, but before I begin I also

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to my books, and now we' re going to talk about power.

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We often think that power is something
mysterious, something reserved for very intelligent people

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or people without feelings. It'
s often said that if you get too

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high, it' s because you' re a psychopath. You don'

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t feel or suffer for others.
We think of status, we think of

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wealth, we think of authority,
we think of you titles when we hear

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the word power. And it is
true that many times people with those things,

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with status, with money, with
titles, can be powerful. But

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so can those people who have no
money, no titles, or anything like

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that. And this happens simply because
power exists in all relationships and as we

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all depend on each other in different
ways and in different intensities, we all

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have some degree of control over each
other. We all have power over others.

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Power, in the end, is
the role we play in the lives

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of others. And we all have
a role in one way or another even

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if we don' t think so. For example, a boss has power,

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obviously because he can decide who works, what projects and how much they

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are paid. But also an employee
who does very well his work under,

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an employee who is highly sought after
in his sector, has the power to

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negotiate those conditions. Today we hear
many times about people who abuse power.

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Corruption, for example, leads us
to think that power brings the worst out

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of people. But the problem is
not power. In most cases, those

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who corrupt themselves in a position of
power, those who abuse that position of

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power, what happens is that they
have certain insecurities. It' s not

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the power, it' s the
person, it' s the human.

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Then they use these people power.
They use it as a way to feel

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better, to cure those insecurities.
But great power carries a great responsibility.

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As they said in Spiderman' s
film, as Charchild said, People who

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are at the top of an organization, whatever it is or at the top

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of a group or family, have
a lot of power and the way they

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use it is going to have an
impact on all members of that group.

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So, being responsible with that power
means using it for the benefit of those

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around you, for the benefit of
the group. To use power well as

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a leader means to guide, means
to care for others, means to raise

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the people around you, to give
them direction, to reinforce the general objectives.

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But a leader must also be an
example of good behavior and not just

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good behavior of a leader. A
good leader is expected to act quickly when

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some of the people below have committed
some kind of abuse of power, or

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become corrupt, etc. When a
leader does all this, every person who

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is part of that team feels happy
and will contribute in the way he touches

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him in the best way possible,
he will leave everything. There are three

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qualities that distinguish a good leader.
The first is that he cares more about

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learning and doing his job well than
about moving up quickly. The second is

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human quality. A good leader cares
about others, and not only that,

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but he is also willing to help
others succeed. And the third and final

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quality of a good leader is that
he sees power as a tool to serve

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others, serve his country, serve
his company, serve his family, serve

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anything. But it is a tool
to serve, not to serve. So,

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when we think about how to use
the power we have, be it

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a lot or a little bit,
we should consider how we can help other

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people. The problem is that in
our society power is used as a way

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to pass over others, as a
way of imposing respect. There are many

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people who emphasize their authority. For
example, Henry Ford is famous for silencing

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any employee who contradicts him by simply
saying my name. It' s in

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the building, not yours, so
it' s done. What I say

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clearly before that is difficult to refute. There are also people who use their

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power to disrupt their subordinates, to
ignore them, to imprison them, to

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put more and more pressure on them. There are also leaders who are dedicated

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to judging, to criticizing those below. Such leaders, those who use power

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to reassert their dominance or to intimidate
others, are not good leaders. In

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fact, a feature of good leaders
is that they try to seem less powerful

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than they are. That diminution of
power is a way to connect with people,

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it' s a way to earn
their trust. So, these kind

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of leaders are going to do what
they' re going to do, because

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it' s either make a joke
about themselves or ask a subordinate for approval

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to do something, and these actions
are going to diminish the powerful person and

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elevate the people on their team around
her and why they do it. Well,

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because that game of pulling power down
is a way of demonstrating the will

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that leader has to connect with people, not just to control them, not

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just to tell them what they have
to do. They' re also looking

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to connect. It is a way
to show that those in power are more

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concerned with working together than maintaining or
increasing their own status. And this likes

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people and fosters a relationship of trust. And there are many people who dream

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of holding positions of power, whether
in a company, in a social group,

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wherever, and sometimes, when they
do, they get stage fear.

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People by our very nature, you
know how the brain works. We'

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ve seen it in many episodes of
this podcast. People often question our own

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abilities. We' re worried that
others will judge us. If you want

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to be a leader, but don' t feel like a leader, because

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you' ll have to behave like
the character you want to be, you

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' ll have to see the world. From that perspective, imagine how the

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person you think would behave would be
in that position at the time. In

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particular, imagine how that person would
behave and behave exactly the same as the

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one playing a role. You can
help with tricks like changing your dress.

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You might want to adapt it to
the person you want to be. It

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' s a gesture that seems silly, but it influences how you dress if

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it influences your behavior. It influences, of course, the answers and the

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treatment given to you by other people. Another way to treat the anxiety or

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vertigo of seeing you leading a situation
is to rehearse. When you do something

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over and over again that something becomes
a habit. So, when you rehearse

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your role, you turn those unknown
actions into natural behavior and then, little

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by little, you feel safer about
your role. Most people want to be

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the star of the show, the
important one, they want to have more

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power than anyone else, but the
reality is that not all of us are

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going to be able to be protagonists, just as not all of us can

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be the Director General of our company, so that everything works properly for everyone,

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both those who have power and those
who have other power, the primary

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actors, the protagonist reactors and the
secondary actors, we have to play our

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role. And I already say both
the protagonists and the secondary actors have power.

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They have different power in different areas, but they both have power.

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So, if right now you'
re playing a secondary role in a given

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group or in your work, in
your company, in your venture, if

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you have to do that supporting role, give priority to the team' s

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mission. Any group has a general
objective, which is why everyone is there.

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Not then each function is supposed to
be designed to help the company or

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group approach that goal. But people
don' t usually see it that way.

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People often see the more secondary,
more subordinate, more supportive functions,

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as a stepping stone to reach something
that is larger to ascend. And this

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is a mistake. When you'
re in a position, whatever it is,

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whether it' s supportive or not, your goal should always be to

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create positive results for the group,
that is, to focus on the mission

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and support that mission, not just
to promote, to promote, to move

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on to the next step. And
when you adopt that mindset, when you

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do your job well aligned with the
mission, you' re going to earn

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the trust of your peers, you' re going to earn the trust of

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your superiors. And surely that step
over the top damage will come on its

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own without the need for you to
force it. So you know, we

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all have some kind of power with
which we influence each other' s lives

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and that power carries a great responsibility
and that' s why we need to

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know how and when to use it. Use your power for the benefit of

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others. Give them an address to
have unblemished behavior or take no importance.

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If you' ve just acquired that
power, whatever it is and it gives

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you a little vertigo, behave yourself, like that person who fits the paper

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perfectly. Speak like her, act
like her, dress like her, and

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take time to rehearse your role.
And if it' s your turn to

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be a secondary character in this show. Today, at the moment we are,

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it gives priority to the mission of
the team, rather than trying to

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take on the leading role at all
costs. Using well the power you have

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at every moment, much or little, is one of the best tools to

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