10 ideas para evitar las distracciones

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to share with you ten
tricks to avoid falling into the typical distractions

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that separate you from a life with
purpose. Before starting, as always,

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remind you that you have at your
disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas

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about personal development in my four books, also that if you want to train

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in personal development in depth, I
tell you what has worked for me,

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positive thinking. You know the best
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I leave you the link to my
books, to the master' s

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clash of personal development and to free
Libook in the episode notes, and now

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we' re going to talk about
avoiding distractions. The ability to maintain concentration

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is key to professional success and personal
success. If you' re distracted,

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you' re hardly going to be
able to finish that book you want to

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write, you' re hardly going
to be able to translate your business plan

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into a paper or an excel or
you' re hardly going to be able

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to even taste the time you spend
with your friends, with your family,

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with your loved ones. The ability
to maintain attention has become the most important

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skill of the twenty- first century. Thus, of course, the ability

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to maintain attention is the most important
skill in the twenty- first century.

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But why do we get distracted by
a regular suspect who always comes up with

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conversations is technology, but it'
s not entirely true. Stopping using your

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mobile phone, your computer, your
devices is not necessarily going to make you

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stop distracting humans. We get distracted
in many ways. We can be distracted

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by doing rabble on a paper,
we can be distracted by counting the books

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on a shelf. Anyway, our
brains are masters in that art of inventing

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ways of distracting ourselves and distraction is
the opposite of attraction. The attraction pushes

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us forward, we are either s
or s NS. Press to pursue our

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goals and distraction does the opposite.
It takes us away from those targets.

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But distraction can start from the outside
in, for example, when we get

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a notification on the mobile and in
that case the technology does play an important

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role, but it can also start
and usually starts from the inside out,

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for example, when we feel we
are bored, when we feel that we

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are stressed, and then we seek
to distract ourselves with anything. And obviously,

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nowadays, that anything we carry in
our pocket and it' s called

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a mobile phone, but that'
s precisely why, because the distraction starts

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many times inside out. We cannot
blame technology alone for such distractions. Actually,

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if you think about it right,
when we get distracted, what we

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' re trying to do is try
to escape. We' re trying to

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escape something comfortable. We' re
trying to escape some kind of personal dissatisfaction

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and technology is just a very comfortable
way to do it. But we insist

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on blaming him and don' t
look at what the underlying problem is,

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what the real problem is, which
is that personal dissatisfaction that leads us to

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reach out to our pocket and grab
the mobile phone. The bad news here

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is that, evolutionaryly we are predisposed
we are prepared to be dissatisfied. That

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is precisely why our ancestors kept learning, continued to grow and ultimately survived.

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That' s why we' re
here because of the dissatisfaction of our ancestors.

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That is why human beings are dissatisfied
beings, because our ancestors did not

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conform to their fate, they were
not conformists, they were dissatisfied by themselves

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and so they continued to progress.
And today, thousands of years later,

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that heritage manifests itself in that tendency
that we have to see things in a

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negative way. We quickly get bored
of things, even if they go well,

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etc. And it is that dissatisfaction, precisely that is embedded in our

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genes that makes us vulnerable to distraction. Then there are ten things. Ten

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tricks we can do to avoid distracting
ourselves. The first thing, as always,

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is to become aware the next time
you feel like you want to be

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distracted, grab a pen, grab
a paper and see scoring what you feel

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and what has triggered it. You
have to be aware of what triggers your

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distractions are. If you start doing
this, you' re going to learn

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to identify what those triggers are,
and then you can start avoiding them.

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You can start avoiding situations that lead
to distraction. The second trick is to

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make your homework more fun. Many
times, the only reason we resort to

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apps or games on our phones is
very simple. These things are designed to

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be attractive have a system that is
incredibly effective of rewards and challenges. So,

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what I propose is that you apply
that idea of rewards and challenges to

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your day- to- day tasks, for example, your household chores that

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make them somewhat more interesting. I
don' t know you can each apply

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it as you like, but,
for example, why not do one,

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why not do the challenge of completing
a domestic task in record time The third

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or third trick you can do is
to control your thoughts. You know what

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you think of yourself has a huge
impact on what you' re capable of

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accomplishing. If you tell yourself that
you can' t resist distractions that you

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don' t have self- control, it' s very likely that this

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will become a self- fulfilling prophecy. When you hear that critical inner voice,

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try to talk to yourself the same
way you would talk to a good

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friend, remind yourself that you have
the power to overcome distractions that you are

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not. So no one is in
any way. We just do it in

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a certain way. Then make an
identity pact. A pact of identity with

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yourself commit to living according to what
you want, according to a positive picture

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of your future. I, if
you define yourself as a person who doesn

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' t get distracted, you'
re much more likely not to get distracted.

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Third trick, you have to know
why you don' t want to

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be distracted. The problem is that
if you don' t know what you

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aspire to, it' s impossible
to know what distractions prevent you from getting

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what you don' t know you
want. And that' s why it

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' s so important to have a
plan. And the key to having an

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effective plan is to plan your time, manage your time, reserve specific gaps

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in your schedule every week to make
the task determination. And this doesn'

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t always guarantee you' re going
to meet your goals. There are things

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beyond your control. If one morning
you plan to write and you have no

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inspiration, you will not write the
words you had planned that day, but

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what does guarantee you. Having a
temporary planning is a framework that makes success

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possible. It doesn' t mean
you' re gonna make it, but

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it makes it possible otherwise. It' s impossible. In other words,

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if you don' t control your
time. It' s quite possible you

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don' t get what you'
ve planned. The fifth trick is to

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always start planning from your personal life. You have to plan the first quality

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time for yourself. The reasoning is
simple. If you don' t take

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care of everything else, from your
job to your marriage, he' ll

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resent it. You have to start
by saving yourself enough time to eat,

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to sleep, to exercise, to
devote yourself to some hobby, and then,

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after planning your personal time, you
plan the time for your important personal

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relationships. This is very important,
because putting them in the foreground is what

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will allow those relationships to survive instead
of, as most people do, giving

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those relationships just the time you have
left and when you have done this.

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When you have planned your personal priorities
and relationships priorities, then you already plan

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the job. One of the most
common symptoms of dysfunctionality at work is the

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way in which more and more companies
are eating employees' free time. We

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are in the age of mobile phones, we are in the age of unlimited

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connectivity and more and more companies expect
all their workers to be on call and

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to respond to emails, to answer
job- related questions 24 hours a day.

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And if you resist doing it,
then you feel like you can run

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out of work at any moment.
But the real problem with this isn'

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t technology. Once again, we
blame him for the technology. And it

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' s not like that. Blame
has it a culture in which time is

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mismanaged, in which workers are overburdened
and in which, of course, that

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overload leads them to be distracted because
they have to escape from that overload in

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some way. And I don'
t understand you may not have the luxury

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of setting your own work schedule,
but that doesn' t mean you can

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' t control how you spend your
time at work. So what I'

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m inviting you to do is to
reserve at least two hours in the morning

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to focus on solo work, to
make your big rock. Your most important

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task of the day at the professional
level, the sixth Council, is to

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know, manage your email. Today, the average clerk receives about fifty emails

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a day, and the problem is
that that amount ends up creating addiction,

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because receiving email provides what is called
variable reward, provides surprises. As you

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never know what is going to appear
in your inbox, you feel somewhat motivated,

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forced to continue to review it,
to give to the faith five continuously.

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So the idea is that you sort
emails into two separate folders, that

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you place the emails that require an
answer that day in a folder we'

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re going to call today, and
the emails that only require an answer during

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the week go to a second folder. Then that day you take care of

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those that are in the folder today
only and reserve a space in your week

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to take care of those that have
gone to the weekly folder. The result

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of doing this, which is very
simple, is that you will have fewer

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emails to put your attention to each
day. The seventh Trick, the seventh

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Council, is that, apart from
useless meetings, there are many meetings that

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lead nowhere. Then whenever you can
escape, run away from them. In

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fact, meetings should only happen when
the convener has a detailed agenda, an

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agenda and, in addition, a
brief summary of what is to be discussed.

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If we did all that, the
cost of preparing a meeting would increase

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so much that the likelihood of unnecessary
meetings being scheduled would be greatly reduced.

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If that' s not the case, consider whether you need to be at

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those meetings or not and if you
don' t need it, escape as

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far as you can. The eighth
tip is to avoid losing yourself on the

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Internet. So, if you see
that there is news or there are articles

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that interest you, that you want
to read them, but that would take

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you time to work on what you
have to do at that time there is

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a choice. There is an app
called pocket that saves those items on your

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phone and then you can use a
voice function, so that you read them

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while you do something else, for
example, while you walk out and that

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way kills your birds with one shot
you, you keep in shape walking and

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avoid distracting yourself in times when you
should not be distracted. The ninth point

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is to spend time ordering your phone
and computer if they are full, like

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most phones and computers, if they
are full of apps that you use very

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little or you don' t use. It' s time to clean up.

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It gets rid of everything you don' t use regularly in the digital

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world works just like in the physical
world. What you don' t normally

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use doesn' t have to be, you don' t have to accumulate

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it. And what you have left
with is because you do use it.

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You have to pray in such a
way that it is easy to access it.

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When you need it, put the
time- consuming apps, Facebook,

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Twitter, Instagram as far away as
possible. If you can be disconnected from

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the phone and keep it only,
for example, on the computer, because

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just by doing that you will reduce
the time you spend on them. And

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there is also another application that I
recommend, which is self control. Selff

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Control is an application that blocks your
access to websites that distract you. And

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the tenth and final advice is about
children. What happens to children today,

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who are so long stuck to a
screen instead of wanting to go outdoors with

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friends, etcetera. Why are they
so dependent on stimuli and digital devices,

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Because experts tell us that is what
they depend on is that it is to

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give excessive technological stimuli. It is
a fairly reliable indicator of psychological malnutrition,

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because, like adults, children need
three things to be satisfied in life.

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They need autonomy, that is,
the ability to make decisions without anyone coercing

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them. Second, they need to
feel competent, the ability to learn and

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improve, and thirdly, they need
to relate to others. To relate to

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others in a meaningful way. And, unfortunately, today there are many children

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who do not get any of those
three things in their real life. At

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school. They are suffocated by rules
at home, suffocated by their parents'

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expectations, and, worse, they
spend less and less free time with their

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friends. So, if we add
all this up, it' s no

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wonder that children turn to the online
world. Why, because it is the

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only space they have to be able
to wander freely and basically have autonomy,

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to have competition and to relate to
others, because nowadays you already know that

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games are played online, not played
individually. So, if you want your

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kids to put aside those digital distractions, you need to make sure you'

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re giving them the psychological nutrients they
need to grow autonomy, competence, and

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good relationships with others. So you
know, we often hold technology responsible for

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our current crisis of attention, but
the problem is much more complex, it

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goes much further. If you really
want to stop being distracted, you have

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to write down your triggers, you
have to make an identity pact with yourself,

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you have to control your thoughts,
have clear goals, make your tasks

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a little more fun, start planning
your days from your personal life and not

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from work. You also have to
manage email in a correct way. You

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have to run away from the useless
meetings. You can' t get lost

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on the Internet and you have to
keep your phone tidy and do this if

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you have children, extend this to
your children. You have to give them

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the psychological nutrients they need, autonomy, competence, and relationships. A life

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without distractions is certainly a better life. If you liked this episode, please

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books in the notes of the episode
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much, as always and until the
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