Ser el arquitecto de tu realidad

0:08 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio pallar Ruiz, reader, hard- working and lover of personal development. Today I want to talk to you about how we can become the architects of our own reality. And before you start, as always, remind yourself that you have at your disposal a compilation of the most relevant ideas and tips on personal development. In my four books you already know them free, healthy and happy, thirty- one days to improve your life, minimalism for normal people and seven steps for a purposeful life. I leave you their link link to all of them in the notes of the episode and also since in many of you have asked me how and where to form a personal development. I tell you what has worked for me, which is the personal development master' s degree online, from IPP' s Institute of Positive Thinking. You know what. I think it is the best training that exists in this field, because Kom covers in depth the six main areas of life, self- knowledge, body and health, emotions, relationships, transcendence and money and career. If you want to take a look at your free master clash, I leave the link also below in the description of the episode, in the notes, a little lower

1:40 than the play button next to my books. And now we are going to talk about how we can become the architect of our own reality. We all have glasses that we wear to see reality. Each of our brains has its own way of decoding everything it perceives through the senses. It is in our neural networks within the brain, where we store beliefs, memories, experiences and when we submit to a stimulus, these networks are activated and that activation causes emotions to be generated in us. And those emotions, in turn, give rise to thoughts. And those thoughts, in turn, give rise to words we say or actions we take, that is, things we do or don ' t do. And those words we say or things we do or don ' t do, lead us to achieve some results or others and all that together, all that process, from perception to what we do. All that builds our reality and, of course, these neural networks are different for each of us. That' s why every person sees life in a different way.

3:12 That is why we perceive the same objective reality in a different way. If I see a tree, I perceive it in a different way than how you perceive it, because what we perceive as reality does not necessarily correspond to what it really is, but rather to who we are. So the key to transforming your reality is to transform that filter, to change the neural networks that we use by default, to decode the reality that we perceive by the senses. When we' re kids, we' re real, but as we grow up. Our parents, our teachers, are transmitting their own beliefs to us. And those beliefs are often based on fears that they themselves have, sometimes with reason and sometimes with no reason. And this on a large scale in all the people we inhabit on the planet is what we normally call the system, which is really nothing but a generalized perception, which is of a mental nature. So sometimes you have to get rid of that system.

4:38 If what we want is to transform our reality. And to get rid of that system you have the first thing you have to transform are some of your beliefs. In reality, beliefs are neither good nor bad, neither true nor false. The important thing about beliefs is whether they are limited before or empowering. So think about whether what you think is benefiting you or hurting you, whether it' s driving the best out of you or not. From time to time, it is good to do a review of our beliefs. It is good to identify those that no longer serve you and to consciously choose those that you want to adopt because they do serve you. Think that changing a belief can completely transform your life, it can also transform even your personal identity, because, behind any kind of obstacle, behind any kind of fear of conflict, always, there is always an underlying belief. Remember also what we talked about in the episode about the PNL, about neurolinguistic programming. The map is not the territory. Each person elaborates a mental map that allows him to orient himself in that vast territory that is life all human beings. No exception.

6:12 We do this and build a map means that we generalize, that we omit and that we distort certain aspects of reality. And this means that there is no single reality. It means that there are multiple realities that vary according to individual perspectives, but all these individual perspectives remain maps. And a map, by its own definition, cannot encompass all the complexity of reality. So, in addition to reviewing our beliefs, as I told you before, understanding that our interpretation of reality is just a map, we have to do something else, which is to modify our thinking patterns that in the penis are called metaprograms. Stop operating in automatic mode, try different approaches, try to do things differently. If what you want are different results, if you keep repeating the same actions, you will get the same results. And we know that, and yet we tend to hold on to the known, to what we ' ve already experienced, and what usually happens is that we get exactly the exact same result over and over again part of that process that you can play

7:46 if you want to get different results is how you communicate you have to know that it' s impossible not to communicate constantly. We are transmitting information to others, even if we do not want to, because human beings communicate on a conscious and unconscious level. We communicate verbally and non- verbally. Then the key is to adapt your way of communicating to the environment you are in. Become an outside observer when you touch and implicate yourself emotionally when you need to. Neither of these two ways of communicating, which are a little bit the two extremes, neither is better than the other, But the good thing, what I propose is that you be able to use them at your whim that you do not automatically jump one way of communicating or another, but that you be free to use them when it suits you, just as we talked about personality traits in the episode. Another point to consider. If you want to improve your results, it is to understand that the body, the mind and the emotions are connected, even if we sometimes overlook this reality, so if you modify one you modify the others. That' s why I always

9:16 tell you that everything starts in the body, neglects it with a bad diet, neglects it with lack of exercise, all that disconnects us not only from our body, disconnects us also from our mind and our emotions, which, in the end is as much as saying that we disconnect from ourselves. And of course you' ll say, here we' re talking about getting results, but what results we' re talking about. We' re talking about money, no, we' re not talking about money, or we' re not just talking about money. The result to which I refer is inner peace, which, by the way, is the only thing that has the ability to make us feel realized. When we get that inner peace, we understand that we don' t really need that much. We need nothing but a few basic things. We realize that binding our happiness to the material is a trap, because when you do, you always want more. You will never feel completely satisfied and, above all, when you live thinking about the material, you move away from the present, which in reality you already know is all that matters, because neither the past nor the future exist The true result. True freedom is to have inner peace, because when you have it,

10:46 you no longer depend on the outside world. You don' t need anything anymore. You don' t need anything anymore. And that state of not needing is maximum freedom. And there are still many people who think that freedom is linked to economic, financial freedom. That state of not needing frees us from fear frees us from fear of what we do not have, frees us from fear of losing what we have and also frees us from fear of not being happy without having certain things. But it also frees us from anger because when we fear nothing, there is no reason to be angry, or to criticize another person, or when someone tries to hurt us, there is no reason to be offended. No one can harm anyone who has conquered his inner peace. That person with inner peace, if he sees that something is broken, he rebuilds it, if he sees that something goes wrong, nothing happens, because he understands that everything is for something, that everything has a motive or even if we cannot understand it, but eye, having inner peace does not imply rejecting the material. It' s not one thing or the other. They are not incompatible in fact, people who have inner peace will enjoy the material more than anyone else, because neither the material possesses them nor

12:20 they have the feeling of possessing the material, because these people with inner peace understand that, deep down, we do not own anything. And that' s freedom, too. Their connection to material things is voluntary, not of necessity. They don' t need things voluntarily. They get those things because they bring something, but they don' t need them. They don' t need anything to feel happy or to feel complete. And that' s why I don' t think it' s a good idea to work exclusively for money. What' s a good idea is to make money by doing things that make you passionate, doing things that you' re good at, doing things that serve others because that' s when you' re closest to getting that inner peace. Remember that the order of life follows this course.

13:20 First, be, second, do, third have. So, having is still a natural consequence if we have followed the previous steps in coherence, if we have first been and then done something that is in line with who we are. So, for putting it down to the practical aspect, think about whether you would continue to do the same thing you do on a day- to- day basis. If they' ll stop paying you. For example, your boss comes tomorrow and tells you you won' t be able to pay you any more to get your job done, you' d probably keep working on it no, so what would you do, since they won' t pay you? Think about how you' d change your life if you said you wouldn' t keep doing it. That' s because you' re not really proud of what you do on a day- to- day basis, which is what happens to a lot of people and that' s probably getting noticed in every aspect of your life. People notice when the other person, the person in front of us, is proud of himself or not, even if we don' t say it openly, because we' re all very polite and we' re not going to say it. But think about life in another way or in a way that you can be proud of,

14:52 not to impress anyone, but to impress yourself, because when you have a good concept of yourself, others perceive it and others treat you the same way you do. You' re treating yourself. If they perceive that you are at ease in your skin and circumstances, they will treat you better than if they see that you are screwed, frustrated, etcetera. Return once again to the same idea that I exposed to you at the beginning. The world is not as it is, but as you are. All this, as you can see, is closely related. So, if there' s something you want in life and you haven' t done it yet, you have to structure your days so that all your actions, all your thoughts, all your words are aligned with that goal and repeat one day and another day and another day. In the end, this is habits and more habits and acting like this, you' re going to have results, even if things go wrong, you' re not going to have a font, maybe you' re going to have results, just like for a muscle to grow in the gym, you have to submit to more resistance than you can bear, because the same happens with people. In order to grow personally, you need to face challenges you haven' t faced before. Overcoming those difficulties, those challenges

16:25 are what will enable us to grow. The key is not to try to avoid failures or frustrations. The key is to become a person more and more able to face those challenges, those frustrations. And there are many people who do the opposite, who try to avoid those activities or those things in which they can fail or which can generate frustration. And what really makes us feel alive and makes us feel good and makes us grow is just. Otherwise, we are facing ever greater challenges so that we can continue to grow. The day you stop feeling frustrated, you' ll be dead, you' ll have stopped growing and if it goes well, fine. But in reality, the process is the only thing that really matters more than the result itself.

17:29 So you know, reality is formed through our beliefs, our emotions, our thoughts, our words and our actions. It' s a chain. So, to change our reality, we can act in different parts of the process, for example, by going to the beginning and changing our limiting beliefs to more empowering ones. We can also improve the relationship with our body, because taking care of it. We are taking care of our mind and our emotions. When we make changes, positive changes improve our results. But the result we must seek is not only the material result, but inner peace, because, as we have explained, inner peace is the only thing that can guarantee us to be free and live a better life. If you liked this episode, please give it to like share social networks or visit three WWS. Point ideas to live better. Here you can subscribe and download for free a copy of my latest book, Seven steps for a life with purpose and if you want to learn much more and train in personal development with the best experts, check out the free master class of the personal development master, online, of IPP of possible institute of thought. I' ll leave you his link in

19:02 the episode notes. A little bit lower in the description next to my books and I just said goodbye. Thank you very much, as always and until the next