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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today,

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in this episode we are going to
talk about the book what successful people

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do before breakfast written by Laura Benderham, But first as always, remind you

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that you have at your disposal a
compilation of the best ideas, of the

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best tips on personal development. In
my four own books, you already know

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them free, healthy and happy,
thirty- one days to improve your life,

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minimalism for normal people and seven steps
for a purposeful life. You already

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know that you have them available on
Amazon and that I leave you their link

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in the notes of the episode.
And now we' re going to talk

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about what successful people do before breakfast. We all want to have more time

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to do what really matters to us. For some it will involve exercising.

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For others it may involve reading or
it may be spending a few hours on

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a project with purpose. But it' s very easy to allow obligations,

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daily tasks to distract us and when
we' re finally done answering emails,

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doing household chores, etc, all
we' re going to want to do

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is throw ourselves in front of the
TV. Therefore, to avoid this,

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the book tells us that morning is
the ideal time to pursue our goals.

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Which at dawn the world is calm. It' s the perfect time for

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almost everything. He tells us about
the case of James Citring, who is

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the director of a heat hunting agency
and this gentleman interviewed a group of senior

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executives about his morning routines and out
of every twenty eighteen had something in common.

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They got up before six in the
morning. But a good morning routine

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is to devote time to tasks that
are not going to give us an immediate

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reward, but that in the long
run can have an impact on our lives.

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That is, instead of taking care
of everyday tasks such as washing clothes

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or joining meetings that neither come nor
go to us, a good morning routine

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consists of doing things that will allow
us to grow and develop over time.

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For example, we can devote time
to a creative project, for example,

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writing a book, etc, activities
that cannot be completed at once. But

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if we stay committed to it and
follow a program, we' ll be

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able to make a real difference.
And this is precisely the strategy followed by

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the most successful people every day invests
in their mornings in cultivating one of these

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three areas, either the professional career, or personal relationships, or their personal

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development. Let' s start with
the professional career. Having a successful professional

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career does not simply imply answering emails
as soon as they reach your inbox.

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It' s about spending time on
activities that you' re usually not going

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to be able to do during your
normal day. And an effective way to

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do this is by reserving your mornings
to do that main job the most important

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thing you have to do in the
day. This gives you time and space,

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and both are necessary to focus completely
on your task without constantly worrying about

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interruptions. And professional development is fine, but it' s not the only

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pillar, as you know, that' s going to sustain a better life.

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Personal relationships are just as important.
How many times you' ve come

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home after work and felt too exhausted
to enjoy quality moments with your family.

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If this is your case, you
can also use mornings to cultivate your relationships.

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If you think about it carefully,
mornings are a good opportunity to spend

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time with our family. There are
many ways to do this, for example,

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by turning breakfast into a family meal, which is something the book proposes

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to us. And this brings us
the third pillar, which is personal care.

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Time for oneself is usually one of
the first things we sacrifice when we

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have less time, and the solution
is to find that time, that time

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for our own needs in the mornings, that time to ask ourselves what really

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matters and, as I told you, for some it will be training for

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a marathon, for others to read
more, for others to write, meditate,

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paint, whatever your passion. If
you wake up earlier, you get

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time to do it. Now comes
the most important question. How I begin

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to put into practice a new morning
routine, as the book tells us that

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everything starts by beginning to record how
you spend your time during the week,

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because a week has one hundred and
sixty- eight hours and you have to

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know what you are spending so many
hours. Many people think they know what

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their hours are for, but it
is normal that we overestimate some activities,

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such as in their sleep and underestimate
others, such as household chores, for

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example. So you have to have
a realistic view of how we use that

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time. I' m telling you, we tend to overestimate the time it

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takes for us to perform tasks that
we don' t like and we underestimate

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the time we spend doing what we
do like. That' s the first

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step, keeping that record. Second
step is simple imagine your ideal morning,

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write how the perfect start of the
day would be, very simple. And

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the third step is to analyze all
the logistics, that is, to think

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if that ideal morning routine is feasible
and what changes you need to make in

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the rest of your activities in order
to do it. What if you don

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' t watch TV at night and
lie down a couple of hours earlier once

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you have this, the next thing
is going to be creating new habits and

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consolidating them over time. It starts
slowly, because that' s going to

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allow you to keep it motivated.
Neither do you intend to dedicate the mornings

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to running, meditating, and writing. Start by doing just one of those

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three things, not the three of
them. Then you can always add later.

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He thinks setting ambitious goals is fine, but it means that you often

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won' t meet them. Meeting
those smaller goals is what will keep your

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level of motivation high and, of
course, remember to reward you. If

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you' re following the plan and
then you' re going to have to

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refine that routine, because life is
full of sudden changes, then you'

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re going to have to be able
to adapt, you' re going to

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have to learn to make adjustments to
that routine, and not just adjustments,

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but adjustment adjustments, because this is
so. It also tells us the book

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that is often said that practice makes
the teacher. But one of the major

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obstacles to decline is to try to
do things automatically. I' ll give

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you an example. Let' s
talk about driving. Driving is an activity

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in which you get in the car, you put the key up, you

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turn the key and you start driving
and when you get to the place,

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you don' t remember anything you' ve done. And this doesn'

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t make us any better drivers.
If you want to improve on anything,

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you' re going to have to
consciously practice a aspiring writer, for example,

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because obviously it' s much better
that you stop writing and ask one

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of your colleagues to read and criticize
than what you write is much harder than

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writing. Yeah, but it'
s the only way to grow. The

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writer who asks for help and modifies
his style and adapts to the criticisms will

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have a better result, that he
is a writer, that he is a

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hermit and that works automatically, so
practice, so but conscious practice, another

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advice that the book gives us is
to plan the nas before he starts why

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to increase our productivity these consist.
It' s very simple. It consists

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of knowing exactly what you have to
do on Monday morning. And this is

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because when you plan for things to
happen, those things usually happen. So

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laying the groundwork for success depends on
you carefully deciding what your priorities are for

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the next day, for the next
week and so on. And this is

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planning, which is a fundamental step. The next step, according to the

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book, is to eliminate tasks that
look like work, but which are really

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useless. And here, then,
of course, you can think of emails,

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write them down and answer them,
even if you do a hundred messages

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a day. It' s part
of today' s digital work and some

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of them are probably important, but
it' s normal that you end up

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feeling like gos and that you haven' t done anything productive either. So

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sometimes it' s preferable to close
that inbox and get to work on what

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really matters, eliminate distractions and know
that really important tasks take much less time

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actually than they seemed. And the
book also tells us about weekends, because

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weekends are the perfect opportunity to rest, to recharge mental energy, physical energy,

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which is very important in our well- being, but it is also

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very easy to waste those hours,
which are precious in a random combination of

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activities. And then, when the
weekend is over, we realize that we

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haven' t taken advantage of those
hours as much as we could have done

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and it gives us a simple way
to make sns on the weekends, because

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they are more productive and that way
is to plan them in advance, instead

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of spontaneously deciding what you' re
going to do. When Saturday morning comes

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on Friday, you make a list
of three to five activities you' re

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going to want to do. And
this is a very effective and very simple

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way to waste or avoid wasting a
weekend without doing anything, because in reality,

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in the digital age we no longer
have the chance to do anything.

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Before people could spend Saturday and Sunday
lying on the ground, listening, singing

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to birds and watching the clouds pass. But today what we call doing nothing

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is watching TV, surfing the Internet, social media. Then having a plan

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in advance for the weekend is going
to eliminate at least a part of all

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that useless activity. He thinks the
good thing about weekends is that they have

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nothing to do with the workweek.
So what you need is a pause.

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That' s why it' s
so important to plan things that you don

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' t do in any of the
other five days to make it special days.

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Look, you don' t have
to overdo it either and have to

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plan what you' re going to
do every minute of the weekend. But

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you do need a couple of activities
around which you' re going to structure

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your weekend. And that not only
allows you not to waste them, but

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also allows you to enjoy the expectation, that is, of that emotion that

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you feel as the week progresses,
because you know that something pleasant comes.

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So you know, morning is the
ideal time to meet your goals, whether

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it' s personal development, professional, family, or anything. So understand

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how you invest every hour of the
day for a week and build a perfect

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routine. You see building those new
habits gradually, consciously, planning every day,

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even on weekends, because having a
morning routine that brings you closer to

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your purpose to your goals is a
good way to start living better. If

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much, as always and until the
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