Óptimo (Daniel Goleman)

0:08 Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for a better life. I am Eugenio Valla Ruiz, reader, hard- working, writer and lover of personal development. In today' s episode we will talk about the Best Book, a book written by Daniel Goleman and Kary Chernis. Remember daniel Daniel Goleman is the person who wrote the best seller Emotional intelligence, which now comes back to load with a similar book, but with a slightly different focus. Let' s see your main ideas. Many people seek to achieve what the book calls. An optimal State, a State that we know exists, because that is when we have the feeling of being effective, of moving forward, of flowing effortlessly throughout the day. A state in which we are able to perform to the maximum for long periods of time, without concentrated distractions, but at the same time relaxed and, moreover, being creative. And there are several studies that show how people working in that optimal state are up to five times more productive than at their usual level of performance. This means, therefore, that finding that optimal State will help you feel better, to work better and, as a final consequence, to get better results. So, on that basis, the

1:41 book' s thesis is that achieving and maintaining that state of flux, that optimal state constantly is not something that is reserved for elite athletes or high- performance professionals, top executives, etcetera. It is something that is within anyone ' s grasp the basis for reaching that state is emotional intelligence. You know the control of one' s emotions and the understanding and empathy with the emotions of others. And this works, of course, at work. It is more than proven that, for example, vendors with high emotional intelligence sell much more because simply because they are able to generate better interaction with their customers.

2:30 But it doesn' t just work at work. It also works outside of work, because people who have a high level of emotional intelligence are actually also more prepared to manage stress and that translates into better health and better relationships. So you need more emotional intelligence to do more at work. Yes, but also to be able to live more and to live better. In addition to emotional intelligence, we can also reach that optimal state, that state of flow, through the full attention of mindfulness, the famous mindfulness that is full attention, is to tune in with the present moment, is to minimize distractions, to commit ourselves to the task we are doing, whatever it is, to be in what we are doing. And that, today it fails us and it fails us very much, because we live surrounded by distractions, with an economy and with an economic model that goes for our attention, also for our money, but above all for our attention. When we get to that state where we' re really doing what we' re doing, and we' re deeply committed to the tasks and we' re focused and we avoid distracting ourselves. Neuroscience calls that moment neuronal harmony. It' s a time when the circuits of our brain are fully aligned with an activity and that causes irrelevant

4:08 thoughts, that the external interferences we all have fade away, obviously leading us to that state of flow, to that optimal state, and full attention you know that it' s something that can be trained, is something that we can improve over time, for example, by focusing on your breathing. That exercise I' m not going to call it or exercise, that simple activity. By focusing on your breathing for ten fifteen minutes a day, it already improves your ability to concentrate and stabilizes your emotional responses, already allowing you to have a clearer state of mind. It allows you to be more focused.

4:55 That' s why great athletes meditate. That' s why the great executives meditate because all those skills or all those benefits that you get by practicing full attention are going to be very important. They are important in sport, they are important at work, but they are also important in life in general in the professional world. Emotional intelligence, moreover, is a characteristic that is increasingly recognized. Of course it' s very important that you know how to do your job. The technical aspect is obvious, but it is almost more important that you know yourself that you manage your emotions, that you show empathy, that you also know how to manage relationships with other people, especially when there is an emergency moment, a moment of crisis within a company. And that ' s why companies are increasingly looking at these kinds of profiles, at these kinds of things, especially when they' re good looking for someone who may be called to lead teams or make important decisions, because leaders who are emotionally intelligent are going to generate more satisfied employees, more satisfied employees who are going to stay in the company longer and who are going to contribute to creating a much more enjoyable environment, where everyone is going to end up being more productive.

6:27 Obviously, they do it out of interest. Don' t think it ' s something they' re interested in. Emotional intelligence is a matter of pure performance but well, it also helps you live better. So, if emotional intelligence is something so important, the thesis of the book. What the book wonders is why most companies are not yet training their employees in that field, why they continue to evaluate this type of social skills with self- evaluations or with it evaluations that are unreliable. Companies should not only hire candidates who already have those emotional intelligence traits that are already doing so, but also train their current employees in this field. But the same is true of schools or colleges or universities. It would make no sense if there was a subject called emotional intelligence. It is not something more important, more necessary than other contents that fill the students' teaching hours and that no one knows exactly what they are for. I think exactly the same with another subject, which is that of financial education, which is not discussed in this book, but we have talked about it in other previous chapters. Money is something we use every day, every hour, and no one teaches us how to manage it from the

7:57 traditional education system. But for not teaching us, it doesn' t even teach us how to make the tax return. The income statement, at least here in Spain, is the least rare. Think about it is strange. Obviously, as a company, you' re interested in hiring someone smart. Of course, there is someone who has a technical knowledge in your area. That, of course, but you are also interested in hiring someone who is able to manage their emotions, who is creative, who has a human background, you don' t want or shouldn' t want to simply hire an efficient robot, but many companies seem to have not noticed this yet. That is why the book crushes a lot at this point and I personally believe that it is absolutely right and eye in the future this topic is going to be even more important. We think it is the other way around, but as jobs become automated, more and more people rely on innovations such as artificial intelligence.

9:07 In the end, that human touch, that ability to understand, to connect at a deep level with other people is what' s going to be truly valuable, because it' s what' s going to be truly irreplaceable, that' s what' s going to make a difference, and that ' s why I keep saying chapter after chapter, episode after episode. That is why personal development is so important and that is why learning aspects of personal development, such as emotional intelligence, for example, through this book is so important. So you already know that emotional intelligence and full attention are essential to find ourselves better as people, but also to perform better in our work, improve our productivity and feel more satisfied. So the idea that launched you is to start learning about personal development, about emotional intelligence, Start also to meditate, to focus on the present, to cultivate full attention and you will see how little by little your life becomes an even better experience. And now, before I say goodbye, let me remind you that you have at your disposal a compilation of the best ideas about personal development, told in a practical way, as I always try to do in my own four books. The titles are free, healthy and happy. Thirty- one days to improve your life, minimalism for normal people and seven steps to a purposeful life. You have

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