Cómo usar el arrepentimiento para mejorar tu vida

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to talk to you about
the importance of repentance in our lives and

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how we can raise it from it. Before you start reminding yourself that you

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to the episode notes. Down there, along with my books, and now

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we' re going to talk about
the role of repentance in building a better

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life. The first thing to say
is that repentance is not just a negative

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emotion. Repentance is a moral compass, an inner compass that we all carry

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and that is capable of orienting our
conduct and decisions towards a better life.

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Repentance is something that allows us to
reflect on our actions, it allows us

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to reflect also on their consequences.
And not only the consequences that this action

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has had for ourselves, but also
the consequences that it has had for others.

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And this reflection not only helps us
understand what we have done wrong.

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It also illuminates the way and tells
us what we need to change from now

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on. When we experience repentance,
we feel pain, we feel discomfort.

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We sometimes wish to be able to
go back in time to act in a

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different way. But, on the
other hand, that same discomfort is also

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the one that drives us to change, it is the one that drives us

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to improve. That is what motivates
us to ask forgiveness, It is what

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leads us to repair what we have
damaged. Repentance, therefore, besides being

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a negative feeling, is a learning. It teaches us the consequences that our

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actions have had and therefore reinforces the
idea that it is very important to live

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according to values, in accordance with
principles. But feeling sorry is not a

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bad thing. We' re all
human, and sooner or later, we

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make some mistake. The bad thing
is not to learn to accept our mistakes

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without letting ourselves be defined by them. Remember not to learn to accept our

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mistakes without letting us define ourselves by
them. The bad thing is to do

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over and over again what we regret, without trying to change anything. The

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bad thing is also to become permanently
that of which we repent. What I

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' m trying to say is that
our imperfection is an opportunity to grow.

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It' s not something we have
to resign to. And when you understand

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this, you turn repentance into a
warning signal that moves you to act.

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Therefore, if our actions have adversely
affected others, we usually humbly ask for

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forgiveness. Forgiveness not only seeks to
free the other person from the pain we

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have caused him. It also seeks
to free ourselves from that emotional debt that,

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if we do not immediately pay,
is accumulating within us. To ask

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forgiveness means to acknowledge the damage we
have done, to assume responsibility for our

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actions and also to commit ourselves not
to repeat the same mistake in the future.

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To ask forgiveness is an act of
self- love and is also an

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act of respect for the other person. When we choose to ask forgiveness,

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we are choosing not to be defined
by our mistakes, not to be known

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by our mistakes, but by our
ability to fix them, our ability to

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amend them. What we are saying
to the world when we ask forgiveness is

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that I am not the punctual error
I have made, and that is very

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good and not only makes it easier
to reconcile with others, it also allows

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us to move forward in our lives
with less weight, more clarity and to

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head without restraint towards that life that
is actually what we want. But if

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we do not settle that debt,
if we do not ask forgiveness, when

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we make a mistake, the same
conflict is going to repeat itself over and

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over again, it is going to
return again and again to our life and

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we are going to be unable to
move the focus of the past to the

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present and to the future. And
remember that it is in the present and

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in the future that there is the
real opportunity to live better. So don

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' t apologize, either to others
or even to ourselves. In short,

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what you' re putting us in
a mental prison. And if you'

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re already in some way in that
mental prison, make sure that the first

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step to getting out of it is
to get to know yourself, is to

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understand what your deepest motivations are,
is to recognize the emotions you feel,

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is to accept what your weak points
are. And this can only be done

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through introspection, reflection, self-
exploration. And little by little, if

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you do this, you' re
identifying those patterns of thought or those patterns

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of behavior that normally lead to repentance. And the next step after that phase

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of self- exploration is to start
living in harmony. And what it means

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to live in harmony, for it
is to live in a way in which

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our desires, our thoughts, our
words and our actions these four things are

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synchronized that whatever you want you say
and do go in the same direction.

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It is this inner congruence that will
allow us to live a full life.

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When we get aligned, these four, these four elements are aligned, then

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our actions begin to flow from personal
truth, not from what I have to

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do, but do what I am. And when this happens, there is

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no longer room for repentance. Then
repentance has no place anymore. When we

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come to that state of internal congruence, we begin to live intentionally, we

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begin to recognize that every action we
carry out has consequences. And this perspective

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allows us to see life differently.
It is no longer a series of coincidences,

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it is no longer a series of
unfeeling coincidences. So if we look

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at it that way, life does
not cease to be a path full of

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opportunities and every experience, whether positive
or negative, teaches us a valuable lesson,

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a lesson that guides us to our
true path. Even if it is

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a negative experience, it helps us
to get away from those things that do

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not lead us on our true path. So living in harmony with ourselves transforms

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our reality. We become more resilient, open ourselves to life' s experiences

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and, above all, live in
peace, regardless of whether the moments or

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experiences we experience are easier or more
difficult. And despite all this I'

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m telling you there are really very
few people in the world living in harmony.

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We' re surrounded by a lot
of distractions, we' re surrounded

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by a lot of social pressures.
And all this diverts us from our true

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essence, from our purpose in life. Consumerism, the search for immediate gratification,

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excesses, all these things are symptoms
of a society in which one values

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more the having than the being,
of a society that seeks what can only

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be found within oneself and is looking
for it outside. He' s looking

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for him outside and he can only
find him inside. And when that happens,

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then we move from living to surviving. We move from a full life,

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from a life in purpose, to
a lifestyle that does not feed our

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soul. And with that, then, obviously, fear comes, it comes

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to anxiety, it comes to envy, they are only manifestations that we are

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disconnected from our true essence, from
our true values, that we are not

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living in harmony. The good thing
is that the ability to change is within

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each of us. We' re
in. We have come to this world

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to create, We have come to
share knowledge, to work on what we

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are passionate about. We have come
to love others deeply, We have come

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to offer you the best of ourselves. So start becoming aware of this as

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soon as possible. Limit all these
external distractions and focus especially on your personal

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development. Create spaces for silence,
for introspection, for reflection, cultivate gratitude,

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valuing what you have instead of what
you lack, and start doing things

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in your day to day that reflect
your true purpose that will help you reconnect

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with your essence. He begins to
serve others without expecting anything in return,

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begins to contribute positively to the world. It builds a life around those two

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pillars that we mentioned in the episode
the other day, positive thoughts and good

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habits. And when you do,
you' ll see how you begin to

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rise unreservedly toward your goals. Whatever
they are, so you know, raising

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the quality of your life is an
active process, it' s a conscious

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process and that process involves making decisions
at every moment. Repentance is not just

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an emotion. Repentance is your personal
guide to act and to grow in a

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certain direction. You have to be
aware of what those things are that lead

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you to repent and once you are
aware, you can start changing them and,

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from there, start living in harmony, that is, that what you

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want, what you think, what
you say and what you do is completely

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aligned and allows you to enjoy a
better life. If you liked this episode,

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I leave you his link also in
the notes of the episode and without

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further saying goodbye. Thank you very
much, as always and until the next