Cómo superar a tu peor enemigo: Tú.

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Valla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to talk about how we
can become our worst enemy in certain situations,

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especially and how we can overcome that
situation and those moments. But before

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to my books, and now we' ll talk about how we can overcome

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our worst enemy of all the people
in your life, which of them you

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spend the most time talking to.
If you said you were wrong with your

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partner, if you said you were
wrong with your best friend? Nor is

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that whatsapp group that is so active
always notifying you messages and memes and stuff

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like that. The person you talk
to the most is yourself. We all

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have about 50, 000 thoughts a
day. We are constantly having an inner

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dialogue with ourselves and it is possible
that some of those conversations, because they

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are positive, but for most people, or at least most of the time,

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those voices in the head, those
inner conversations that we have with ourselves,

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are negative and that negativity is preventing
us from living the life that we

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really want to live. So what
I want to explain is that changing the

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way you talk to yourself can change
everything and that' s why we'

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re going to see five things that
can help you make that change and keep

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it. The first is that you
have to understand that you are living the

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life you have chosen for yourself.
If you' re honest with yourself,

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you' ll find that there are
parts of your life you don' t

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like. Maybe you have a job
that doesn' t go anywhere, maybe

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you have problems with your family or
your partner. If you' re willing

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to take that, then you'
re choosing to live with it. So

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the big question you have to ask
yourself is I' m willing to change

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what I don' t like and
you might be tempted to answer things as

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clear as I' m willing,
but it' s that the market is

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really complicated to fly right now.
Or of course I' m willing,

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but I will when I' m
two more years old, or I will

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when I have more time for it
because that' s excuses. The truth

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is that you' re not really
willing to make that change, or at

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least you' re not willing to
do it yet as soon as the word

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appears. But what you' re
doing is justifying your conscious decision not to

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improve your life. But it'
s okay. This is normal. It

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is much easier to feel comfortable with
the negative things of life than to do

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the work to put the effort needed
to change them. This was already said

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by Machiavelli in a very famous phrase. Yours said. Where the will is

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great, the difficulties cannot be?
Where the will is great, the difficulties

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cannot be? So ask yourself what
you want to change in your life but

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you haven' t been able to. For whatever it is, maybe you

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' re too busy or maybe you' re too tired or maybe you'

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re just not ready yet. You
can make all the excuses you want,

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but in reality, there' s
only one reason you haven' t made

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that change, and that reason is
you haven' t been willing to answer

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to do the job to improve your
reality. And this seems like bad news

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and in part it is, but
we must also see it as a source

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of hope. Logically, if you
have been able to create and if you

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have been able to maintain a life
that you do not want the normal or

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with more reason. What' s
going to happen is that you' re

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going to be able to create and
maintain a life that you do want,

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but first you have to accept that
you have enormous power over your own life

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and you just need to use it
to make the necessary changes. It'

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s about asserting and believing you'
re willing to make them. You'

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re willing to change jobs, I' m willing. You' re willing

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to improve your relationship. I'
m willing, I' m willing to

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go to the gym, I'
m willing to move you into a new

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city. I' m willing if
it' s easier if you don'

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t come up with being willing to
do things you really want. Do.

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Turn this sentence around. Focus on
the things you' re no longer willing

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to endure. For example, you' re willing to spend your life doing

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a job that doesn' t fill
you for people who don' t appreciate

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your effort. I' m not
willing. Many times it is easier to

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know what we are not willing to
do than to know what we are willing

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to do. But in any case, being willing or unwilling is not a

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magic wand either. That motivation,
that attitude, is not going to bring

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about change on its own. The
change you' re going to produce with

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work and you' re going to
produce with persistence. You' re going

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to produce it by turning what you
have to do into a habit, but

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it' s being willing. It
is what will prepare the ground for change

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to happen. Another thing you have
to do to stop being your enemy piar.

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It' s changing your beliefs.
You know we all have beliefs that

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slow us down. I' m
not handsome or I' m not very

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smart or I' m bad at
math. Whatever it is, you can

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' t let those beliefs define your
life. You can' t agree with

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them. You have to get rid
of them. And you' ll ask

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me how I get rid of those
negative beliefs, because the first thing is

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to identify them, because many times
we' re not even aware of what

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beliefs are affecting us, because they' re buried deep in our subconscious,

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so think of those areas of your
life where you have more problems where you

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' re tripping over and over again
with the same stone. And it'

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s at that point according to where
there' s a belief you have to

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eliminate and the best way to eliminate
a belief is to show yourself that that

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belief is false. Let' s
just say you think you' re a

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lazy person. So, every time
you jump on the couch to surf social

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media, instead of going to work
or, instead of taking the backpack,

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going to the gym, you'
re showing yourself that that belief is true.

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And the key is to show you
that you' re wrong, that

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you' re not a person,
a lazy person. And for that you

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' re going to have to change, you' re going to have to

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organize, you' re going to
have to control your time, you'

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re going to have to cultivate discipline. And for that you need a plan,

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you need to put in writing the
things you will do when you feel

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that urge to waste your time,
that is, whenever you want to throw

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yourself on the couch to waste your
time navigating by instagram or whatever it is

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put on your sneakers and go for
a run. Even if it' s

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five minutes. That' s enough, all you need to do is put

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an end to that impulse and be
able to prove to yourself that belief is

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false. Imagine how well you'
re going to feel when you finish those

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five minutes and the more times,
the more times you repeat this cycle,

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the less space you leave for that
belief in your brain you' re showing

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yourself. The third thing I recommend
to make you stop being your worst enemy

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is to take perspective, because obviously, however positive your mentality is, however

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empowering your beliefs are. Life is
going to hold things very hard for you

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all. Relationships will break, people
will die around you, you' re

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going to have to face trauma,
health problems, you' re going to

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have economic problems and much more.
And actually, positive thinking isn' t

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gonna protect you from any of that. Those things are gonna keep happening to

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you. Have positive thinking or negative
thinking. But when the bad things of

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life happen, a positive mentality,
a strong mentality, will be able to

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respond to them, will be able
to hold the pull without falling. If

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you, on the other hand,
have a negative mentality, a problem,

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it may be enough to destroy your
life. So the next time you face

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any problems in life, you have
to tell yourself that you understand that you

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assume it and understand it. Assume
it doesn' t mean you' re

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not gonna feel bad. About what
he' s been through. It'

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s not to minimize the pain you' re feeling. It is a reminder

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to yourself that you are strong enough
to face the challenges that life poses.

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A graphic example or a metaphor.
Imagine yourself standing in the middle of a

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train track behind and in front of
you you see that the tracks extend until

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they get lost on the horizon.
Well, those roads are your life,

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you have your past behind your back
and your future ahead of you. And

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now remember the five best ten things
that have happened to you in life up

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to this moment and the five or
ten worst and write them on a role.

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And when you have it, look
to the future. Look at those

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tracks ahead of you and understand one
thing is going to be exactly the same.

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Those tracks ahead of you in that
future. There' ll be horrible

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things like the ones you just wrote, and there' ll be great things

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like the ones you just wrote too. And the magic is you' re

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gonna be able to beat them all, because it' s exactly the same

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thing you' ve been doing so
far. Realize that you have always managed

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to overcome everything, even if there
were things that seemed insurmountable to you at

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the time, even if it seemed
to you that the world was going to

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end at that very moment. And
this is an exercise to put things into

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perspective. You can do this exercise
any other, but the important thing is

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that you understand that the things that
happen, both the good and the bad,

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are simply events that are often inevitable
and that we have to put into

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perspective. We have to see the
whole route of the road, not just

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that stretch of the road where good
things or bad things happen. The fourth

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thing you should do to stop being
your enemy prior is start feeling comfortable or

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comfortable in uncertainty. And it'
s just that in today' s day

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we' re all a little bit
addicted to certainty. There are people who

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compulsively look at time, others who
compulsively look at traffic, or others who

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don' t look at it through
election polls. The human being wants to

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know what' s going to happen. We like to know what' s

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going to happen. If it were
for us, we would all have a

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crystal ball in front of us,
because there is nothing we like more than

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to have the knowledge of what is
going to happen in the future, because

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that gives us advantage is normal from
an evolutionary point of view. The problem

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is that nothing worthwhile is going to
happen or happen without a certain degree of

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uncertainty. Think about making new friends, accepting a new job, setting up

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a business, introducing yourself to a
literary prize, all those things that are

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worth it. It' s all
uncertainty. And for many people that fear

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of uncertainty is greater than their desire
to change their lives. And when that

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happens, when the desire or fear
of uncertainty is greater than the desire to

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change, then it is when a
life stagnates, A life without a little

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uncertainty, is a standing life,
is a stagnant life, is a life

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on the dead end. So,
if you want to have a better life,

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you must learn to live together and
you must learn to accept uncertainty.

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Forget the fear, the fear of
being judged, the fear of what others

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think, the fear of poverty,
life with capitals. It' s uncertainty.

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But it is also that absolute certainty
does not exist. We live in

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a universe that is absolutely chaotic,
so you can do everything in your power

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to avoid uncertainty. And no one
tells you that one day you won'

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t go out the door of your
house. You drop a pot on top

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and bye. Certainty is an illusion, it does not exist. On the

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contrary, it is uncertainty, not
certainty that is guaranteed. So we better

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get used to it, to that
uncertainty and the fifth thing you can do

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to stop being your worst enemy,
is stop thinking and take action. You

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know, because we have repeated it
many times in this podcast, that the

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normal cycle of life is that we
perceive information through the senses we filter it

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based on our beliefs. This generates
a series of emotions. These emotions result

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in thoughts. Those thoughts become words
you say or things you do or stop

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doing and based on all that we
get results. That' s the reality.

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Now, if it is impossible for
you to change your negative thoughts for

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positive thoughts, change the final part
of the cycle, that is, change

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your actions, it is no madness. After all, you have more than

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50, 000 thoughts every day and
you can' t control everything by n

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so tone. Sometimes it' s
gonna be hard for you to think positive

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and it' s okay. Sometimes
you don' t have to think positive.

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You just have to act like you
think positive, ignore your negative thoughts,

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and act anyway. Imagine being asked
to speak in public at an important

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conference. Imagine it' s a
great opportunity for you, but you start

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to have negative thoughts because you hate
to speak in public, because you don

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' t have time to prepare yourself
well, because you don' t think,

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that you don' t have enough
knowledge to be in the grandstand where

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other people will be who do,
or you think you don' t have

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enough experience. There are times when
you can' t change those thoughts and

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you have to give a shit.
You have to go to that conference and

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you have to speak in public.
You also have to act in spite of

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negative thoughts, and doing this is
magical. It' s magic does magic

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in our brain, on the one
hand, because the simple fact of doing

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what you don' t think you
want to do can distract you from thinking

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that you don' t want to
do it, so that' s already

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a first win. But, on
the other hand, it' s quite

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possible that, once you start doing
what you were avoiding, the result isn

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' t as bad as you feared, and that sends a positive message to

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your brain, that is, if
you make that presentation at the Conference,

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it' s not just a victory
you get that day, it' s

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also a victory for the future,
because the next time you' re asked

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to speak in public your brain is
going to remember that, actually, the

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last time you did it wasn'
t that bad either. So you know

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if someone' s keeping you from
living the life you want. That someone,

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unfortunately, is you convince yourself that
you are willing to change, modify

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your limiting beliefs, by empowering beliefs. Observe the good and bad things that

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can happen to you with the perspective
of a lifetime, not the perspective of

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that moment, in particular, feel
comfortable with uncertainty because there is nothing else.

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And finally, stop thinking, stop
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Down there in the box, next
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m just saying goodbye. Thank you
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