Avanzar realmente en la vida

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Hello everyone and welcome to ideas for
a better life. I am Eugenio Palla,

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ruiz, reader, hard- working
and lover of personal development. Today

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I want to talk to you about
what it really means to move forward in

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life and how you can do it
too. But before I start, I

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want to remind you that you have
at your disposal a compilation of the most

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relevant ideas and tips on personal development. In my four own books, you

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already know them free, healthy and
happy, thirty- one days to improve

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and seven steps towards a purposeful life.

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I leave you their link in the
notes of the episode as well and since

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many of you have asked me how
to hear where to train in personal development.

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I tell you what has worked for
me, which is the master'

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s degree in personal development, from
IPP' s institute of positive thinking.

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You know it is the best training
that exists in this field, because it

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covers depth the six main areas of
life, self- knowledge, body and

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health, emotions, relationships, transcendence
and money and professional career. If you

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want to take a look at the
free class mastre, I' ll leave

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your link down there in the episode
notes too and now we' re going

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to talk about moving forward in life. There are two phases in every successful

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person' s life. A first
phase, which is that of self-

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realization, in which these kinds of
people are dedicated to creating the person they

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want to be molded to forge themselves
have a desire, think about how they

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will achieve it and act to make
it happen. But these people are not

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happy when they finally get the result
they were waiting for. These people are

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happy when they are able to appreciate, when they are able to recognize the

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process that leads them to that result. Not the result itself, but the

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process. That is, they are
happy when they are present on the road

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and when they are grateful for what
they are getting little by little during this

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first phase of self- realization.
Successful people focus on themselves, not on

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others. And they do because to
take off they need to overcome limiting beliefs,

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they need to overcome negative thoughts,
they need to overcome excuses obstacles for

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the mind that we normally have full
of fears. They don' t fool

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you, too. They too all
have a mind full of fears so that

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that mind and those fears do not
stand between what they want and the action

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they have to perform to achieve it. Some successful people in this first phase

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even completely isolate themselves from their environment, especially if that environment is negative.

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The second phase, after self-
realization, is self- transcendence. At

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this stage successful people shift the focus
of self towards giving the world the best

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of themselves in an unselfish manner.
That is, at this stage they share

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knowledge to positively impact others. And
it is at this stage that their interest

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in material success decreases, when priority
moves towards the well- being and success

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of others, not to their own
well- being and success. The problem

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is that most people work or work
with the goal of accumulating enough wealth to

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be able to retire one day.
And this happens because most people don'

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t see work as a source of
personal fulfillment, they work on things that

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don' t generate any passion for
them and that' s why they perceive

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work as a curse. So,
what I' m saying is work as

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hard as you can, but don' t work chasing the money, work

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chasing your personal growth. And in
this we are our worst enemy. We

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sabotage ourselves with excuses, with negative
thoughts, waste money or surround ourselves with

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people who slow us down. We
do not want to admit that we are

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responsible, not for everything that happens
to us in this life, but that

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is the reality. We are.
We are guilty, no, but we

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are responsible. And then there comes
a day in the lives of many people

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in which they really have to face
a hard time, a moment that causes

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them a lot of pain. And
that moment is the one that defines who

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they' re going to be from
that moment on, that moment is going

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to lead them to be the person
they admire, the person they want,

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being the person they respect, or
it' s going to lead them to

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sink. When pain is greater than
fear, than the unknown, then people

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say enough. And then we started
to change. And then we realize that

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our environment is imbued with fear.
Then we realize that we will not be

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able to move forward in real life, truly advance until we free ourselves from

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our limiting beliefs and our toxic environment. And that' s when people enter

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that first phase that I told you
before, that even phase of isolation,

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that' s a hard phase,
but that' s fundamental to knowing who

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you really are, what you want
in life and start growing. From there,

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if you are already, like many
people interested in personal development, if

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you are already in that stage of
authorship, I encourage you not to listen

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to anyone. Don' t listen
to me, don' t listen to

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anyone. Just listen to the people
who are where you want to be.

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If you want to be a writer, listen to other writers who are where

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you want to be. Don'
t listen to people who talk to you

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about how to make money on the
stock market. There' s no point

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in listening to people who are where
you want to go. Many times we

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feel that we are not moving forward
in life, simply because we are listening

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to the wrong people and eye,
many of them will have all their good

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intentions. Others don' t.
Others will directly want to throw you away

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and want to take your money,
or they will act badly. Another council.

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If you are already in this phase
of self- realization take care of

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your body, it is impossible to
be truly connected with what you want,

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with what your soul wants if you
are abusing your body. Every day,

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for example, the system has taught
us that drinking alcohol is normal when you

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are celebrating something and the objective truth
is that the human body is not made

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to endure alcohol. That' s
why. That' s why alcohol tames

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the mind. That' s why
you feel bad and with that scattered mind,

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with that cloudy mind, you'
re not going to be able to

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connect with yourself, you' re
not going to be able to move forward

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in life. Honestly, I don' t understand the custom of celebrating things

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by destroying oneself. I can'
t understand another point. If you are

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already in that phase, invest your
time and money in trying to improve yourself,

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in doing those things that make you
feel better in the long run.

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Invest in yourself, invest in undertaking
with purpose, invest in those relationships that

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bring you positive things, etcetera.
And, above all, if you are

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in that phase, create experience mistake, re- create, re- start,

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and when you have something that can
be shared share with others, without

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expecting anything in return, without waiting
for counter- performances. It' s

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at that moment when you' re
going to start generating gratitude and little by

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little without haste, but without pause. It will come to abundance in the

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form of money or in the form
of whatever. But it will come to

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plenty. And when that abundance comes, for example, in the form of

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money, you have to understand that
the goal is not to stop working,

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because if you' re waiting to
have money to stop working, you'

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re digging your own grave, you' re somehow starting to die. And

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the goal is not to buy many
things either, because deep down we need

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nothing but four basic things. The
goal is to live, continuously working on

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your passion and then, when you
get it, you' ll give it

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the same way you' ve been
called crazy, you' ll still be

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left momentarily alone because you' ll
feel good and feel good is the way

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the soul has to tell you who
you are. To tell you that you

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go that way well and, on
the contrary, to deny what makes you

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feel good and to get away from
it to do other things is to destroy

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yourself. Don' t. Basically, what I' m trying to convey

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to you today is that our life
has three dimensions. There is the body,

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there is the mind and there is
the spirit, but most people live

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only in one of those dimensions.
It is true that sometimes that dimension changes

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throughout life, but very few people
and very few times are centered on the

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three areas at once not only experience
yourself as a body reads good books,

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reflects, writes, teaches others the
things you learn. It seems that many

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times we move through life with the
aim of not thinking, with the aim

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of applying the law of minimum effort
and being permanently comfortable. And life.

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It' s not about being comfortable
with life, it' s about living

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in peace and living being just a
body that wants to be comfortable, it

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' s living by following the instructions
of that system we talked about in the

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previous episode, that system that doesn' t care that you think for yourself.

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Our mind is a tool and we
must take care of it and two

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use it the same, exactly as
with our body and with our spirit when

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you live in that three- dimensional
world, body mind and spirit. You

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can finally aspire to enter peace with
yourself, you can finally aspire to raise

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your level of consciousness and, finally, you can aspire to know who you

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really are and believe me that is
exactly what it really means to move forward

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in life. If you liked this
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notes. Down there, next to
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saying goodbye. Thank you very much. As always and until the next po po poo