Valora tu estado civil

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Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love

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is You and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know one of the experiences that human
beings live most today is to face the

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question about our marital status and sometimes
not just the question, but a judgment.

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If you' re married, they
ask you when you' re going

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to have children. If you have
a child, they ask you and by

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when the second, if you'
re not married, they start asking you

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when you' re getting married?
They use the expression of the song and

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by when the ring and if you' ve had the decision not to continue

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the couple' s relationship hears and
by when you' re going to start

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another. That is, many live
interested in that experience that is personal.

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That' s why, in today' s episode, I want to tell

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you that I value your marital status, because that' s a personal decision.

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No one should try to pressure you
in that space. You' re

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the one who decides who you'
re building your life project with. It

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' s you who decides whether to
start a couple relationship or not. You

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' re the one who decides if
a couple relationship ends. You have to

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feel pressured. You always have to
own yourself. You have to be aware

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of the values, the beliefs,
the inner forces that guide us, that

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guide you, but you can never
let external pressure lead you to change your

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civil state, because that is a
fundamental option. That is why I would

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like to propose to you four keys
that for me are fundamental in the experience

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of our civil state. The first, obviously, is acceptance. You have

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to accept what you have decided,
what you have built, what you have

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done, because it is a thought- out, thought- out decision,

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because it is not an improvised decision. It' s your decision and you

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have to accept it And for me
to accept it is to give thanks,

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that is, thank you for this
I live, because when you go thank

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you, you not only accept,
but somehow celebrate your state. You have

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to be clear that your marital status
doesn' t define your personal value.

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You' re still the woman,
the man you are, and that doesn

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' t define it a yes or
a no That' s not defined by

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a signature, in a court of
law, in a notary or a blessing

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given to you by a religious minister, so first, acceptance. Second of

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all, it' s important that
you take care of yourself. We have

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insisted throughout our episodes that a spiritual
ability, that one of the consequences of

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a good spiritual experience is that one
takes full care of oneself, takes care

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of his physical, takes care of
his mind his emotions, his spirit.

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This means you have to focus on
the positive aspects of your marital status,

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evidence, the benefits, explain the
profits you have. Hey, it'

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s important that you don' t
focus on pain, on tragedy, on

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absences, but on what you'
re winning. I remember these days a

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person is going through what we call
the TUSA and he writes to me to

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one of my networks and he talks
to me and I told him a way

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to overcome the tusa, to build
the mourning for that loss is to show

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the benefits you have now. Before. You couldn' t spend time the

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way you' re spending it or
investing it today. Before, you couldn

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' t have the freedom you could
have today before. I couldn' t

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then prove that to the extent that
you focus on that you focus on those

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benefits. You' re taking care
of yourself because you' re giving yourself

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mental health, you' re giving
yourself serenity, peace, and that keeps

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you going. The third is always
important personal growth. This means having a

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life plan. This means that you
know where you' re going, that

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you can be clear about your purpose, that you can say I, as

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a human being, as a man
as a woman, want to get there.

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My dream is this, My dream
is to achieve these goals, these

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realizations, That is, that your
decision, your marital status is not out

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of alignment, is not disharmony of
your fundamental choice expressed in the life project

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you are making. It' s
important. It' s not just any

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decision, it' s a decision
to go on the way. And then,

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as you' re looking for this, as you' re looking for

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that, you' ve made the
take decision and that' s yours,

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because I understand that breakups hurt,
but sometimes they belong to a life project,

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sometimes they belong to deep decisions.
I particularly, although I have been

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a defender of marriage and as a
defender of the experiences of solid couples,

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so much so that one day I
wrote a text with some friends who were

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called a change of relationship, not
a couple. I remember it was an

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experience that I did at the time. She was celibate, she didn'

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t have a relationship. Then I
invited some married people to help me reflect

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on the subject. I, despite
that, understand that there are times when

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the relationship ends and that we have
to accept that it ends and that we

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have to accept that it does not
go anymore, not because one is a

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bad person, but simply because the
context does not allow it. And that

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' s a valid decision And no
one can feel frustrated, failed, accused,

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pointed out and it' s not
right to be pointed out or to

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try to harm you. And the
fourth statement is to be open to the

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future. I love to highlight the
validity, the importance of uncertainty. The

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other day I was walking and someone
came up to me and told me that

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I had real predictive skills and that
I wanted to predict things. I affectionately,

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with the kind reflection I always try
to have, I said no and

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he told me why not. And
I told him because for me uncertainty has

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a lot of value. Don'
t know what' s gonna happen tomorrow?

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For me it is a source of
happiness, a source of joy,

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a source of fullness, not knowing
what will happen tomorrow. It means there

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' s a free will, it
means I own me, it means I

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can decide, it means every decision
I make makes sense. Then you in

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your marital status, open to the
future. You don' t know what

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' s gonna happen tomorrow? You
don' t know if you' re

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going to find a person who makes
you, rework, rethink the life project,

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retry a new decision. You don' t know. That' s

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why. One cannot marry existential absolutisms, because those do not exist. Life

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' s on its way, life' s on its way. Appreciate your

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marital status. This is always in
a spiritual context. You know it'

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s my choice, my choice from
well- being, my choice from the

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search for harmony in life. In
order to be happy, then today I

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wanted to tell you value your marital
status and I wanted to give you those

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keys for you to think about,
for reflections. These days, at the

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book fair I was found by a
young man who told me I listened two

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and three times to your podcast and
I go to note. That excited me,

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that made my life happy and nothing. This episode is wonderful. I

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' m happy to be with you
at that time, right now. Thank

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you for allowing me to share this
episode of my podcast. Always on every

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