¿Tus expectativas son racionales?

0:00 Or why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always the love soy and that is already the basis to go out, to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and to enjoy life fully. You know one of the greatest sources of suffering is unfulfilled expectations. When we face reality and discover that reality is not as we dreamed it or as we expected it. I have to say that many of those disappointments are caused by ourselves. And I say that they are caused by ourselves because we expect from reality what reality will not give us, because our expectations are irrational of people and even of projects. It is clear that we live on expectations, It is clear that we have a desire. It is clear that we all dream

1:30 and that it fills with a sense of strength to life. But it also has to be clear that those expectations, that those dreams cannot be irrational, cannot be a source of madness, pain, sadness And they are when we wait for what cannot happen. I think we need to understand this very clearly and practice it disciplinedly. We have problems with some people and we are disappointed with some people because we expect what those people cannot give, because we expect what those people are not going to be or do not want to do.

2:28 Many times we put our dreams, our desires in projects that are born dead, in projects that are not going to be realized, in projects that are going to fail, and for that we are responsible. Look at the problem is not what other people do to us or what they tell us, but what we expect from them. These days, talking to someone, he told me that a student of mine, with whom he had already worked for a long time, referred in debriefing terms about my person and even about my work and I just smiled and the other person told me that it doesn' t bother you and I told him no because I expect that kind of behavior from that person does not disappoint me. On the contrary, reaffirm what I always thought of her, of that person. Of course, if I didn' t know that person and I had some expectations where that person would value my work, discover what I do well, surely his comment, surely his attitudes would have disappointed me and would have been a source of pain for me.

3:54 Hey, we need to have at least three keys so we don' t get rational expectations, not from people or projects. The first one we need to be very objective and concentrate on the indicators that allow us to make that expectation and they have to be data and they have to be reality, not interpretation. First things first are the indicators. I think that person can behave like this because he' s done this, this, this and this before.

4:34 I believe that this project is going to be successful, because the data that give me are these gestures, that is, that our expectations are based on objective realities, that our desires are based on data, truths, not imagination, not distorted desires, not fairy tales like milk. They remember the fable truth. Second key. I think we have to listen to those around us, the people who love us, who know us and who know reality, because they are experts in them, they tell us whether our expectations are real or not, and we have to be able to hear them, because many times friends tell us, eye that that won' t work. Studies say that the market does not give and yet we stubbornly continue to have the same expectation or keep waiting for what is not going to happen. That is why it is essential that we listen to those around us who love us and who have an appropriate training that allows them to talk about what others are doing to us. And thirdly, I think we need to project events from the

6:06 present and realize if they are aligned with the expectations we have. We cannot expect something to happen in the future that has no root in the present, because, even if you do not believe it, the future is always a development of the present. That' s obvious, but we don' t believe it. That' s obvious, but we don' t take it on a daily basis. Hey, you and I have to be aware that, if the present is to, the future is not going to be zeta.

6:47 It may be a premium, it may be less a, it may be two a, it may not be a zeta. That' s how we have to understand. Ultimately, beware of suffering for realities that we could know from the beginning how they would develop. What I want to tell you clearly, firmly, but simply, is that you don' t let your expectations become a source of suffering, because they make you wait for what isn ' t going to happen. In other words, I am inviting you to learn to live with your feet on earth, with your eyes open and with your heart in your hand, that is, with data, with objectivity, with the ability to see the future and to dream about it and with a balanced management of emotions that will help you to get ahead. The task I propose is for you to review your expectations of the people around you of the projects you are doing. It is preferable to say today that it is not preferable to understand who that person is today and not to continue riding on a

8:20 story that is not going to be made, in a story that is not going to have an end. Happy Have rational expectations, have consistent expectations. There are those three keys that can help you analyze what you' re living today, what you' re doing today. Thank you for being there, thank you for sharing with me these reflections, which are the ones I have with friends in the dialogues of the corners, in the personal dialogue. Sometimes they tell me, Alberto, they' re simple and I get excited when they say that. They tell me, Alberto, they are clear and I get excited when they say that, because I have no intention other than to ask questions and generate thoughts to you who faithfully follow this podcast. Hey, thanks. We' re in Amazon, we' re in Dezer, we ' re in Spotify, we' re in Apple, boo Box. You know.