April 4, 2024
¿Tus expectativas son racionales?
Necesitamos tener, al menos, tres claves para no hacernos expectativas irracionales.
Necesitamos tener, al menos, tres claves para no hacernos expectativas irracionales.
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Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because
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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always the love
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soy and that is already the basis
to go out, to conquer many goals,
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to fight, to give a better
version and to enjoy life fully.
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You know one of the greatest sources
of suffering is unfulfilled expectations. When we
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face reality and discover that reality is
not as we dreamed it or as we
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expected it. I have to say
that many of those disappointments are caused by
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ourselves. And I say that they
are caused by ourselves because we expect from
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reality what reality will not give us, because our expectations are irrational of people
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and even of projects. It is
clear that we live on expectations, It
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is clear that we have a desire. It is clear that we all dream
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and that it fills with a sense
of strength to life. But it also
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has to be clear that those expectations, that those dreams cannot be irrational,
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cannot be a source of madness,
pain, sadness And they are when we
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wait for what cannot happen. I
think we need to understand this very clearly
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and practice it disciplinedly. We have
problems with some people and we are disappointed
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with some people because we expect what
those people cannot give, because we expect
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what those people are not going to
be or do not want to do.
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Many times we put our dreams,
our desires in projects that are born dead,
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in projects that are not going to
be realized, in projects that are
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going to fail, and for that
we are responsible. Look at the problem
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is not what other people do to
us or what they tell us, but
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what we expect from them. These
days, talking to someone, he told
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me that a student of mine,
with whom he had already worked for a
25
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long time, referred in debriefing terms
about my person and even about my work
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and I just smiled and the other
person told me that it doesn' t
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bother you and I told him no
because I expect that kind of behavior from
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that person does not disappoint me.
On the contrary, reaffirm what I always
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thought of her, of that person. Of course, if I didn'
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t know that person and I had
some expectations where that person would value my
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work, discover what I do well, surely his comment, surely his attitudes
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would have disappointed me and would have
been a source of pain for me.
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Hey, we need to have at
least three keys so we don' t
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get rational expectations, not from people
or projects. The first one we need
35
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to be very objective and concentrate on
the indicators that allow us to make that
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expectation and they have to be data
and they have to be reality, not
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interpretation. First things first are the
indicators. I think that person can behave
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like this because he' s done
this, this, this and this before.
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I believe that this project is going
to be successful, because the data
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that give me are these gestures,
that is, that our expectations are based
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on objective realities, that our desires
are based on data, truths, not
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00:04:56.959 --> 00:05:06.920
imagination, not distorted desires, not
fairy tales like milk. They remember the
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fable truth. Second key. I
think we have to listen to those around
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us, the people who love us, who know us and who know reality,
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because they are experts in them,
they tell us whether our expectations are
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real or not, and we have
to be able to hear them, because
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many times friends tell us, eye
that that won' t work. Studies
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say that the market does not give
and yet we stubbornly continue to have the
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same expectation or keep waiting for what
is not going to happen. That is
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why it is essential that we listen
to those around us who love us and
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who have an appropriate training that allows
them to talk about what others are doing
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to us. And thirdly, I
think we need to project events from the
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present and realize if they are aligned
with the expectations we have. We cannot
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expect something to happen in the future
that has no root in the present,
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because, even if you do not
believe it, the future is always a
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development of the present. That'
s obvious, but we don' t
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believe it. That' s obvious, but we don' t take it
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on a daily basis. Hey,
you and I have to be aware that,
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if the present is to, the
future is not going to be zeta.
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It may be a premium, it
may be less a, it may
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be two a, it may not
be a zeta. That' s how
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00:06:58.519 --> 00:07:06.079
we have to understand. Ultimately,
beware of suffering for realities that we could
63
00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:15.759
know from the beginning how they would
develop. What I want to tell you
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00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:23.000
clearly, firmly, but simply,
is that you don' t let your
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00:07:23.399 --> 00:07:30.480
expectations become a source of suffering,
because they make you wait for what isn
66
00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:35.519
' t going to happen. In
other words, I am inviting you to
67
00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:41.839
learn to live with your feet on
earth, with your eyes open and with
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00:07:41.839 --> 00:07:47.279
your heart in your hand, that
is, with data, with objectivity,
69
00:07:48.199 --> 00:07:56.800
with the ability to see the future
and to dream about it and with a
70
00:07:57.279 --> 00:08:00.720
balanced management of emotions that will help
you to get ahead. The task I
71
00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:05.360
propose is for you to review your
expectations of the people around you of the
72
00:08:05.959 --> 00:08:15.000
projects you are doing. It is
preferable to say today that it is not
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preferable to understand who that person is
today and not to continue riding on a
74
00:08:20.680 --> 00:08:26.399
story that is not going to be
made, in a story that is not
75
00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:33.600
going to have an end. Happy
Have rational expectations, have consistent expectations.
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00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:41.159
There are those three keys that can
help you analyze what you' re living
77
00:08:41.279 --> 00:08:45.159
today, what you' re doing
today. Thank you for being there,
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00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:52.320
thank you for sharing with me these
reflections, which are the ones I have
79
00:08:52.360 --> 00:08:56.799
with friends in the dialogues of the
corners, in the personal dialogue. Sometimes
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00:08:56.799 --> 00:09:01.000
they tell me, Alberto, they' re simple and I get excited when
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they say that. They tell me, Alberto, they are clear and I
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get excited when they say that,
because I have no intention other than to
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00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:18.399
ask questions and generate thoughts to you
who faithfully follow this podcast. Hey,
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00:09:18.159 --> 00:09:22.360
thanks. We' re in Amazon, we' re in Dezer, we
85
00:09:22.399 --> 00:09:30.240
' re in Spotify, we'
re in Apple, boo Box. You know.
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00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:08.720
Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because
2
00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:14.880
it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always the love
3
00:00:14.919 --> 00:00:22.039
soy and that is already the basis
to go out, to conquer many goals,
4
00:00:23.079 --> 00:00:27.559
to fight, to give a better
version and to enjoy life fully.
5
00:00:29.879 --> 00:00:45.759
You know one of the greatest sources
of suffering is unfulfilled expectations. When we
6
00:00:45.799 --> 00:00:53.799
face reality and discover that reality is
not as we dreamed it or as we
7
00:00:53.840 --> 00:01:03.239
expected it. I have to say
that many of those disappointments are caused by
8
00:01:03.319 --> 00:01:10.400
ourselves. And I say that they
are caused by ourselves because we expect from
9
00:01:10.879 --> 00:01:17.920
reality what reality will not give us, because our expectations are irrational of people
10
00:01:17.959 --> 00:01:25.719
and even of projects. It is
clear that we live on expectations, It
11
00:01:25.760 --> 00:01:30.400
is clear that we have a desire. It is clear that we all dream
12
00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:36.840
and that it fills with a sense
of strength to life. But it also
13
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:44.280
has to be clear that those expectations, that those dreams cannot be irrational,
14
00:01:44.439 --> 00:01:51.879
cannot be a source of madness,
pain, sadness And they are when we
15
00:01:52.519 --> 00:02:02.680
wait for what cannot happen. I
think we need to understand this very clearly
16
00:02:02.799 --> 00:02:15.439
and practice it disciplinedly. We have
problems with some people and we are disappointed
17
00:02:15.479 --> 00:02:22.919
with some people because we expect what
those people cannot give, because we expect
18
00:02:22.960 --> 00:02:28.000
what those people are not going to
be or do not want to do.
19
00:02:28.120 --> 00:02:34.719
Many times we put our dreams,
our desires in projects that are born dead,
20
00:02:35.400 --> 00:02:39.319
in projects that are not going to
be realized, in projects that are
21
00:02:39.360 --> 00:02:44.039
going to fail, and for that
we are responsible. Look at the problem
22
00:02:44.199 --> 00:02:50.439
is not what other people do to
us or what they tell us, but
23
00:02:50.599 --> 00:02:54.479
what we expect from them. These
days, talking to someone, he told
24
00:02:55.120 --> 00:03:00.800
me that a student of mine,
with whom he had already worked for a
25
00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:08.599
long time, referred in debriefing terms
about my person and even about my work
26
00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:15.199
and I just smiled and the other
person told me that it doesn' t
27
00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:24.159
bother you and I told him no
because I expect that kind of behavior from
28
00:03:24.199 --> 00:03:29.159
that person does not disappoint me.
On the contrary, reaffirm what I always
29
00:03:29.599 --> 00:03:35.400
thought of her, of that person. Of course, if I didn'
30
00:03:35.400 --> 00:03:42.919
t know that person and I had
some expectations where that person would value my
31
00:03:43.439 --> 00:03:50.800
work, discover what I do well, surely his comment, surely his attitudes
32
00:03:50.879 --> 00:03:53.039
would have disappointed me and would have
been a source of pain for me.
33
00:03:54.120 --> 00:04:02.639
Hey, we need to have at
least three keys so we don' t
34
00:04:03.039 --> 00:04:09.439
get rational expectations, not from people
or projects. The first one we need
35
00:04:09.560 --> 00:04:17.639
to be very objective and concentrate on
the indicators that allow us to make that
36
00:04:17.680 --> 00:04:25.120
expectation and they have to be data
and they have to be reality, not
37
00:04:25.120 --> 00:04:29.959
interpretation. First things first are the
indicators. I think that person can behave
38
00:04:30.040 --> 00:04:34.240
like this because he' s done
this, this, this and this before.
39
00:04:34.279 --> 00:04:40.839
I believe that this project is going
to be successful, because the data
40
00:04:40.920 --> 00:04:46.199
that give me are these gestures,
that is, that our expectations are based
41
00:04:46.399 --> 00:04:56.720
on objective realities, that our desires
are based on data, truths, not
42
00:04:56.959 --> 00:05:06.920
imagination, not distorted desires, not
fairy tales like milk. They remember the
43
00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:14.920
fable truth. Second key. I
think we have to listen to those around
44
00:05:14.959 --> 00:05:19.600
us, the people who love us, who know us and who know reality,
45
00:05:20.399 --> 00:05:26.920
because they are experts in them,
they tell us whether our expectations are
46
00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:30.480
real or not, and we have
to be able to hear them, because
47
00:05:31.279 --> 00:05:36.000
many times friends tell us, eye
that that won' t work. Studies
48
00:05:36.480 --> 00:05:42.160
say that the market does not give
and yet we stubbornly continue to have the
49
00:05:42.279 --> 00:05:47.319
same expectation or keep waiting for what
is not going to happen. That is
50
00:05:47.399 --> 00:05:53.560
why it is essential that we listen
to those around us who love us and
51
00:05:53.600 --> 00:06:00.759
who have an appropriate training that allows
them to talk about what others are doing
52
00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:06.519
to us. And thirdly, I
think we need to project events from the
53
00:06:06.959 --> 00:06:15.040
present and realize if they are aligned
with the expectations we have. We cannot
54
00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:20.639
expect something to happen in the future
that has no root in the present,
55
00:06:21.079 --> 00:06:28.839
because, even if you do not
believe it, the future is always a
56
00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:30.920
development of the present. That'
s obvious, but we don' t
57
00:06:30.920 --> 00:06:34.560
believe it. That' s obvious, but we don' t take it
58
00:06:34.560 --> 00:06:42.319
on a daily basis. Hey,
you and I have to be aware that,
59
00:06:42.439 --> 00:06:46.560
if the present is to, the
future is not going to be zeta.
60
00:06:47.639 --> 00:06:54.240
It may be a premium, it
may be less a, it may
61
00:06:54.240 --> 00:06:58.480
be two a, it may not
be a zeta. That' s how
62
00:06:58.519 --> 00:07:06.079
we have to understand. Ultimately,
beware of suffering for realities that we could
63
00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:15.759
know from the beginning how they would
develop. What I want to tell you
64
00:07:15.759 --> 00:07:23.000
clearly, firmly, but simply,
is that you don' t let your
65
00:07:23.399 --> 00:07:30.480
expectations become a source of suffering,
because they make you wait for what isn
66
00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:35.519
' t going to happen. In
other words, I am inviting you to
67
00:07:35.600 --> 00:07:41.839
learn to live with your feet on
earth, with your eyes open and with
68
00:07:41.839 --> 00:07:47.279
your heart in your hand, that
is, with data, with objectivity,
69
00:07:48.199 --> 00:07:56.800
with the ability to see the future
and to dream about it and with a
70
00:07:57.279 --> 00:08:00.720
balanced management of emotions that will help
you to get ahead. The task I
71
00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:05.360
propose is for you to review your
expectations of the people around you of the
72
00:08:05.959 --> 00:08:15.000
projects you are doing. It is
preferable to say today that it is not
73
00:08:15.040 --> 00:08:20.680
preferable to understand who that person is
today and not to continue riding on a
74
00:08:20.680 --> 00:08:26.399
story that is not going to be
made, in a story that is not
75
00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:33.600
going to have an end. Happy
Have rational expectations, have consistent expectations.
76
00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:41.159
There are those three keys that can
help you analyze what you' re living
77
00:08:41.279 --> 00:08:45.159
today, what you' re doing
today. Thank you for being there,
78
00:08:46.120 --> 00:08:52.320
thank you for sharing with me these
reflections, which are the ones I have
79
00:08:52.360 --> 00:08:56.799
with friends in the dialogues of the
corners, in the personal dialogue. Sometimes
80
00:08:56.799 --> 00:09:01.000
they tell me, Alberto, they' re simple and I get excited when
81
00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:05.120
they say that. They tell me, Alberto, they are clear and I
82
00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:11.919
get excited when they say that,
because I have no intention other than to
83
00:09:11.159 --> 00:09:18.399
ask questions and generate thoughts to you
who faithfully follow this podcast. Hey,
84
00:09:18.159 --> 00:09:22.360
thanks. We' re in Amazon, we' re in Dezer, we
85
00:09:22.399 --> 00:09:30.240
' re in Spotify, we'
re in Apple, boo Box. You know.
