Superar las pérdidas

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Bombs. Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love. It was this and that
is already the basis for going out to

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conquer many goals, to fight,
to give a better version and enjoy life

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fully. You know of the experiences
that have made me suffer the most are

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the losses of the people that I
have loved the most in my childhood.

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First was the death of my grandmother
Cleotilde. I was nine years old and

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still today I remember how the pain
invaded every corner of my house, how

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the pain not only settled in me
in the consciousness of a child, but

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settled for a long time in my
family. Then the death of my childhood

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heroes, of my uncle Antonio,
my mother' s older brother. Then

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my father' s death, which
destroyed me, which made me pass the

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worst moments and recently the death of
the last of my childhood heroes, which

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was left by my uncleÁlvaro.
He also left in an accident. And

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although the pain has not gone away
and although the pain has remained there,

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I understand that I have to follow
my life, that I have to continue

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to build my history, that I
have to continue to carry out my existential

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project. That' s why I
want to talk to you today about overcoming

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losses. I can' t tell
you that losses are exciting, that we

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live to have, losses, that
we want, losses that we seek,

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losses. I am moderately healthy and
I cannot say that, because what we

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want is to live in peace,
is to live in harmony. What I

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do have to tell you is that
losses are part of life and that,

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as much as we strive and that, as much as we work, it

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will always see losses and that,
if we want to live in happiness,

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we need to learn to overcome them. There has been much talk about the

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process of mourning, how mourning is
built, stages have been established, the

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moments that human beings experience in the
face of loss have been specified. So,

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today I would simply like to pose
four attitudes, four actions that can

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help you overcome that terrible painful moment. Knowing he' s not gonna take

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the pain off. It still hurts
me that my dad' s not by

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my side. I enjoyed it 50
years of my life. But I need

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to, I need to hear your
nasal voice. Listen to the Merton Hey,

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the Union, lost has a nasal
voice that I loved. I need

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how not to say that I need
my uncle Antonio' s swing bellower,

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which surely influenced me a lot.
Or how not to feel that I need

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my uncleÁlvaro' s sharp voice, with his analyses of life, with

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his definitive positions of history. But
I' ve overcome those losses. What

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actions, what attitudes. I propose
four. The first must be understood to

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require time, patience and support.
This isn' t open. Every goat

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' s leg. This isn'
t warping. The loss is over.

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My reaction to Ana is not a
process. And, as it is a

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process, then it takes time.
We are beings in time recus has an

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attitude of patience, because not everything
flows the rhythm we want, because not

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everything flows the way we dream.
And, of course, support is needed

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from others. This first point means
accepting reality. I can' t keep

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talking to my dad' cause he' s not here. I can'

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t keep talking to my maternal uncles
because they' re gone. I have

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to accept reality. And accepting reality
implies accepting also the emotions, the emotional

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impulses that are generated from that reality. Yeah, sometimes I get melancholy,

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sad, sometimes I get tears and
you know what I accept that experience.

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I accept, I recognize what I
feel. I do not deny it,

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I do not repress it because denying
it and repressing it is a way not

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to overcome the situation. So the
first point is that I accept emotions,

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understanding that it takes time, patience, that support is required, that I

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cannot deny, that I cannot repress, but that I need to be able

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to recognize and accept what I am. Alberto, it hurts It hurts.

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Alberto, you suffer. Alberto weeps
for that, I weep for that in

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life, second attitude or second action, I think it fundamental to take care

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of ourselves. I believe that is
the most important spiritual ability. Self-

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care, not because you have a
loss, not because you are full of

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sadness, not because you want to
cry you stop taking care of yourself.

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And taking care of you means feeding
you well? Physically, taking care of

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you means feeding you well? Emotionally, caring for you means eating well spiritually

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means having a life in which there
is room for physical exercise, for emotional

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training, for spiritual training. You
have to sleep, well, you have

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to rest, because that physiologically,
it prepares you to be able to overcome

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that hard moment. It prepares you
to overcome that complex situation you have in

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life. Then please don' t
let yourself be dragged by pain and sadness.

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Ah then I don' t bathe. Then I don' t,

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like then I don' t walk. And of course, when you do

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that, what you' re feeding
is grief. You don' t have

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to start moving, relaxing, having
strong spiritual experiences that help me to grasp

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meaning, despite the pain, despite
the immediacy I am in. The third

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attitude or the third action is to
talk to people and share them. It

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' s really good for me to
talk to us. I have an advantage,

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and I talk a lot. I
arrive in the morning my work and

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greet everyone who is and I pass
from post to post greeting me annoying saying

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that I make very fast friends.
I am one of those who get on

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the plane and meet a person in
the chair next door and who starts talking

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to that person and that when he
arrives at the destination, an hour after

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grandfather, already misses that person and
even cries it. I' m like

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that to myself. I don'
t feel sorry to tell people that I

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love friends. Hey, this hurts. I' m missing Dad I'

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m missing my uncles and I'
m converting him to my brothers and we

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have a chat where I write sometimes
I do narrations these days. I began

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to remember the mother' s house
as one of my brothers even wrote me

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WOWS. I reminded her when I
was seven, her and her and her

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two and how they put us through
the windows. That' s how Anna

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really put us to see people pass
and the street. And then, with

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that I release what I have inside
and when I feel that it is very

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difficult, I go and get help, I go to my psychologist, where

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my psychologist and I expose my situation
and I receive tasks. Or I go

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to my spiritual companion. But these
things have to be talked about, they

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have to be told. One cannot
let them become a knot and a knot

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and this forgive me is not solved
by social networks. I love social media,

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but social media is not the context
to fully solve this. We need

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to talk, we need to get
out all that stuff inside. And the

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fourth attitude and the fourth action is
to remember the good moments we live and

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to give thanks for them. And
then I fill myself with those sensations of

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wonder and I begin to remember the
full moments with my father. I start

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to remember the moments when together we
had fun watching football, and that provokes

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me emotions and I appreciate that it
is not to torture me, it is

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to thank and with my uncles,
the moments when they brought me a gift,

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in the moments when they made me
feel loved or valued, recognized,

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in the days when they told me
that they had pride in me. And

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I give thanks for those moments I
kneel down that I have an experience of

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faith and give thanks and say Blessed
be God, Blessed be the life that

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allowed me these people. Losses must
be overcome. We cannot be chained to

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those necessary but sad and painful sensations. We need to keep on building our

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way, making our lives. I
would like you to review these four attitudes,

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these four very personal actions, which
I do Alberto José and which I

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propose to you today with the simplicity
of a friend who speaks to you in

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words will help you to have peace
and serenity processes in your life. I

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