Superar las pérdidas

0:00 Bombs. Why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love. It was this and that is already the basis for going out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know of the experiences that have made me suffer the most are the losses of the people that I have loved the most in my childhood.

0:46 First was the death of my grandmother Cleotilde. I was nine years old and still today I remember how the pain invaded every corner of my house, how the pain not only settled in me in the consciousness of a child, but settled for a long time in my family. Then the death of my childhood heroes, of my uncle Antonio, my mother' s older brother. Then my father' s death, which destroyed me, which made me pass the worst moments and recently the death of the last of my childhood heroes, which was left by my uncleÁlvaro. He also left in an accident. And although the pain has not gone away and although the pain has remained there, I understand that I have to follow my life, that I have to continue to build my history, that I have to continue to carry out my existential project. That' s why I want to talk to you today about overcoming losses. I can' t tell you that losses are exciting, that we live to have, losses, that we want, losses that we seek,

2:20 losses. I am moderately healthy and I cannot say that, because what we want is to live in peace, is to live in harmony. What I do have to tell you is that losses are part of life and that, as much as we strive and that, as much as we work, it will always see losses and that, if we want to live in happiness, we need to learn to overcome them. There has been much talk about the process of mourning, how mourning is built, stages have been established, the moments that human beings experience in the face of loss have been specified. So, today I would simply like to pose four attitudes, four actions that can help you overcome that terrible painful moment. Knowing he' s not gonna take the pain off. It still hurts me that my dad' s not by my side. I enjoyed it 50 years of my life. But I need to, I need to hear your nasal voice. Listen to the Merton Hey,

3:54 the Union, lost has a nasal voice that I loved. I need how not to say that I need my uncle Antonio' s swing bellower, which surely influenced me a lot. Or how not to feel that I need my uncleÁlvaro' s sharp voice, with his analyses of life, with his definitive positions of history. But I' ve overcome those losses. What actions, what attitudes. I propose four. The first must be understood to require time, patience and support. This isn' t open. Every goat ' s leg. This isn' t warping. The loss is over.

4:48 My reaction to Ana is not a process. And, as it is a process, then it takes time. We are beings in time recus has an attitude of patience, because not everything flows the rhythm we want, because not everything flows the way we dream. And, of course, support is needed from others. This first point means accepting reality. I can' t keep talking to my dad' cause he' s not here. I can' t keep talking to my maternal uncles because they' re gone. I have to accept reality. And accepting reality implies accepting also the emotions, the emotional impulses that are generated from that reality. Yeah, sometimes I get melancholy, sad, sometimes I get tears and you know what I accept that experience.

5:55 I accept, I recognize what I feel. I do not deny it, I do not repress it because denying it and repressing it is a way not to overcome the situation. So the first point is that I accept emotions, understanding that it takes time, patience, that support is required, that I cannot deny, that I cannot repress, but that I need to be able to recognize and accept what I am. Alberto, it hurts It hurts.

6:36 Alberto, you suffer. Alberto weeps for that, I weep for that in life, second attitude or second action, I think it fundamental to take care of ourselves. I believe that is the most important spiritual ability. Self- care, not because you have a loss, not because you are full of sadness, not because you want to cry you stop taking care of yourself. And taking care of you means feeding you well? Physically, taking care of you means feeding you well? Emotionally, caring for you means eating well spiritually means having a life in which there is room for physical exercise, for emotional training, for spiritual training. You have to sleep, well, you have to rest, because that physiologically, it prepares you to be able to overcome that hard moment. It prepares you to overcome that complex situation you have in life. Then please don' t let yourself be dragged by pain and sadness.

8:03 Ah then I don' t bathe. Then I don' t, like then I don' t walk. And of course, when you do that, what you' re feeding is grief. You don' t have to start moving, relaxing, having strong spiritual experiences that help me to grasp meaning, despite the pain, despite the immediacy I am in. The third attitude or the third action is to talk to people and share them. It ' s really good for me to talk to us. I have an advantage, and I talk a lot. I arrive in the morning my work and greet everyone who is and I pass from post to post greeting me annoying saying that I make very fast friends. I am one of those who get on the plane and meet a person in the chair next door and who starts talking to that person and that when he arrives at the destination, an hour after grandfather, already misses that person and even cries it. I' m like that to myself. I don' t feel sorry to tell people that I love friends. Hey, this hurts. I' m missing Dad I' m missing my uncles and I' m converting him to my brothers and we have a chat where I write sometimes I do narrations these days. I began to remember the mother' s house as one of my brothers even wrote me

9:41 WOWS. I reminded her when I was seven, her and her and her two and how they put us through the windows. That' s how Anna really put us to see people pass and the street. And then, with that I release what I have inside and when I feel that it is very difficult, I go and get help, I go to my psychologist, where my psychologist and I expose my situation and I receive tasks. Or I go to my spiritual companion. But these things have to be talked about, they have to be told. One cannot let them become a knot and a knot and this forgive me is not solved by social networks. I love social media, but social media is not the context to fully solve this. We need to talk, we need to get out all that stuff inside. And the fourth attitude and the fourth action is to remember the good moments we live and to give thanks for them. And then I fill myself with those sensations of wonder and I begin to remember the full moments with my father. I start to remember the moments when together we had fun watching football, and that provokes me emotions and I appreciate that it is not to torture me, it is to thank and with my uncles, the moments when they brought me a gift, in the moments when they made me feel loved or valued, recognized, in the days when they told me that they had pride in me. And I give thanks for those moments I kneel down that I have an experience of

11:16 faith and give thanks and say Blessed be God, Blessed be the life that allowed me these people. Losses must be overcome. We cannot be chained to those necessary but sad and painful sensations. We need to keep on building our way, making our lives. I would like you to review these four attitudes, these four very personal actions, which I do Alberto José and which I propose to you today with the simplicity of a friend who speaks to you in this podcast. I know I already have a relationship with you, because there are hundreds of podcasts that we have already made true, those that we have shared, in which we are getting to know each other. I hope these words will help you to have peace and serenity processes in your life. I deeply appreciate you being there. Thank you, thank you and nothing subscribe to our channel. Tell other senders, these podcasts, others these Spotify podcasts, Dezer podcasts, Apple podcasts, Amazon podcasts and all platforms. Now on YouTube too you know bu