Ser feliz siempre

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Bomba, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love

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is you and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know I want to be happy I' m happy. That does not mean

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that there are no problems, that
there are no difficulties. That doesn'

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t mean you' re always happy
laughing. That doesn' t mean that

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all my projects go well and that
I always get what I want or what

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I' m looking for. I
don' t want to be happy and

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I' m happy, because I
want to live and I live fighting every

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day in harmony, accepting myself as
I am, having a purpose of life,

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building a project, striving to give
my best, enjoying the small details,

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the great experiences, knowing how to
travel through the world that I like,

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but also knowing how to travel inwardly, feeling loved and wanting to love

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with all the strength of my heart, being helped and wanting to help others.

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I think happiness is being Sometimes some
assume happiness is laughing and laughing and

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laughing and sometimes we are not happy, even though we cry. Some believe

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that happiness is orgasmic pleasure always and
sometimes there is no pain, there is

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sadness, there is boredom, and
that also gives meaning to life. I

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like to talk about happiness. I
like to read about happiness. I like

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to build texts around happiness. These
days I finished the book by Gabriel Rolón,

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an Argentine psychoanalyst who writes about happiness. Your book is called exactly that,

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happiness, beyond illusion, and I
want to share with you some of

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the lines I wrote down from my
perspective, respecting the author who impressed me

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with his text, I loved it, I enjoyed it, but obviously I

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also make an original appropriation, truth
and I want to share several ideas.

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Seven ideas that I have here written
down in my daily notebook. The first,

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happiness is not a destiny, it
is a path. The author,

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Gabriel Rolón emphasizes that happiness is not
a permanent state, it is not an

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unattainable state. On the contrary,
it is a continuous process, a process

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of learning, of personal growth,
of enjoying the process, of enjoying the

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journey. That' s where I
thought of Tagore. When Tagore says with

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firmness that happiness is not a season, it is a way to travel.

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That excites me because sometimes, by
being attentive to the goal, by being

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attentive to the goal, we lose
the way, we lose the process,

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we lose the joy of the moments. The second idea is to understand that

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you have to listen to desire.
Rolon thinks it' s an art,

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the art of listening to desire.
It is fundamentally about connecting with our deep

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and authentic desires and for them to
be a guide to a fuller life.

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This implies reflecting succinctly on what really
motivates us, what we are passionate about

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what drives us forward, without wanting
to live in the foolish, without being

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in this slavery of meeting social expectations, expectations of another, but looking from

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the essence for what characterizes us,
because sometimes we are not happy, because

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we are more aware of external pressures
than what is inside us. The third

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idea is the importance of today,
of the present hears. We have to

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be here and now enjoying the small
daily moments, enjoying the small experiences,

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the simple experiences that are undoubtedly a
source of intensity and gratitude. Sometimes we

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focus on the exceptional, on the
spectacular, on that unique and unrepeatable,

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and we stop enjoying and enjoying what
happens over and over again, but it

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makes so much sense, one more
having healthy ties, meaningful links. These

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days I' ve been reading epicurous
again and I' ve been remembering what

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he tells us about friends. And
then our desires have to be healthy.

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We must take care of relationships,
provoke positive relationships, relationships that enrich us

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humanely, take care of our family, our friends. We cannot fall into

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this way of today' s society, of having superficial relationships based on connection,

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but not on encounter. Definitely,
to live in happiness we need solid

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relationships, solid relationships that allow us
to feel supported, one more idea,

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to accept imperfection. How many people, by that unreal perfectionism become bitter,

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destroy and destroy their relationships. I
wish we could understand that there, in

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the imperfection we are, there is
also a possibility of happiness. Perfection is

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an illusion and I think it is
unattainable. That is why we have to

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accept our limitations, because we have
everything, nor can we have everything.

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Nor does happiness mean having everything.
Nothing to do. There are things we

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don' t have, there are
things we experience loss in. That is

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part of life He hears and that
leads me to resilience, to that growth

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in the midst of adversity and before
it we have to learn that adversities,

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defeats are opportunities to learn, to
grow, to strengthen ourselves. We cannot

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live waiting for an ideal world in
which there is no solution, in which

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there are no clear difficulties, of
course we cannot definitely. We also need

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to let ourselves be moved by the
power of gratitude. Ah how many times

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have I spoken to you here in
gratitude. I have more notes, I

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got more notes from our friend and
I think he' s a friend because

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I read him and when I read
a text somehow, I know people.

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Gabriel Rolón, beautiful text, this
text of happiness. Beyond the illusion of

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Planeta publishing house, I am truly
glad to share a moment with you and

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I do not encourage anything. Be
happy, don' t let happiness become

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unattainable. It' s real,
it' s in you the way you

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live and enjoy. You know a
box.