Se amable contigo

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Why the affective relationships I have are
not stable. I like assertiveness, why

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love is

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You and that is already the basis
to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You know

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happiness demands self- pity. We
have insisted in several episodes on the need

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to have a good relationship with oneself. That' s the basis of the

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other relationships. Those who do not
have a good relationship with themselves cannot have

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a good relationship with any other person
because they are very sca. Today I

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want to insist on a key word
for self- relationship, self- pity.

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Yes, if we have insisted on
the need for compassion in all dimensions

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of life. Today I want to
make it clear that the first consequence,

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the first effect, has to be
on personal relationships. You have to deal

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with yourself with compassion. That'
s what it means in everyday life.

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It means five things. The first
be kind to yourself. This means avoiding

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these excessive self- criticisms. That
means avoiding treating you badly, telling you

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words that offend you, telling you
words that destroy you. It' s

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important that you treat yourself honestly,
but with kindness, with love. You

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' re not a person who fails
systematically, you' re not a worthless

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human being. Avoid those words that
are dynamite that destroy your heart. Avoid

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those recurring negative thoughts that somehow undermine
your self- esteem and make you always

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in a wrong attitude in your relationship
with others and lead you to emotional dependence.

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Second, forgive your mistakes, let' s be clear, no one

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is perfect. We all make mistakes, they are part of life' s

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learning and what we need is to
learn the lessons that those mistakes, that

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those mistakes propose to us, you
don' t have to fill yourself with

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guilt and let guilt become an unbearable
burden, that doesn' t allow you

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to straighten out, that doesn'
t allow you to see the horizon forgive

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yourself give thanks for your mistakes,
for your mistakes, and specify what life

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lessons are left there. Don'
t live with a grudge for you don

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' t have those fixed memories of
mistakes you' ve made, of muddy

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mistakes you' ve made, no, no, don' t let anyone

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be constantly stressing your mistakes, making
you feel bad and undermining your self-

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image. Please experience forgiveness processes to
move on, so that you can trust

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and believe third- party surround yourself
with positive people. Choose to spend time

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with people who fulfill three fundamental actions
in your life, who support you,

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who encourage you and who love you, you are compassionate, with yourself when

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you establish meaningful relationships with people who
encourage you, who make you believe,

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who are able, who are there
when you need help and who put their

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shoulder in, when you feel that
everything is going to fail and who,

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above all, love you, that
is, people who make you feel good,

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with yourself you are self compassionate when
you are able to establish healthy limits

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with others. You can' t
let others deliberately hurt you. If you

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know that person is harmful, that
person is destructive, that person always has

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words that offend you, words that
destroy you inwardly. You have to put

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limits, healthy limits, you have
to be able to look her or look

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her in the eye and say no. Not those requests that burden you,

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not those proposals that go against your
values, not those words and actions that

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hurt you and destroy you in n
o sns. Don' t be afraid

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to set healthy limits. You'
re not obliged to please everyone. You

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can' t feel guilty about a
person turning away from you because I wanted

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to abuse you and you don'
t allow it. Nor can you let

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someone harm you simply by being afraid
of a conflict, a break- up

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being self- compassionate also means celebrating
achievements. We were made to believe that

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humility was almost considered useless, that
humility was almost to say that we have

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no way to overcome, how to
get ahead. Many people stand before others

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without recognizing their qualities, their strengths, their achievements, because they are afraid

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that they will create pride. Self- compassionate means celebrating the successes that have

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been achieved, recognizing them with tranquility, serenity and celebrating them, sharing them

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with others, announcing them without fear. It doesn' t matter that these

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achievements are small, it doesn'
t matter that those achievements do not have

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the dimensions that others give to their
achievements. You' ve made it,

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you' ve made it, and
that makes you a healthy person. As

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I recognize it, I insist on
it. Be compassionate to you. You

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can' t be happy if you' re not compassionate to you. That

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means being nice to yourself. That
means forgiving you for the wrong mistakes.

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That means surrounding yourself with positive people, setting healthy boundaries, and celebrating your

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achievements in the spiritual dimension. It
helps a lot to shut up and give

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thanks for what one is to shut
up and thank them for the history that

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has been lived. It will be
before God, It will be before you

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sublime, before whom you consider fundamental
and recognize that you feel valuable, that

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you feel kind, that is,
that you deserve to be loved and that

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you have dreams to succeed. Be
compassionate to you. Don' t be

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afraid to recognize that you' re
worth a lot as a woman, as

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a man. Don' t be
afraid to recognize that there are so many

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things you' ve accomplished in your
life please love and give thanks for you.

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That' ll help you live on
your feet. Thank you for listening

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to me, thank you for sharing
this moment with me, thank you for

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opening your heart and letting these words
touch you, you, motivate you,

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encourage you to reflect. We'
re on our Spotify channel, our Apple

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channel, Amazon visa. Thank you
for listening to me and writing down these

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keys to your daily life. Cheer
up, you know.