Saber decidir

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Box why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love is

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You and that is already the basis
to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You know,

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you have to know why. That' s where life' s at

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stake. That' s where we' re happy or unhappy. It is

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in decisions that we make sense of
existence. For many years I have been

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investigating the subject of first as a
consequence of freedom, but above all seeing

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the power that a yes or no
has, the power that has to go

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this way or that one before the
continuous forks that arise in life. Today

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I want to talk about a very
important process in making decisions, and it

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is discerning. Discernment is fundamental in
decision- making, please do not decide

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without making a good discernment process.
For me, the word discerning makes me

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think immediately of the tsaranda, where
it filters, the soft, the thin

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and stays the gross is to know, to filter the reality, to know

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what it brings me, what it
takes away from me, what drives me,

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what stops me, to know,
to find what makes me good or

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what definitely does not allow me to
move forward. Discernment is fundamental to this,

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and from the readings I want to
offer you six fundamental criteria in this

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process of thinking, of internalizing,
of trying, of understanding life, and

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then of being able to decide.
The first criterion, no doubt, is

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the clarity one should have in one’ s own life. You must know

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where you are going, what your
purpose is, what you want, what

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you are really looking for, what
you are not looking for, that clarity,

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any decision is valid without really knowing
what I want, because you can

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fall into the trap of choosing in
any way. So today I would like

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to invite you to be able to
specify before you say what you are looking

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for, what you want to get, what you want to live with clarity.

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It is essential to have a clear
understanding of the decision being made.

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This involves defining the problem, the
situation you want to solve, identifying the

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different options available and understanding the implications
of each of them. That is the

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first criterion for such clarity. There
is a second criterion and, obviously,

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it is to be informed, that
is, to gather as much information as

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possible, the relevant, the reliable
one to be able to understand each of

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the options offered. You cannot make
a decision without information, without having the

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clarity of what causal relations are like
in that reality. This requires research,

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listening, asking experts, people who
have gone through these experiences, or simply

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learning through reading. Without clarity and
information, the decisions you make are improvised

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and random. The third criterion,
no doubt, has to do with values

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and emotions, that is, how
far you are willing to go, what

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you care most about in your life
what motivates you, because values set those

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limits and you have to have them
clear what you are looking for. But

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values are not enough, but there, together with emotions, you feel excited,

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you feel anxious, you feel at
peace. What makes you feel each

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of the different options that you have
in front of you. That' s

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fundamental, that' s necessary,
but things don' t work, but

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we' re not going to do
well and we' re going to end

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up in problems that we could have
solved, in problems that we could have

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anticipated. The fourth criterion certainly has
to do with the social dimension. One

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has to consider how the decision we
are making, how the decision you make

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affects people around the family, friends, co- workers, the world in

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general. How my decision affects them, how my decision strikes them or not.

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That is fundamental, that is necessary
and I invite you to review it,

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because sometimes we enter into a selfishness
that makes us think only of ourselves

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and not the others are part of
life. The fifth criterion, no doubt,

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is spiritual experience, and I think
you have one to meditate, you

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have one to pray, you have
one to transcend to the immediate, to

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the urgent, to the material,
You have one to live from above,

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from that higher dimension life. I, who am a believer, am always

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in an experience of worship to ask
God for clarity of what I am seeking

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and what I am doing so that
those decisions are somehow visualized. Not because

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of life, but from the higher
dimension. And the sixth criterion has to

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do with intuition. That thing my
mother calls hunches. I believe that intuition

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is a way of knowing, different
from rational knowledge, different from the metopological

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knowledge in which we have lived,
but fundamental to existence, because it is

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to grasp the sense of a single
blow. And that helps us and that

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really gives us clarity to move forward. I don' t know what decision

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you' re going to make.
I don' t know what fork you

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' re in. But check these
criteria carefully, pausely, and find out

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how you can use them in your
particular decision. Don' t despair,

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don' t be anxious, don' t improvise and be sure that you

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can always get ahead. Have confidence
in you have confidence in what you know

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and what you can. I want
to remind you that there is not a

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single set of criteria of discernment that
works for everyone. But I' m

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putting this to you because you can
adapt them to your personal situation and I

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hope you' ll help her make
a decision. It creates peace, creates

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serenity and helps you grow and helps
you move forward. I truly welcome the

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sharing with you of these criteria of
discernment. I wish we were formed more

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at this important stage of life.
Many, because they are reactive, end

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up in bigger problems or end up
repentant, full of guilt, full of

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mistakes that we could have avoided with
a good process of discernment. Thank you

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for being there and thank you for
sharing this episode with me. We'

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know, bo.