Responder a los groseros

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Bomb. Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love is You and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know how to relate to someone
rude, unfortunately, we all have rude

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people in our living spaces. In
the family, there is no lack of

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someone who is groser at work,
there is no lack of someone who has

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these characteristics and in daily life,
in the public transport service or what I

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know. In an office where you
arrive can you find rude people? Who

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' s a rude person. A
rude person is a person who has no

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education, who acts in an uncivilized
manner, a person who lacks delicacy and

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does not respect the essential norms of
coexistence, a person who insults, uses

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harmful, hurtful expressions and even has
attitudes that endanger one' s dignity.

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How to behave before those people.
The first thing I think is that you

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have to own your emotions, you
have to know how to manage your emotions

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you have to stay calm. It
is essential that one should not be carried

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away by anger because of the frustration
caused by a person’ s behavior.

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Remember that the rude person is probably
acting from a place of pain, insecurity

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or sometimes even stress, and then
you have to know how to stay calm,

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stay serene in order to control the
situation and not let it overflow and

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not create a greater conflict that leads
you to suffer. The second attitude is

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to communicate assertively. I love that
word, that ability, of assertiveness,

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which is to stand firm, communicating
the truth in the right way, with

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the right words and with the emotions
they use respond. That is to say,

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one must know, communicate clearly and
firmly, but without falling into the

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rudeness that one is trying to reject. One needs to make the other person

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feel and know that their behavior is
unacceptable, that you don' t tolerate

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it and you have to be clear, sincere in that and firm, because

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before rude people like one, have
a moment of hesitation they think it'

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s okay and then they feel right
to be so. There is no shortage

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of those who believe that rudeness is
a virtue. The third thing is to

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set limits. I think there are
times when you say no, and that

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doesn' t mean I don'
t talk to you anymore and that doesn

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' t mean I take a distance
from you and that doesn' t mean

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to manifest discomfort and make you feel
that you' re not willing, that

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you' re not willing to endure
that. And then you leave and there

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are people I don' t relate
to because they' re rude and I

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' m not willing to tolerate their
insults, their contempt, their rude behaviors.

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No point, I' m not
going to let myself be manipulated,

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I set limits, from saying no
to taking distance, because sometimes it'

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s that you have to take distance. One more element, don' t

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let the subject become personal. You
have to avoid taking things personally. It

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is important to understand that the behavior
of that rude person reflects his learning,

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his training and that it does not
really have to be something of mine,

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something that causes me great difficulty.
No I always remember, when studying negotiation,

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that the tutor said one cannot get
emotionally hooked, one does not let

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oneself be offended by the other,
because sometimes what the other seeks is that

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one is allowed to offend and arm
himself a problem and does not avoid taking

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things as something personal. Empathy must
also be used, because in some cases

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that rude attitude what you are doing
is a symptom of how difficult, how

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complicated that other person is living.
Sometimes it' s a way to ask

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for help. You' ll say, Alberto, but the least suitable.

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Yeah, but sometimes what you'
re asking for help and you have to

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be smart enough to know how to
act. You can' t let yourself

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go ahead. I' ll tell
you something else. Answer with humor.

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I think humor helps a lot to
look at things from a different perspective,

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to look at realities from new angles. Sometimes, when you respond with humor

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and take it with humor that situation
can keep calm and you can better handle

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the relationship. And one last attitude
is indifference, that of ignoring that person.

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It' s not someone close,
it' s not someone who'

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s part of my inner circle,
so why should I put balls, why

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should I pay attention? If it' s someone you don' t interact

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with regularly. So I don'
t know that much happens to me in

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public space. Someone is driving his
car and yelling at you and why answer

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him if he' s not an
important person in your life, why hook

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up if he' s not a
valuable person for you, you' re

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not going to see him ignore her
again. That' s fundamental. Listen,

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the most important thing is to maintain
dignity and well- being. You

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can' t let yourself be affected
by someone else' s rude behavior.

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I remind you by way of conclusion
of the attitudes that I propose to you.

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Keeping calm being assertive, setting limits, avoiding, taking things personally,

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showing empathy, avoiding. I insist
that that makes you crazy and then you

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respond with humor and a last one. It is necessary to ignore the person

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because it is not important to YOU
remember that you are intelligent, that you

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are the owner of your life,
that you are the owner of your destiny

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and that you do not want him
to be affected by the behavior of that

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poorly educated person, you see polite, rude offensive, insulting. That is

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why I invite you to reflect on
these attitudes and to return the tasks of

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life. Return the tasks of life
so that they really motivate you to be

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happy and to live fully, discovering
so many advances and so many lessons in

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you. Thank you for being there, thank you for sharing this episode with

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me. Thank you very much for
your messages apea Alberto José Arroba hoffmail Cam

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' re a valuable person. You' re a smart person. You deserve

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the best then to live from and
in happiness. You know bom Bu