April 25, 2024
Puedes fallar
Nos han hecho creer que siempre tenemos que ser victoriosos y eso nos ha llevado a tenerle miedo al fracaso.
Nos han hecho creer que siempre tenemos que ser victoriosos y eso nos ha llevado a tenerle miedo al fracaso.
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Bombs, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness
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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love
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is You and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,
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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You
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know, we' ve been led
to believe that we always have to be
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victorious, that we can' t
fail, that we must always be right,
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and that has led us to be
afraid of failure. What is a
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common emotion that generates in our daily
lives very serious consequences, because, for
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fear of failure, many people do
not do what they know to be done.
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They do not do what they have
decided after a great discernment, do
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in fact, fear of failure is
expressed as a avoidance of risks, that
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is, people do not make decisions
for fear of failure, prefer not to
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prove another way. As this fear
of failure is expressed it is the so
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- called procrastination, that deferment,
that postpones the decisions the start of the
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projects, because there is a deep
fear in the heart of not meeting expectations
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or embarrassing or wronging it. It
also manifests itself in terms of perfectionism.
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There are people who are all wrong. You can never say yes, right,
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it was good. Not always everything
is wrong, because they have an
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extremely high to irrational standard, and
then they never feel satisfied with anything they
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do. That leads them not to
accept or make decisions another way is excessive
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self- criticism. It' s
those people who only see how bad they
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have and how bad they' ve
done. It is they who point out
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mistakes constantly. You present them with
an immense white wall and they are able
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to discover the tiny black dot they
always have. They are always thinking about
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their defects, the incapacity that,
according to them, defines them the third
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or the fourth or the fifth.
Way is the fear of judgment. It
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is that they live depending on what
they will say and are afraid that the
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others will disqualify them or that the
others will signal them for having failed,
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for having been wrong. Then they
prefer to stay still, they prefer not
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to move on. Thus the fear
of failure is presented, when what we
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really need is to understand that failure
is a possibility, that it is not
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a misfortune, that it is not
a tragedy, that many times behind failure
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there are fundamental lessons and that failure
once does not mean that one fails always.
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So, in order to overcome the
fear of failure, I propose five
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very concrete activities. First, try
to change, try to change your perspective.
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Don' t think failure is the
opposite of success, Understand it as
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part of the learning process. Everyone, at some point in life makes mistakes
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and stumbles along the way, but
the important thing is how we get up
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and how we move on. Yeah, failure doesn' t define your value
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as a person. Your courage is
determined by your achievements, not your failures.
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Your value is defined by the person
you are. And he also understands
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that failure can be a valuable opportunity
to grow, to move forward. The
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second attitude is to set realistic goals
is that sometimes you propose irrational purposes,
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impossible to fulfill. Toy, please
set realistic goals. To do this,
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it divides the big objectives into small
steps, into measurable, manageable steps.
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That' s gonna help you be
safer, more motivated while you' re
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doing your homework. It also sets
realistic expectations that match your abilities, your
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qualities, your life tools. Ah
and do not stop celebrating your wolves when
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you reach a goal, please celebrate, please live a moment, an exciting
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moment, a beautiful moment. Be
that clear. Hey, I want to
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cut you off, too, and
this is the third thing you have to
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focus on what you can control.
Many times your fear of failure is born
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in that you want to control the
impossible. Don' t worry about what
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you can' t control. Focus
on your own efforts. Focus on what
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you can do to achieve your goals. He also accepts that uncertainty is for
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life. You can' t predict
what' s going to happen. We
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have to live. Risk is part
of risk, but above all, trust
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your skills and your ability to overcome
all those challenges. The fourth attitude is
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to develop a growth mentality, to
believe that you can, that you can
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learn, that you can grow,
that you are a person that you know
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how to strive and that you know
how to dedicate. Get those negative beliefs
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out of your mind that block you
from being jailed, think you' re
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growing steadily. You also need to
be open to comments and constructive criticism.
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Don' t be afraid of criticism. Use them as opportunities to learn and
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to improve. It persists in the
face of obstacles, in the face of
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setbacks, It is necessary to persevere, it is necessary to be tenacious.
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You can' t give up easily. One has to move on, even
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though he stumbles, even though he
falls. The fifth attitude seeks support.
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Sometimes we just can' t.
So we need to talk to friends,
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relatives, some therapist, about the
fears and concerns we have to help us
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00:07:42.959 --> 00:07:46.079
understand whether they are real or not, because many of our fears are irrational.
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It' s not true to surround
yourself with positive people, those who
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00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:56.079
encourage, those who facilitate, those
who say you can. I believe in
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you too seek inspiration from my triumphant
people, from people who have overcome themselves,
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who have overcome adversities. I particularly
like to read biographies for that,
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00:08:11.319 --> 00:08:16.959
because I think it' s fundamental
and I think it' s important to
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find out how people are going through. I' ve failed is part of
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the life and fear you feel.
Also the important thing is to face it
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and overcome it. I remind you
again of attitudes to do so. One
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change your perspective, two, set
realistic goals, three focus on what you
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can control, fourth develop a growth
mentality, and five seek support in those
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people who have shown that they love
you, in those people who are willing
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to put their shoulders for you in
those people who want you to triumph,
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00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:07.480
that you smile. I am convinced
that with the right strategies and support,
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00:09:07.919 --> 00:09:13.399
you can develop the confidence, the
constancy, the resilience that is needed to
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00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:18.159
achieve the goals. Today, looking
into your eyes, I tell you not
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to be afraid to fail, review
these attitudes again, ask yourself how they
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00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:31.159
are in your life and push forward. I' m sure you' ll
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always win. Cheer up, you
know.
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Bombs, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness
2
00:00:08.119 --> 00:00:14.519
because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love
3
00:00:14.560 --> 00:00:21.399
is You and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,
4
00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:30.000
to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You
5
00:00:30.120 --> 00:00:42.799
know, we' ve been led
to believe that we always have to be
6
00:00:42.840 --> 00:00:52.079
victorious, that we can' t
fail, that we must always be right,
7
00:00:52.600 --> 00:00:54.840
and that has led us to be
afraid of failure. What is a
8
00:00:54.880 --> 00:01:04.920
common emotion that generates in our daily
lives very serious consequences, because, for
9
00:01:06.400 --> 00:01:12.959
fear of failure, many people do
not do what they know to be done.
10
00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:19.239
They do not do what they have
decided after a great discernment, do
11
00:01:19.319 --> 00:01:26.280
in fact, fear of failure is
expressed as a avoidance of risks, that
12
00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:36.680
is, people do not make decisions
for fear of failure, prefer not to
13
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:42.719
prove another way. As this fear
of failure is expressed it is the so
14
00:01:45.040 --> 00:01:51.840
- called procrastination, that deferment,
that postpones the decisions the start of the
15
00:01:52.799 --> 00:01:59.680
projects, because there is a deep
fear in the heart of not meeting expectations
16
00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:05.799
or embarrassing or wronging it. It
also manifests itself in terms of perfectionism.
17
00:02:07.680 --> 00:02:15.919
There are people who are all wrong. You can never say yes, right,
18
00:02:15.719 --> 00:02:21.879
it was good. Not always everything
is wrong, because they have an
19
00:02:22.639 --> 00:02:30.800
extremely high to irrational standard, and
then they never feel satisfied with anything they
20
00:02:30.840 --> 00:02:38.719
do. That leads them not to
accept or make decisions another way is excessive
21
00:02:38.759 --> 00:02:45.520
self- criticism. It' s
those people who only see how bad they
22
00:02:45.639 --> 00:02:49.280
have and how bad they' ve
done. It is they who point out
23
00:02:49.360 --> 00:02:54.240
mistakes constantly. You present them with
an immense white wall and they are able
24
00:02:54.240 --> 00:03:00.639
to discover the tiny black dot they
always have. They are always thinking about
25
00:03:00.680 --> 00:03:08.719
their defects, the incapacity that,
according to them, defines them the third
26
00:03:08.800 --> 00:03:16.159
or the fourth or the fifth.
Way is the fear of judgment. It
27
00:03:16.199 --> 00:03:24.159
is that they live depending on what
they will say and are afraid that the
28
00:03:24.199 --> 00:03:29.960
others will disqualify them or that the
others will signal them for having failed,
29
00:03:29.960 --> 00:03:35.479
for having been wrong. Then they
prefer to stay still, they prefer not
30
00:03:35.479 --> 00:03:40.560
to move on. Thus the fear
of failure is presented, when what we
31
00:03:40.599 --> 00:03:47.199
really need is to understand that failure
is a possibility, that it is not
32
00:03:47.280 --> 00:03:53.919
a misfortune, that it is not
a tragedy, that many times behind failure
33
00:03:54.039 --> 00:04:01.280
there are fundamental lessons and that failure
once does not mean that one fails always.
34
00:04:02.039 --> 00:04:09.400
So, in order to overcome the
fear of failure, I propose five
35
00:04:09.840 --> 00:04:15.639
very concrete activities. First, try
to change, try to change your perspective.
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00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:20.560
Don' t think failure is the
opposite of success, Understand it as
37
00:04:20.639 --> 00:04:26.279
part of the learning process. Everyone, at some point in life makes mistakes
38
00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:31.040
and stumbles along the way, but
the important thing is how we get up
39
00:04:31.120 --> 00:04:36.040
and how we move on. Yeah, failure doesn' t define your value
40
00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:41.240
as a person. Your courage is
determined by your achievements, not your failures.
41
00:04:42.560 --> 00:04:47.879
Your value is defined by the person
you are. And he also understands
42
00:04:47.920 --> 00:04:55.120
that failure can be a valuable opportunity
to grow, to move forward. The
43
00:04:55.240 --> 00:05:04.680
second attitude is to set realistic goals
is that sometimes you propose irrational purposes,
44
00:05:05.519 --> 00:05:13.519
impossible to fulfill. Toy, please
set realistic goals. To do this,
45
00:05:13.759 --> 00:05:18.600
it divides the big objectives into small
steps, into measurable, manageable steps.
46
00:05:19.319 --> 00:05:25.160
That' s gonna help you be
safer, more motivated while you' re
47
00:05:25.240 --> 00:05:31.839
doing your homework. It also sets
realistic expectations that match your abilities, your
48
00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:40.680
qualities, your life tools. Ah
and do not stop celebrating your wolves when
49
00:05:40.879 --> 00:05:46.839
you reach a goal, please celebrate, please live a moment, an exciting
50
00:05:46.959 --> 00:05:56.199
moment, a beautiful moment. Be
that clear. Hey, I want to
51
00:05:56.560 --> 00:06:00.279
cut you off, too, and
this is the third thing you have to
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00:06:00.279 --> 00:06:04.600
focus on what you can control.
Many times your fear of failure is born
53
00:06:04.680 --> 00:06:10.000
in that you want to control the
impossible. Don' t worry about what
54
00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:15.439
you can' t control. Focus
on your own efforts. Focus on what
55
00:06:15.480 --> 00:06:19.600
you can do to achieve your goals. He also accepts that uncertainty is for
56
00:06:19.639 --> 00:06:24.279
life. You can' t predict
what' s going to happen. We
57
00:06:24.279 --> 00:06:29.000
have to live. Risk is part
of risk, but above all, trust
58
00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:39.319
your skills and your ability to overcome
all those challenges. The fourth attitude is
59
00:06:39.360 --> 00:06:45.879
to develop a growth mentality, to
believe that you can, that you can
60
00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:49.439
learn, that you can grow,
that you are a person that you know
61
00:06:49.560 --> 00:06:51.680
how to strive and that you know
how to dedicate. Get those negative beliefs
62
00:06:51.759 --> 00:06:58.920
out of your mind that block you
from being jailed, think you' re
63
00:06:58.959 --> 00:07:05.040
growing steadily. You also need to
be open to comments and constructive criticism.
64
00:07:06.759 --> 00:07:12.360
Don' t be afraid of criticism. Use them as opportunities to learn and
65
00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:17.759
to improve. It persists in the
face of obstacles, in the face of
66
00:07:17.759 --> 00:07:18.959
setbacks, It is necessary to persevere, it is necessary to be tenacious.
67
00:07:19.279 --> 00:07:24.759
You can' t give up easily. One has to move on, even
68
00:07:24.800 --> 00:07:30.560
though he stumbles, even though he
falls. The fifth attitude seeks support.
69
00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:35.120
Sometimes we just can' t.
So we need to talk to friends,
70
00:07:35.800 --> 00:07:42.920
relatives, some therapist, about the
fears and concerns we have to help us
71
00:07:42.959 --> 00:07:46.079
understand whether they are real or not, because many of our fears are irrational.
72
00:07:47.160 --> 00:07:51.839
It' s not true to surround
yourself with positive people, those who
73
00:07:51.839 --> 00:07:56.079
encourage, those who facilitate, those
who say you can. I believe in
74
00:07:56.160 --> 00:08:03.680
you too seek inspiration from my triumphant
people, from people who have overcome themselves,
75
00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:11.000
who have overcome adversities. I particularly
like to read biographies for that,
76
00:08:11.319 --> 00:08:16.959
because I think it' s fundamental
and I think it' s important to
77
00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:22.439
find out how people are going through. I' ve failed is part of
78
00:08:22.519 --> 00:08:28.959
the life and fear you feel.
Also the important thing is to face it
79
00:08:28.959 --> 00:08:33.399
and overcome it. I remind you
again of attitudes to do so. One
80
00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:41.679
change your perspective, two, set
realistic goals, three focus on what you
81
00:08:41.799 --> 00:08:50.279
can control, fourth develop a growth
mentality, and five seek support in those
82
00:08:50.279 --> 00:08:54.960
people who have shown that they love
you, in those people who are willing
83
00:08:56.000 --> 00:09:01.080
to put their shoulders for you in
those people who want you to triumph,
84
00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:07.480
that you smile. I am convinced
that with the right strategies and support,
85
00:09:07.919 --> 00:09:13.399
you can develop the confidence, the
constancy, the resilience that is needed to
86
00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:18.159
achieve the goals. Today, looking
into your eyes, I tell you not
87
00:09:18.519 --> 00:09:26.039
to be afraid to fail, review
these attitudes again, ask yourself how they
88
00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:31.159
are in your life and push forward. I' m sure you' ll
89
00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:37.120
always win. Cheer up, you
know.
