Mejorando la confianza en mi mismo

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Bombax, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love

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is You and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know no one can be happy but
trust himself. No person can be successful,

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but he trusts himself. This is
what we call self- efficacy.

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According to Alberto Bandura, self-
efficacy is the belief in one' s

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own ability to organize and execute the
necessary courses of action to manage possible situations.

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In other words, self- efficacy
is a person' s belief in

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his ability to succeed in a particular
situation. The question I ask myself right

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now is how I grow my self- efficacy, how I can rely more

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on my skills, on my abilities, how I can improve my actions,

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my companies, my projects, improving
my self- efficacy. Walterrizo, a

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Colombian psychologist, poses four fundamental PSS
to improve confidence in himself. The first

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is self- concept. He invites
us to develop a positive image of each

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one of us, that is,
to recognize strengths, values, abilities,

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to accept that we are a unique
valuable person and that we have something very

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unique to offer to the world.
That means we need to be clear about

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the negative beliefs that anchor us,
bind us, and do not allow us

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to develop. That means every day
to be clear how valuable we are.

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Self- concept is essential to grow
in self- confidence. The second thing

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is what he calls self- image. What it has to do with the

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way we look, that implies physical
appearance. You have to take care of

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the physical appearance, that is,
you have to feel good about the image

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that we are projecting before others.
This involves being surrounded by people who with

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their words, who with their actions, make us feel valuable, make us

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believe in ourselves. If you don' t create a positive environment, you

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won' t be able to have
a good self- image, because it

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' s very likely that people around
you are constantly undermining your concept, the

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concept you have of yourself. The
third pillar he proposes is self- reinforcing

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and I like it because it presents
us with three very specific tasks to make

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us strengthen ourselves. One must celebrate
the achievements. We definitely have to be

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proud of what we' re capable
of. We have to show the joy

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of achieving a goal, of achieving
a dream. When you celebrate your accomplishments,

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you reinforce the belief that you are
able to achieve the goals you have

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set yourself, celebrate the good you
do. Count it anclalo in some symbol.

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Don' t feel bad because you' re proud of your performance.

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The second task he poses here in
the author reinforces, reward himself for efforts

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When you disciplinedly work for something,
when you sacrifice yourself to perform a task,

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you deserve a prize, a prize
that you yourself must give yourself if

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you do, you will stay motivated, you will stay happy and that will

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help you move on. The third
task he poses is to forgive you.

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Nobody' s perfect. We all
fail, we all make mistakes and the

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important thing is not to judge ourselves, destroy ourselves and end up for them,

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but to learn, heal the wounds
that have been generated and to take

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forward. Don' t exaggerate punishments
for your mistakes. And the fourth pillar,

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which focuses on self- efficacy,
gives us four clear reflections. One

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to trust, you to believe,
you set challenging goals, but that are

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achievable. Don' t propose impossible
purposes, because, of course, that

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will lead to negative production. You
won' t make it and you'

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ll make a very hard self-
assessment and a circle will repeat itself.

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That' s why you' re
looking for goals that challenge you, but

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that' s, please, it' s n r two- fold that

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respond to the skills you have,
the qualities you have. The second is

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to develop a plan to achieve the
goals. Eyes, goals are not reached

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overnight. Goals are achieved when you
set a path, that is, when

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you have a few steps to reach
those goals and how those goals lead you

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to a giant and large purpose that
you have without that plan you will end

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up in the hands of improvisation,
and that will help you fail it.

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Third, act. Act. Things
aren' t gonna fall out of the

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sky. You have to cause them. You have to provoke them. That

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means that you have to strive to
give the best of You, that you

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have to strive to do. Sometimes
you stay in reflections, you stay in

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good words, but you don'
t act. We have to. And

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the fourth attitude he says, persist
in the face of difficulties, do not

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give up when things get difficult.
Be persistent, be constant, go ahead

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and sure you will find ways of
solution and sure you will be able to

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win. There are four pillars there
for you to trust in, for you

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to believe in You, because trusting
and believing in You will be able to

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be a happy person, a successful
person, self- concept, self-

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image, author reinforcement, self-
efficacy. Four fundamental pillars for you to

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gain greater confidence in IT. Now
you have to work on it. I

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propose that you listen to the episode
again and that each one of those reflections

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that I have put before you,
you make them very precise tasks in your

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life, you put very concrete calls
of action in your existence and that way

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you see the best of you.
Thank you for sharing these episodes with me,

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thank you for always being here the
truth. I trust and believe that

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we are able to overcome all difficulties. Special greetings for you. Thank you,

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you know bu