Lucha contra la envidia

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Why the affective relationships I have are
not stable. I like assertiveness because it

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invites us to prudence that what should
motivate our word is always love is you

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and that is already the basis to
go out to conquer many goals, to

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fight, to give a better version
and enjoy life fully. You know all

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at some point in life we have
felt in life that emotion of wanting to

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have the achievements or possessions of another
person. Really, envy is an unpleasant

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experience, because it fills us with
sadness sometimes with anger for moments of resentment

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with life and with those people.
For this reason, today I would like

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to invite you to think about four
strategies that you can use to fight envy,

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to have inner peace and not allow
that emotion to take hold of you

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in such a way that it makes
you an unhappy person. The first strategy

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I propose is for you to recognize
and accept that emotion. You don'

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t want to deny the emotion you
feel. In order to manage our emotions

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well, we need to accept them. So, in order to face envy,

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the first thing is to recognize and
accept that we are feeling envy.

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That means you can look at yourself
with compassion with love, that is,

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don' t judge yourself, don' t punish yourself for having that emotion.

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It' s a human emotion,
it' s a common emotion,

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it' s a normal emotion.
No one can say I' ve never

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been envious, because it' s
human. So the important thing is to

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recognize and accept that emotion. The
second strategy is to work on your self

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- esteem. No doubt when we
do not have adequate self- esteem,

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that is, when we have low
self- esteem, we are more prone

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to envy. That' s why
you have to work hard to be your

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self- concept, that is,
what you think of yourself. Your self

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- esteem, that is, what
you feel about yourself and your self-

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efficacy, that is, what you
think you are capable of. It is

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important that you work to strengthen your
self- esteem, accepting and valuing yourself.

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You' re a unique person.
You' re an unrepeatable person and

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you have to know that. That' ll help you overcome any feeling of

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wanting to have what the other has. The third strategy. Normally, people,

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when they suffer envy, are focused
on their needs, are focused on

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their limitations, on their difficulties in
their problems. Well, to be able

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to cope with this emotion, you
need to focus on your strengths. We

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could say refocus your attention. Focus
on your achievements, your blessings, your

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possessions, and give thanks for that, When you focus on what you have

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and give thanks, you realize that
you don' t have, why you

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want what someone else owns, because
you are a person with many, many

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qualities and many things to thank.
A fourth strategy is to celebrate the successes

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of others. We believe that competition
must be the absolute value that we live

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in and do not have, why
be comparing ourselves constantly. It is true

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that in life there are times when
there are experiences of competition, but we

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cannot live in that logic that if
the other has, we do not have

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that if the other is more,
we are less, because that is not

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true, because that is not true. You can be more and the other

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can be more. They' re
not in a competition where they always have

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to think that in order for you
to do well, the other one has

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to go wrong. That is why
I would like to invite you to rejoice

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in the achievements of the people around
you. That will help you feel more

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optimistic and obvious, less envious or
envious. That' s why he'

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s developing a supportive activity, helping
others to achieve their goals. Be supportive,

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be kind and generous and celebrate with
joy that others do well. When

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you are like this, you learn
to compete with yourself and not to be

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competing with others. Hey, when
you compare yourself and compare yourself to others,

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you tend to feel inferior and that
makes you more envious. That'

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s why I tell you to celebrate
the successes of others, focusing on your

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own growth, on your own personal
development, set achievable goals and have early

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victories that drive you, that make
you trust You, that make you believe

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in You. There are four very
punctual strategies. Now, if envy is

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really causing you great emotional distress and
it is preventing you from living a full

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life and it is causing you too
much disorder, you have to seek professional

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help, with total freedom, with
total humility. I am sure that an

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ideal and professional person in the human
behavior sciences will help you understand the root

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of your envy and develop strategies to
overcome it. I insist on these four

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keys because it seems fundamental to me. These are strategies that you can rehearse,

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and you can write them down and
start working on them. One recognizes

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and accepts envy, two cultivates your
self- esteem, three focuses on your

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strengths, on your achievements, on
your blessings, and four celebrates the successes

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of those around you. Don'
t forget that this emotion can be overcome

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with effort and dedication. To do
this, you have to cultivate inner peace.

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To do this you have to generate
spiritual experiences that help you discover,

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that your life makes sense, that
you are a person with many possibilities and

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that you can definitely celebrate your life, also celebrating the lives of others.

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In the spiritual space, it helps
me a lot to pray for these people

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and ask God to bless them and
ask God to help them and ask God

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to bring them many good things.
I do not focus only on my needs

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and what I commonly ask of God, but I think of everything that God

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can bring to them and humbly,
with mystique I pray I beg the God

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of life for those people. Listen
to four strategies for you to think about,

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for reflections and I make you think
about them, because many times we

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believe that others are jealous of us
and it is possible, but more important

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and what you can control is when
that emotion is in you. Thank you

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for being there, thank you for
living this moment of reflection. We'

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re communicating. I' m at
PE Alberto José Arroba, Hotmail com Don

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' t forget the orational. This
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bookstore in the country. Hey,
cheer up, you know, bo.