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Bombs, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love you are and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know how we deal with gossip
people. Truth can be one of the

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most frustrating and uncomfortable experiences. I' d like to share with you some

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attitudes, some keys that will help
us deal with these kinds of people.

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Everyone, in any of our CONs
contexts, we have people with these characteristics,

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people who want to tell us the
last situation of someone' s intimate

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life, people who exaggerate or take
for granted the interpretation that they make of

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some gesture or some situation of reality
and go out to tell them. It

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is those people who believe that they
should always be a source of information about

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others. What to do with them. The first thing is to stay calm.

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It is important not to react impulsively
or emotionally to gossip. It really

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affects a harmful comment, an exaggeration, a lie, or simply something that

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didn' t have to be known
to belong to privacy and privacy. But

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you can' t fall into the
game. It has to be very rational

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and for it to behave in a
serene way. Be clear that gossipy people

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seek to generate attention and provoke reactions. If you get angry, if you

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get frustrated, if you lose control, you end up giving these people a

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lot of power before they calm down. Second of all, don' t

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take part in the gossip. The
best way to stop gossip is not to

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participate in it. Don' t
listen to gossip, don' t share

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it, don' t feed it
with your own comments. If someone comes

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to tell you a gossip for the
look in your eyes and tell him I

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' m not interested. Or just
change the subject. Don' t forget

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that the person who brings you gossip
from others is the same person who brings

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gossip from you to others. Then, please, in this you have to

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be coherent vertical. On more than
one occasion, it' s been my

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turn to tell them you know what. I don' t care, it

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' s none of my business.
I' m not interested in that.

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Some people get upset, well,
it doesn' t matter, but let

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them know we' re not in
that game. Third, many times these

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people are not to be paid attention. Not what we do is network,

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it' s someone I don'
t care about in life, it'

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s someone I don' t meet. But other times you have to confront

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people And you have to confront them
because they are people that belong to our

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circle, they are people that we
are going to meet every day. Then

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you have to look into their eyes
and confront them and tell them directly that

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you don' t appreciate their behavior, that you don' t want to

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hear gossip, that it' s
hurting you, that it' s ruining

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your good name with that attitude.
It must be done respectfully, assertively,

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calmly, without insults, without attacks, without contempt. This is necessary.

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The fourth key is to get away
from these people. If it' s

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someone you can avoid interacting with,
then do it for what you wear out,

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for what you have to hook up
with those people. I think you

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have to look for the company of
positive people, of vitamin people, as

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Dr Mariane Rojas calls it. I
got people to help me grow, people

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to value me, people to drive
me and make me feel good. So,

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one, in many situations, has
to take a distance. No pity

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takes distance now don' t be
affected by those comments. So the key

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here is to strengthen self- esteem. Gossip people often take advantage of the

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insecurities of others. If you have
a high self- esteem, your comments

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are less likely to affect you.
You' re clear you' re worth

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a lot. You are clear that
you do not need the approval of others

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and that it is not true that
a lie is repeated. Many times it

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is true to work on you concentrate, on you valorate, love, strive,

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to discover your qualities, your abilities, and do not let your life

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be dependent on the approval of others
you are very very valuable and have much

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to contribute. Now, in this
age of networks, it is essential to

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protect privacy be careful with the information
you share with others. Not everyone needs

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to know what you' re living. Not everyone needs to know the drops

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under your roof. Not everyone has
to know your intimacy. Not many people

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don' t care and others just
want to have that information to hurt you.

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Therefore, don' t share personal
or confidential information with people you don

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' t know well or just don' t trust. Watch what you post

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on networks. Sometimes, because of
this web slavery, many end up showing

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us everything when they get up that
they eat, how they walk, how

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they sleep and sometimes you say why, why you don' t have it,

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why they' re giving all that
kind of information. Now, if

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you feel overwhelmed by these malicious gossip
comments, seek the support of a friend,

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a family member, a therapist.
They can help you deal with the

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situation, and surely they will enable
you to develop strategies to deal with that

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situation and overcome them. Work on
you, work on what you' re

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capable of, work on what you
can control. There you have some keys,

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some keys that, I' m
sure you can put into practice.

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The important thing is that your life
doesn' t fall into the swing of

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the comments. The important thing is
that your comments don' t affect you

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more than usual than you occasionally own
you, own you and your eye.

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Avoid participating in these gossip networks,
avoid participating in those gossip groups. Listen,

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I insist that today he speaks badly
of someone else to you, tomorrow

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he goes and talks badly about you
to someone else. That' s why

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we need to check. I really
like to think about Socrates' filters.

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You remember the three questions one has
to ask. It is necessary, it

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is true, it is good,
before commenting and before telling someone a gossip

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or a word or a phrase of
those that can definitely end up harming others.

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Thank you for being there Thank you
for sharing this experience with me Don

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' t forget the orational, the
man is alive, it is a really

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powerful tool to grow spiritually. I
hope you can have it and thank you

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for listening to our episodes, our
simple reflections around practical things in life,

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always trying to generate Well- being, being encouraged and strength. You know

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