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0:00 Bombs, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love you are and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know how we deal with gossip people. Truth can be one of the most frustrating and uncomfortable experiences. I' d like to share with you some attitudes, some keys that will help us deal with these kinds of people.

0:57 Everyone, in any of our CONs contexts, we have people with these characteristics, people who want to tell us the last situation of someone' s intimate life, people who exaggerate or take for granted the interpretation that they make of some gesture or some situation of reality and go out to tell them. It is those people who believe that they should always be a source of information about others. What to do with them. The first thing is to stay calm.

1:40 It is important not to react impulsively or emotionally to gossip. It really affects a harmful comment, an exaggeration, a lie, or simply something that didn' t have to be known to belong to privacy and privacy. But you can' t fall into the game. It has to be very rational and for it to behave in a serene way. Be clear that gossipy people seek to generate attention and provoke reactions. If you get angry, if you get frustrated, if you lose control, you end up giving these people a lot of power before they calm down. Second of all, don' t take part in the gossip. The best way to stop gossip is not to participate in it. Don' t listen to gossip, don' t share it, don' t feed it with your own comments. If someone comes to tell you a gossip for the look in your eyes and tell him I ' m not interested. Or just change the subject. Don' t forget that the person who brings you gossip from others is the same person who brings

3:15 gossip from you to others. Then, please, in this you have to be coherent vertical. On more than one occasion, it' s been my turn to tell them you know what. I don' t care, it ' s none of my business. I' m not interested in that. Some people get upset, well, it doesn' t matter, but let them know we' re not in that game. Third, many times these people are not to be paid attention. Not what we do is network, it' s someone I don' t care about in life, it' s someone I don' t meet. But other times you have to confront people And you have to confront them because they are people that belong to our circle, they are people that we are going to meet every day. Then you have to look into their eyes and confront them and tell them directly that you don' t appreciate their behavior, that you don' t want to hear gossip, that it' s hurting you, that it' s ruining your good name with that attitude. It must be done respectfully, assertively, calmly, without insults, without attacks, without contempt. This is necessary.

4:46 The fourth key is to get away from these people. If it' s someone you can avoid interacting with, then do it for what you wear out, for what you have to hook up with those people. I think you have to look for the company of positive people, of vitamin people, as Dr Mariane Rojas calls it. I got people to help me grow, people to value me, people to drive me and make me feel good. So, one, in many situations, has to take a distance. No pity takes distance now don' t be affected by those comments. So the key here is to strengthen self- esteem. Gossip people often take advantage of the insecurities of others. If you have a high self- esteem, your comments are less likely to affect you. You' re clear you' re worth a lot. You are clear that you do not need the approval of others and that it is not true that a lie is repeated. Many times it is true to work on you concentrate, on you valorate, love, strive, to discover your qualities, your abilities, and do not let your life

6:21 be dependent on the approval of others you are very very valuable and have much to contribute. Now, in this age of networks, it is essential to protect privacy be careful with the information you share with others. Not everyone needs to know what you' re living. Not everyone needs to know the drops under your roof. Not everyone has to know your intimacy. Not many people don' t care and others just want to have that information to hurt you. Therefore, don' t share personal or confidential information with people you don ' t know well or just don' t trust. Watch what you post on networks. Sometimes, because of this web slavery, many end up showing us everything when they get up that they eat, how they walk, how they sleep and sometimes you say why, why you don' t have it, why they' re giving all that kind of information. Now, if you feel overwhelmed by these malicious gossip comments, seek the support of a friend, a family member, a therapist. They can help you deal with the situation, and surely they will enable you to develop strategies to deal with that

7:55 situation and overcome them. Work on you, work on what you' re capable of, work on what you can control. There you have some keys, some keys that, I' m sure you can put into practice. The important thing is that your life doesn' t fall into the swing of the comments. The important thing is that your comments don' t affect you more than usual than you occasionally own you, own you and your eye. Avoid participating in these gossip networks, avoid participating in those gossip groups. Listen, I insist that today he speaks badly of someone else to you, tomorrow he goes and talks badly about you to someone else. That' s why we need to check. I really like to think about Socrates' filters.

8:54 You remember the three questions one has to ask. It is necessary, it is true, it is good, before commenting and before telling someone a gossip or a word or a phrase of those that can definitely end up harming others. Thank you for being there Thank you for sharing this experience with me Don ' t forget the orational, the man is alive, it is a really powerful tool to grow spiritually. I hope you can have it and thank you for listening to our episodes, our simple reflections around practical things in life, always trying to generate Well- being, being encouraged and strength. You know by a bux