La alegría de tener hermanos

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Bombax? Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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the love soy and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and to enjoy life fully.

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You know relationships with brothers can be
some of the most important and lasting

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in our lives. That' s
why you need to take care of those

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relationships, because they are a source
of love, a source of support,

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a source of companionship And you have
to take care of them, because when

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you don' t take care of
them, they can end up being problematic

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and become a source of quarrels,
sources of bitterness, sources of disunity.

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And that' s not right.
All of us who have the joy of

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having brothers. We constantly need to
take care of those relationships. The question

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is how to do it, how
we take care of our relationships. I

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' ll put a few things to
you. First of all, I believe

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that good communication is necessary. We
have said this on several occasions in these

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episodes. The more efficient and effective
communication, the better relationship there is.

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That is why I invite you to
have good communication with your brothers, to

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speak among yourselves, to communicate openly
and honestly. When I talk about open

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and honest communication, I talk about
telling what' s inside, telling what

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' s bothering you, telling what
hurts you, telling what makes you happy,

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telling what fills you, that is, telling everything honestly. That means

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saying what we disagree with, because
it is possible for your brothers to do

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things or say things that you don' t like, that bother you and

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you need to tell them, you
need to share it. But communication is

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not just talk. Communication is also
listening. Then the invitation makes them listen

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to each other and try to understand
each other' s views by being respectful.

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Even if we do not agree with
those brothers, we must treat them

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with respect, that trust does not
become a space of respect. Healthy communication

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is a communication that does not accept
insults, that does not accept personal attacks,

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a communication marked by empathy, where
one tries to understand and feel what

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the other is feeling, where one
approaches the perspective that the other person,

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that is, my brother or my
sister has to be able to go forward,

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because if we communicate well, then
we will be able to build an

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efficient relationship, a relationship where that
love, that support and that companionship is

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given that is required. The second
would be conflict resolution. In every human

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relationship there are conflicts, there are
disagreements, there is always a clash of

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interests, that is, you would
have to be angels of God in order

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not to be disgruntled, in order
not to have misunderstandings. It' s

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normal for that to happen. That
is why we must learn to face these

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difficulties and to get ahead. To
do this, we must be willing to

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commit ourselves, that is, to
make the relationship go on, relationships are

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maintained, because there is a commitment
decision, sometimes people want relationships to be

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supported by magic, even if they
sustain themselves. That can' t be.

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They hold if you make the effort, hold it, if you'

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re committed to the relationship. That' s why it' s not about

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winning. It is not always about
getting away with one' s, but

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rather about being willing to find a
solution, a solution that works for everyone.

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That which we call consensus, that
which we call the possibility of agreeing

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answers that satisfy us. That'
s why we have to find solutions to

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win, win instead of trying to
win the fight. No, no,

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it doesn' t get us anywhere. When you seek to be right,

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impose your judgment, impose your interest. What you are doing is deepening into

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the wound or often establishing the new
conditions for a new conflict. So,

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please, it is important to focus
on the solutions, on the win-

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win, in which all those involved
in the conflict feel benefited, feel that

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they can succeed. A wonderful gift
is forgiveness. One cannot live by resentment

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of resentment with the brothers. One
has to forgive, to heal the wounds,

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to remember without pain. One cannot
continue to establish relationships from a grudge,

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because that' s all it does
is move you to the offense,

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to the offense, to mistreat the
other. We all make mistakes. We

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know that, and so when our
brothers do something to us, what we

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have to do is be willing to
forgive them and make them understand the mistake.

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I insist resentment damages the relationship.
A third thing is to share time.

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If we want the relationship to work, we have to share time.

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Each one, depending on the circumstances, knows how much time he can share,

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how much time he can give.
But there must be communication, there

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must be meetings to celebrate life,
there must be meetings to accompany one another

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in times of illness, there must
be meetings simply to make oneself feel love.

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This involves supporting each other, being
there for each other, being there

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at the time when the other has
emotional difficulties and requires a shoulder where to

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lie down, to come together to
celebrate life, to celebrate every success of

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the brother or sister. I love
it, for example, when I'

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m doing well in something, when
I get a result or a positive score.

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I write it in the chat of
my brothers and I am fascinated to

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read to my brothers telling me beautiful
things, telling me nice things, because

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that not only makes me feel good, but it gives quality to relationships.

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And maybe the last thing is to
celebrate the differences. Hey, we'

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re not the same, we don' t have the same characteristics, we

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don' t think the same way. We need to recognize the differences,

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know that she thinks in one way
that you think of another, celebrate them

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because there is a benefit there,
because there is a wealth there and take

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advantage of them. I love it, for example, and I put it

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on a very superficial level. We
have different musical tastes. Then sometimes one

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of my brothers who likes salsa so
much. I ask him when I'

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m on some show or I'
m on something and they bring up a

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salsa theme, I ask him listen
to this song and he immediately gives me

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some information. The difference benefits me, not only do I recognize it,

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not only celebrate it, but I
also take advantage of it hears. Whoever

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has a good relationship with his brothers
can build happiness. Remember that these relationships

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are a constant job. You'
ve got one to spend time with him.

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We must also accept that there may
be ups and downs on the road,

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but if we make an effort to
communicate well, to resolve conflicts,

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to spend time together, to celebrate
differences, we will return that relationship,

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source of growth, source of joy. It is no wonder that at the

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beginning of biblical prehistory the relationship of
brothers in Cain and Abel was discussed.

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It is not strange that this is
true and that the lack of communion with

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God or violence with the brother is
shown. Nor is it strange that at

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the beginning of the new Testament,
in the Gospel of Mark, we insist,

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as in Jesus, that we call
partners of brothers, as to show

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us that the new man is also
made through brotherhood, through sorority. It

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is essential that we be clear about
this. It is essential that we know

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this so that we can get ahead
and live well. Hey, I don

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' t know You have brothers The
day you call them today, and today

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you thank them for their lives And
today you tell them one of those beautiful

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words you know. Yes, let
us do that and we will certainly strengthen

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our relationship with them and with them
in a better way. We' re

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on every platform. Don' t
forget the orational, the man is alive,

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or you know boom Bux.