Fatiga por compasión

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Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love is

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you and that is already the basis
to go out, to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know, I firmly believe that compassion
is the most important spiritual emotion. When

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I review all religious experiences, I
always find an invitation to compassion, that

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is, to suffer, to suffer
with the other, but not to celebrate,

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but not as a spectator, but
to help that person no longer suffer,

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so that that person can succeed.
Compassion is always an emotion that mobilizes

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us to help others. I insist, no one can say that it is

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spiritual if he lives indifferent to the
other, especially to the one who suffers

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at his side. That' s
what I' ve been trying to live

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in my daily life. I have
to say that I constantly move to help

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others and try to generate processes that
allow life to be fairer and that there

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are better conditions for everyone. However, I often find myself faced with limitation

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and tiredness, the limitation of not
being able to help all those who ask

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me for help, all those who
write to me, all those who ask

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me for an action or something,
but also tired, because sometimes I feel

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too much pain in my heart and
I have no way to get it out

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or how to process it in the
best way. So, these days I

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was investigating and I came across that
expression or that concept of compassion fatigue,

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which is a state of emotional exhaustion
that affects people who care for or are

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regularly exposed to the suffering of others. This so- called compassion fatigue is

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characterized by that feeling of being overwhelmed, of being emotionally drained. It'

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s as if the compassionate energy has
been exhausted. If you investigate, you

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find that health professionals, social workers, caregivers, people who have experienced traumatic

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situations are likely to suffer this fatigue
from compassion. Of course, their hearts

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are filled with sadness, anxiety.
They become irritable, apathetic, sometimes they

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generate guilt and even hopelessness. They
also have insomnia fatigue, headaches to digestive

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problems. They are the ways like
these people exposed for so long to the

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suffering of others and who demand how
to help. Feel this stress, feel

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this difficult moment. The question I' ve been asking myself is how I

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deal with that emotion and have two
strong conclusions born of spiritual experience. First

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of all, I can' t
feel guilty about not being able to help

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everyone. I can' t feel
guilty about feeling the compassionate energy is running

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out. Let' s not let
guilt make us sicker. We have insisted

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from so far on different reflections that
guilt fulfills your role in our personal growth.

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But it can' t grow and
it can' t be constant,

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because it doesn' t get sick, it binds us, it doesn'

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t bleed. You can' t
feel guilty that you can' t help

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each other, that you can'
t do something for the other you can

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' t. But besides that and
this is very important, you can'

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t be ashamed either. Yes,
some people are ashamed because they can'

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t help, because they can'
t help, because they' re out

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of the resource they had. And
of course, you can' t let

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me manipulate you with guilt, me
with shame for not helping. That'

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s fundamental. For me. Spiritual
experience is a source of freedom, of

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health, of peace more and drives
us to be better human beings. Now

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what other things to do, of
course, is to take care of ourselves

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first. I have also insisted on
these reflections that it is essential that people

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take care that self- care is
the first responsibility we have, that we

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cannot take care of others if we
do not take care of ourselves. And

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I' m talking about physical care, I' m talking about emotional care,

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I' m talking about spiritual care. It is also important to set

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limits, say no to additional requests
and set clear limits between personal life and

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working life. Sometimes I don'
t know if it happened to you.

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One encounters people who ask for a
pound of money one and as one does

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not have it or cannot give it
they look at it with an accusing attitude

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or almost claim it and tell it
clearly how I do not have your privileges.

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Since I don' t have what
you have and don' t and

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you don' t have to say
no limits now. The third thing is

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to practice self- pity, because
it makes no sense for me to be

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compassionate to others, without being compassionate
to myself, without trying to generate conditions

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in which I can realize myself,
in which I can live peacefully fully.

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Hey, that' s fundamental,
that' s necessary, and in some

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cases you have to look for support, that is, talk to friends,

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family, coworkers, and tell the
experiences, the emotions we' re living.

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That helps, those catharses are important
in life. You have to seek

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professional help, but it is important
that you know today that there is what

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is called compassion fatigue and that you
are not a bad person for experiencing it

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or for experiencing it. And this
happens to all of us, to me,

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that I have spiritual leadership, some
parents in front of the constant help

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that children demand from some caregivers of
people who love and are sick. They

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are more everyday experiences than we imagine
and it is opportune to be clear.

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Listen, it' s important that
you remember that compassion fatigue is not a

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sign of weakness. It is a
natural consequence of caring for others. If

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you think you may be suffering from
compassion fatigue, it' s important that

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you generate ways to get ahead.
Thank you for being there and thank you

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for sharing this moment with me.
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