Está bien arrepentirse

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Bomba, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love

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is you and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know, human beings, we'
re not always right about our decisions and

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our actions. Although we are sometimes
sold the ideal of people who never fail,

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who are always effective, we have
to say that that is not true.

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We all fail at some point in
life. Everyone at some point in

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life, there is no do.
The right thing and the important thing is

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that we learn to repent. I
believe that the ability to repent is a

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complex quality that defines us as human
beings. Repenting implies recognizing that we are

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not perfect, implies recognizing that on
many occasions we fail and has like three

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very important situations. One. To
repent is to recognize mistakes, to recognize

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them without fear, without justifications,
without excuses, that is, I do

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accept that I made the wrong decision. Yeah, what I did didn'

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t match my values and it didn' t solve the problem. The first

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thing is that we know the mistake. The second thing is to feel sorry

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for it, that is, there
is an emotional mobilization when you realize that

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you failed. If your failure hurt
someone else, then you feel sorry for

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it. You feel sorry because you
failed, feel sorry for the wound you

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caused, that is, repenting is
not just saying ah good, I failed

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and no longer, no, you
did not fail, and then there is

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a regret in your heart, because
you feel that you caused pain, that

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you caused wounds or consequences that can
be difficult to manage and to solve.

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And the third thing, without a
doubt, is to make decisions to change

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behavior to avoid repeating the future.
Then I want to insist on this.

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There are three moments of that repentance, recognizing the error, feeling sorry for

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what has not been done well and
making the decision not to fail in that

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again, so you have to understand
well what it is now. It is

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not a matter of repentance, of
staying in that emotion of guilt that one

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experiences. We can' t tie
ourselves to guilt. We recognize the mistake,

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we feel sorry, we realize it
was our responsibility. We feel the

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guilt, but we don' t
anchor in it, we don' t

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live for it. We are not
caught up in the networks of guilt,

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much less of sadness, because,
of course, when one realizes that it

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fails, when one realizes that one
is wrong, immediately come many emotions of

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sadness of regret and needs clearly not
to anchor in them, because it opens

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the door for that sadness to accumulate
and end up living processes of depression.

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That is why, in addition to
the moment of guilt, of the most

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moment of sadness, one has to
move towards the process of learning and personal

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growth that is generated by that error. That is, we realize what life

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lessons are. We realize what we
have to work on? We realize how

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we can prevent those mistakes from happening
again. There he is. Not only

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do we stay emotional, but we
act and act by learning and acting by

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generating a personal growth plan. Yes, because when you recognize your faults,

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what you do is identify areas you
have to work on, what you do

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is identify clear life tasks. If
I realize I was an impulsive, reactive

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person and reacted disproportionately. When I
recognize that, they immediately jump some chores.

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You have to be more proactive,
you have to generate situations from proportionality,

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you have to think before acting,
that is, tasks that you need

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to be clear in order to be
able to move on, because if not

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repentance becomes an emotional issue that is
certainly more of a source of pain and

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suffering than anything else. It must
be made clear that they exist as two

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dimensions. The first is the dimension
of interpersonal relationships. Why is that where

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we fail most in our relationship with
us, we end up hurting the people

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closest to us, the people we
probably love the most, the people with

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whom we share our existence. Then
it is necessary to become aware of how

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we have hurt those people to ask
forgiveness and try to rebuild trust by promising

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not only to compensate, but not
to fail again in the same thing,

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because somehow it is a matter of
not hurting those people again, because if

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it doesn' t make sense,
if I and my relationships realize my mistake

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and I don' t make a
process of change. I' m probably

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going to fail again. And the
other dimension is the social dimension, because

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when I talk about the social dimension, I talk about the experience of how

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my decisions affect society, not a
zero to two beings who are in relation

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to me, but to the whole
society, because there are consequences that one

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has to reflect and that one has
to try to understand. This is fundamental.

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Repentance helps us to develop our moral
conscience. It makes it clear to

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us that it' s wrong,
that it' s okay. It makes

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us commit ourselves to goodness, makes
us commit ourselves to the values that make

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us grow and at the same time
strengthens character, because the person who repents,

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the person who generates work plans so
as not to fail again, is

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a strong person, is a person
capable of assuming his weaknesses and from there

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moving forward. Now, when you
recognize your faults and make the decision to

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change, you will surely be a
better person and will contribute to a more

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just and compassionate society. Because those
who recognize our error and ask forgiveness are

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able to recognize the mistakes of others
and forgive others. Therefore, I am

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afraid when people feel perfect, because
from that perfection they become tyrant judges against

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all others, destroying the lives of
others, because they are sure they never

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fail, because they are sure that
everyone always does well. Hey, I

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know this isn' t an easy
process. I know that sometimes repentance produces

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pain, but you know what is
important to be happy, because it helps

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us to be self- conscious,
helps us to be honest, helps us

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to be brave, helps us to
own our life project. I also know

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that sometimes it is very difficult to
face the consequences of our actions, but

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it is what is right as responsible
human beings and humbly ask forgiveness and strive

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to help others in the wounds we
have caused them so that they can have

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a healing process that involves being happier
that involves living more fully. So,

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today the subject is repentance. Hey, don' t feel bad because you

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failed. Feel bad, if you
do nothing, feel bad, but work

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on you feel bad, if you
are not able to build an action plan

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that will allow you to learn the
lessons and live better. But weakness is

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ours, it is human, it
is part of our condition and we live

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it with serenity and we live it
with tranquility. I invite you to review

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this episode, to notice the steps, thinking about your life, thinking about

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your situation and moving on. I
am convinced that you are a valuable person

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and that you can give the best
of yourself and that every day you can

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be happy and you can help others
to be happy, because the truth,

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only the happy contribute to the true
happiness of others. Thanks for being there.

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