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0:00 Bomba, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is you and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know, human beings, we' re not always right about our decisions and our actions. Although we are sometimes sold the ideal of people who never fail, who are always effective, we have to say that that is not true.

0:53 We all fail at some point in life. Everyone at some point in life, there is no do. The right thing and the important thing is that we learn to repent. I believe that the ability to repent is a complex quality that defines us as human beings. Repenting implies recognizing that we are not perfect, implies recognizing that on many occasions we fail and has like three very important situations. One. To repent is to recognize mistakes, to recognize them without fear, without justifications, without excuses, that is, I do accept that I made the wrong decision. Yeah, what I did didn' t match my values and it didn' t solve the problem. The first thing is that we know the mistake. The second thing is to feel sorry for it, that is, there is an emotional mobilization when you realize that you failed. If your failure hurt someone else, then you feel sorry for it. You feel sorry because you failed, feel sorry for the wound you caused, that is, repenting is not just saying ah good, I failed

2:27 and no longer, no, you did not fail, and then there is a regret in your heart, because you feel that you caused pain, that you caused wounds or consequences that can be difficult to manage and to solve. And the third thing, without a doubt, is to make decisions to change behavior to avoid repeating the future. Then I want to insist on this. There are three moments of that repentance, recognizing the error, feeling sorry for what has not been done well and making the decision not to fail in that again, so you have to understand well what it is now. It is not a matter of repentance, of staying in that emotion of guilt that one experiences. We can' t tie ourselves to guilt. We recognize the mistake, we feel sorry, we realize it was our responsibility. We feel the guilt, but we don' t anchor in it, we don' t live for it. We are not caught up in the networks of guilt, much less of sadness, because, of course, when one realizes that it fails, when one realizes that one is wrong, immediately come many emotions of sadness of regret and needs clearly not to anchor in them, because it opens

4:01 the door for that sadness to accumulate and end up living processes of depression. That is why, in addition to the moment of guilt, of the most moment of sadness, one has to move towards the process of learning and personal growth that is generated by that error. That is, we realize what life lessons are. We realize what we have to work on? We realize how we can prevent those mistakes from happening again. There he is. Not only do we stay emotional, but we act and act by learning and acting by generating a personal growth plan. Yes, because when you recognize your faults, what you do is identify areas you have to work on, what you do is identify clear life tasks. If I realize I was an impulsive, reactive person and reacted disproportionately. When I recognize that, they immediately jump some chores.

5:12 You have to be more proactive, you have to generate situations from proportionality, you have to think before acting, that is, tasks that you need to be clear in order to be able to move on, because if not repentance becomes an emotional issue that is certainly more of a source of pain and suffering than anything else. It must be made clear that they exist as two dimensions. The first is the dimension of interpersonal relationships. Why is that where we fail most in our relationship with us, we end up hurting the people closest to us, the people we probably love the most, the people with whom we share our existence. Then it is necessary to become aware of how we have hurt those people to ask forgiveness and try to rebuild trust by promising not only to compensate, but not to fail again in the same thing, because somehow it is a matter of not hurting those people again, because if it doesn' t make sense, if I and my relationships realize my mistake and I don' t make a process of change. I' m probably going to fail again. And the other dimension is the social dimension, because when I talk about the social dimension, I talk about the experience of how my decisions affect society, not a zero to two beings who are in relation to me, but to the whole society, because there are consequences that one

6:42 has to reflect and that one has to try to understand. This is fundamental. Repentance helps us to develop our moral conscience. It makes it clear to us that it' s wrong, that it' s okay. It makes us commit ourselves to goodness, makes us commit ourselves to the values that make us grow and at the same time strengthens character, because the person who repents, the person who generates work plans so as not to fail again, is a strong person, is a person capable of assuming his weaknesses and from there moving forward. Now, when you recognize your faults and make the decision to change, you will surely be a better person and will contribute to a more just and compassionate society. Because those who recognize our error and ask forgiveness are able to recognize the mistakes of others and forgive others. Therefore, I am afraid when people feel perfect, because from that perfection they become tyrant judges against all others, destroying the lives of others, because they are sure they never fail, because they are sure that everyone always does well. Hey, I know this isn' t an easy process. I know that sometimes repentance produces pain, but you know what is important to be happy, because it helps

8:13 us to be self- conscious, helps us to be honest, helps us to be brave, helps us to own our life project. I also know that sometimes it is very difficult to face the consequences of our actions, but it is what is right as responsible human beings and humbly ask forgiveness and strive to help others in the wounds we have caused them so that they can have a healing process that involves being happier that involves living more fully. So, today the subject is repentance. Hey, don' t feel bad because you failed. Feel bad, if you do nothing, feel bad, but work on you feel bad, if you are not able to build an action plan that will allow you to learn the lessons and live better. But weakness is ours, it is human, it is part of our condition and we live it with serenity and we live it with tranquility. I invite you to review this episode, to notice the steps, thinking about your life, thinking about your situation and moving on. I am convinced that you are a valuable person and that you can give the best of yourself and that every day you can be happy and you can help others to be happy, because the truth, only the happy contribute to the true happiness of others. Thanks for being there.

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