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Bomb. Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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the love soy and that is already
the basis to go out, to conquer

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many goals, to fight, to
give a better version and to enjoy life

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fully. You know nothing anchors us
more than fear. When we do not

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know how to regulate this emotion,
we end up losing control of life,

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we end up reacting destructively to the
stimuli we experience. Fear can cause us

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to distort reality, can lead to
violent reactions, or it can paralyze us

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by preventing us from making the decisions
and doing the right and necessary actions that

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we are asked to do. That
is why today I would like to talk

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to you about how to face your
own fears. I want to leave reminding

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you that fear is a healthy emotion. We are afraid of those who are

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moderately healthy, because it is an
emotion that allows us to adapt to the

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reality in which we are. Fear
allows us to find in the face of

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the threat, in the face of
danger, a way of acting prepares our

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being to act sometimes will lead us
to defend ourselves, sometimes to run and

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put ourselves in a safe place.
So, don' t feel bad about

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being afraid at times. The problem
is that we do not know how to

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control, manage and express fear.
There is the situation, when it definitely

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leads us to distort reality, to
lose the rudder of our existence and throws

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us into negative experiences. That'
s why I think facing our fears is

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a challenge, but at the same
time, one of the most rewarding experiences

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we have in daily existence. When
you react intelligently to your fear, you

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grow personally, grow in confidence,
self- esteem and safety, you are

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better prepared to face the difficulties and
problems that we live daily. When I

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read different authors, when I hear
different lectures about the experience of facing our

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fears, I find five keys that
I would like to share with you.

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The first is to identify and accept
our opium fear. You can' t

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handle an emotion well if you don' t name it, if you don

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' t know what it is.
I assure you that many people react in

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such an aggressive way in such a
dangerous way because they are feeling fear and

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yet they do not identify that emotion
that stirs them that way. This is

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the first thing. It is to
identify, to put the right name to

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emotion, in this case, to
say yes I am afraid, and there

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identification is accompanied by acceptance. I
understand that we were made to believe that

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Superman was never afraid, that Batman
was never afraid, that Wonder woman was

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never afraid. And then it is
hard for us to accept that we are

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agitated by that emotion, that we
are afraid and that it is a real

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emotion, valid, that we cannot
repress it, that we cannot deny it

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and that one way to begin to
act properly in front of it is to

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accept it. So, the first
key is that identifies and accepts your fears

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two. It is necessary to try
to understand, to understand that emotion.

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I remember when I was a kid
and I had episodes of fear, my

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grandmother, who used it with her
popular wisdom, told me Alberto tries to

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rationalize that, tries to ask you
what you' re afraid of. Try

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to understand if that fear is rational. So, if it was a noise

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that was managing me, the one
that was causing me that reaction, she

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would say well, investigate what noise
is and try to understand what noise produces,

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because suddenly, by understanding and understanding
the situation, emotion goes away or

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you can express it well. So
it' s valuable that we ask ourselves

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where they come from, where those
fears come from, sometimes they' re

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learned fears. Our parenting process is
complex. We have parents tutors, models

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of life that are not perfect,
obviously, and that could help us learn

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irrational fears. Other times they have
to do with our self- esteem,

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they have to do with how we
deal with existence. Hey, ask yourself

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what it says about yourself, that
emotion, that fear. In particular,

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I am convinced that when you challenge
your fears, when you understand your fears,

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you are able to overcome them,
you are able to succeed. The

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third key is, please, understand
whether your thoughts, which are normally the

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ones that cause emotions, are rational
or not. Sometimes our fears are caused

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by negative thoughts, irrational thoughts.
Then you have to question your thinking.

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You have to question that inner voice
that' s telling you this or that.

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You have to try to get through
the reality strainer. Those thoughts you

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have many times are wrong. Hey, one more key. Please, get

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some backup. You don' t
have to face your fears alone. There

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are only many people who can help
you, friends, family, therapists,

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support groups and then, from patience, from love. You ask for help,

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you ask for help, because sometimes
what you can' t solve just

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with the synergy that occurs in the
bond you have you get an extra skull.

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Spiritual experience helps me a lot.
You know that my spiritual experience comes

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from Catholicism. Then, for me
to feel like a creature of God,

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to know myself loved by God,
to know me carefully by God, gives

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me peace, gives me patience,
gives me confidence, to face my fears.

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I know that he is with me, I know that he loves me

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and then the prayer processes, the
meditation processes help me a lot to achieve

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it. I hope, you check, each of these keys is part of

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the baggage that I have in my
heart and mind, fruit of what I

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read, fruit of what I study, fruit of what I convert with so

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many specialists in the subjects. Thank
you for being there and thank you for

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sharing this episode with me. Don' t forget to share it with other

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friends that you know will help them. If you don' t forget the

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rational, the man' s up. You know,