Enfrentando la tusa

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Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love is

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You and that is already the basis
to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You know

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one of the most difficult issues that
we humans experience is that of breaking up

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a loving relationship that moment in which, by choice or by decision of the

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other person or by mutual agreement,
an affective bond that we believed to be

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eternal, which we believed was necessary
for happiness, is ended. The truth

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is that we have to overcome that
situation. No one can remain anchored to

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the pain that this rupture produces.
I wish it could be done the best

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way. I wish we had the
best emotions in making those kinds of decisions

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or accepting that decision from our partner. But it is not, and that

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we have to assume and face.
I would like to propose a few key

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five for you to keep in mind
in this process of overcoming the rupture.

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The first thing is to accept the
emotions that this reality produces. You have

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to allow yourself to feel, don' t repress your emotions. Sometimes you

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cry, sometimes you have anger,
sometimes there' s a lot of sadness,

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sometimes you feel betrayed or betrayed,
sometimes you feel it was the best.

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That' s part of the process
and you have to accept it,

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live it feel it. It'
s those emotions you can' t keep

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inside. It' s those emotions
that have to be released little by little.

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That' s why you talk to
your friends, your family, or,

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if necessary, as a therapist and
show them the emotions in your heart,

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which are in your blood. The
second thing is to seek support.

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It' s not the time to
be isolated, it' s not the

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time to be alone, it'
s not the time to believe that all

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relationships are over. It is not
the time to surround yourself with those people

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who have shown throughout history, who
love you, who value you, who

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know that you are important, those
people who have been there to cheer you

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up and support you. Being with
them will help you feel better and will

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most likely help you distract the pain. Please, it is time to talk

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and dialogue sometimes not about that topic
sometimes focused on so many other things that

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happen in life. Sometimes full of
other worries. The third thing is to

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distance yourself. I think if the
relationship' s over, it' s

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over. Don' t start believing
that if you get close again, that

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if you ask for cocoa, that
if you kneel, that starts again.

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It' s time to get away. Sometimes you have to never get in

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touch with the ex- partner again. Yeah, sometimes it' s good

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to block them, sometimes it'
s good not to answer the phone again

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while the pain passes, while you
build your grief, while you understand what

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happened. I think it' s
best for sure. When the time passes,

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they can be friends again, or
they can talk again, or they

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can dialogue again, but at this
point they can' t, because that

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' s like salting and lemon to
a freshly opened wound. Take a distance.

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You don' t have to be
around, you don' t have

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to beg. You don' t
have to be there begging. Let me

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help you and give you the best. You have to take care of yourself.

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You have to take care of yourself. That means taking care of your

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physical health, your mental health.
To do this is the distance that helps

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you to take care of your emotional
health, Eat healthy foods. Exercise regularly,

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get enough sleep, practice things that
relax you, make you feel good.

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Listen to music, but not that
music, not that music of spite,

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not that modicica that makes you suffer
and cry. It' s time

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to focus on other realities, other
experiences. The fourth thing is to reflect

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on the relationship when you' ve
already had a time to heal, it

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' s worth understanding why it'
s over for two things, one to

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learn not to make the same mistakes
in the next or simply to give thanks

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because it' s over. But
you have to understand why it' s

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over, what led to that final
decision being made. It is also important

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to learn lessons. Here you have
to explain the benefits that you now have

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to live in relationship. Having a
partner relationship always generates some that I know,

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limitations, difficulties and that ends,
opens up opportunities, opens up new

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possibilities and you have to accept it
and you have to believe it. So,

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here' s the time to be
grateful. There were many positive things

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in that relationship. You can even
be a list and say thank you for

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them. You can really find out
how that relationship made you grow, that

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bond, how you highlighted new skills. Or it' s also time to

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thank you because you' re going
to distance yourself from something that made you

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suffer, something that wasn' t
filling you with fullness, something that was

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cornering you and making you suffer.
That' s fundamental and the fourth is

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wonderful that you understand that you have
to open up to the future. We

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have to open up to the future. Yeah, that' s not the

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only person on the face of the
Earth, that' s not the only

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person you can relate to. Not
with her dies your ability to love.

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Not with the end of that relationship
is your ability to build more experiences open

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to the future, but with tranquility. It' s not the time to

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use that old adage that one nail
pulls out another claudio. It' s

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not true, it' s not
the time. Be devoted to yourself,

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love yourself, trust in You,
believe in You, and from there on

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you go on. Then I remember
you. One, let yourself feel,

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two, look for chicken, three, take distance, four set new goals,

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tell her new mints and the fifth
one that I had already told you

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in wrong number, reflect on the
relationship, reflect on what you have done,

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on what you have lived. All
right, check it with serenity.

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I hear them in order. One, let yourself feel, accept emotions,

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two, look for chicken, surround
yourself with people who love you, trees

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take distance, you don' t
have to be close to what causes you

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pain, four reflect on that relationship
and learn and five. There you go,

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open up to the future. Open
up to new possibilities that you don

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' t have to rush to look
for. I' m sure they'

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ll come and I' m sure
they' ll give you the strength to

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get ahead. I' m so
glad to hear you. I' m

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very glad to hear you present,
to read your comments on the channels where

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this episode comes out. Thank you
for being there, thank you for sharing

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this moment with me, thank you
for opening your heart, but above all,

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thank you for wanting to be happy, to overcome obstacles, to overcome

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pain and to fill yourself with strength
to be much happier than you are today.

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Encourage that you are called to fullness. We continue to meet on each

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of our platforms, in Spotify,
in Dizer, in Amazon, in Apple,

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in each one. There we are
with you. Hey, you know bu