El poder de decidir

0:00 Bomb. Why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness, why it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know one of the most important spaces for me in my house is the library. It' s the place where I have all the books I' ve been buying over the years, I' ve been reading, scratching, questioning and learning. From them. I move by looking at the books of spirituality, of theology, of philosophy, of education, of well- being that I have and came to where are the books that I have written.

1:15 At one time in my life I wrote a lot about pastoral theology, because I was a preacher and then I always tried to be preparing the homilies and the preaching that I had to do, and those were always the basis of small texts that were then published. But there are those that I have written of well- being and stand out one that has been greatly appreciated by readers, the power of decisions, a book that I wrote trying to propose very simple ways to realize that we are very powerful. Having the possibility of choosing which path and how we walk it, we sometimes forget that power. We end up believing in destinies that have us trapped, enslave us, let fear paralyze us and impose paths that are not ours. We propitiate scenarios of violence that end up damaging and damaging us Those we love become automatons who understand nothing of what they do and live, but simply follow stimuli that they have never

2:50 analyzed. I have the book back in my hands, I review its chapters and I feel that today I must tell you again we are free. We can decide how to live. No one can subject us to routine logic and life dynamics that we do not want. We have to be able to stop and understand the direction we take with our decisions, that is, to understand the path we are walking from the decisions we make, to know that we own our lives and when we know that, we are able to rebel and distance ourselves from what is damaging us. But at the same time think more about how to decide and how to assume the consequences that arise. The fundamental criterion for making a good decision is that it is aligned with the life project we have. It' s not sensible, it' s not smart to

4:23 want to go north and make decisions that lead us south. And that which is so obvious, is what many are doing. They make decisions that are not aligned with the life project they have, that will not lead them to the place they want, that will not realize the purpose that inspires them. Yes, what I find the most are people who want to realize a purpose, but every day they decide to go against him and I have to say that they will not be able to live happily. That' s why I ' m looking you in the eye today. Deciding is the greatest gift that God has given you and that' s why he doesn' t even want to take it away from you. Deciding is the greatest expression of humanity.

5:29 That' s why you need to learn to decide and immediately. I' m looking for criteria to make a good decision and I find at least five of them I' d like to share with you right now. First, clarity. Don' t make decisions if you don' t have a clear goal that' s clearly defined or not all if you don' t know what' s going to be achieved, what' s going to be generated, what consequences are going to happen with that decision. You have to be clear about the criteria with which you evaluate the different options that are in front of you, because the decision is always to choose between a range of possibilities.

6:30 Second, criterion information. Please collect all relevant information about the situation, about the different options available. If you make a decision without that information, you' re gonna fail. Therefore, we need to research, read, consult with experts and look at different perspectives. A decision taken from the information leads to failure. The third criterion is rationality. Ah yes, your decision has to be logical, it has to be based on reason. Don' t let emotions make you act irrational. Do not let emotions push you to live from biases, from prejudices, that do not resist a logical analysis, that does not resist in a rational analysis. It tries to be objective, to have data, to have evidence available and to analyze them as objectively as possible. Look, we have to implement the decision. It is not enough to make the decision, to see how it is made and to have an action plan. It is not enough to say I want such a thing,

8:01 I am going to do such a thing, not how I am going to do it and you have to set some parameters. It must be an action plan so that this does not remain in a beautiful chimera, in a beautiful dream. Develops a plan allocates resources, overcoming obstacles that may arise from a more flexible approach. Please, you need to know how to adapt to the dynamics that are being generated. You can' t have a rigid mind that pretends reality is from her. You have to have a flexible mind able to find a way to adapt to reality to transform it, to control it.

8:52 This is fundamental and one last criterion that for me comes from ethics and has spirituality in mind. It' s acting from the values that characterize you. It' s acting from the values that define you. Don' t go against your values, never because you regret it. Don' t go against your values because you end up crying and suffering. After I tell you this, I close the book again the power of decisions, and I put it back here, in this little vanidoteca, where are the titles I' ve written. Thank you for paying attention to this small reflection. Write those criteria down and contract them with your life, don' t forget the power of decisions. You know.