El poder de decidir

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Bomb. Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love is You and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know one of the most important
spaces for me in my house is the

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library. It' s the place
where I have all the books I'

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ve been buying over the years,
I' ve been reading, scratching,

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questioning and learning. From them.
I move by looking at the books of

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spirituality, of theology, of philosophy, of education, of well- being

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that I have and came to where
are the books that I have written.

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At one time in my life I
wrote a lot about pastoral theology, because

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I was a preacher and then I
always tried to be preparing the homilies and

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the preaching that I had to do, and those were always the basis of

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small texts that were then published.
But there are those that I have written

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of well- being and stand out
one that has been greatly appreciated by readers,

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the power of decisions, a book
that I wrote trying to propose very

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simple ways to realize that we are
very powerful. Having the possibility of choosing

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which path and how we walk it, we sometimes forget that power. We

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end up believing in destinies that have
us trapped, enslave us, let fear

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paralyze us and impose paths that are
not ours. We propitiate scenarios of violence

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that end up damaging and damaging us
Those we love become automatons who understand nothing

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of what they do and live,
but simply follow stimuli that they have never

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analyzed. I have the book back
in my hands, I review its chapters

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and I feel that today I must
tell you again we are free. We

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can decide how to live. No
one can subject us to routine logic and

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life dynamics that we do not want. We have to be able to stop

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and understand the direction we take with
our decisions, that is, to understand

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the path we are walking from the
decisions we make, to know that we

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own our lives and when we know
that, we are able to rebel and

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distance ourselves from what is damaging us. But at the same time think more

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about how to decide and how to
assume the consequences that arise. The fundamental

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criterion for making a good decision is
that it is aligned with the life project

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we have. It' s not
sensible, it' s not smart to

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want to go north and make decisions
that lead us south. And that which

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is so obvious, is what many
are doing. They make decisions that are

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not aligned with the life project they
have, that will not lead them to

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the place they want, that will
not realize the purpose that inspires them.

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Yes, what I find the most
are people who want to realize a purpose,

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but every day they decide to go
against him and I have to say

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that they will not be able to
live happily. That' s why I

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' m looking you in the eye
today. Deciding is the greatest gift that

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God has given you and that'
s why he doesn' t even want

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to take it away from you.
Deciding is the greatest expression of humanity.

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That' s why you need to
learn to decide and immediately. I'

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m looking for criteria to make a
good decision and I find at least five

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of them I' d like to
share with you right now. First,

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clarity. Don' t make decisions
if you don' t have a clear

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goal that' s clearly defined or
not all if you don' t know

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what' s going to be achieved, what' s going to be generated,

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what consequences are going to happen with
that decision. You have to be

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clear about the criteria with which you
evaluate the different options that are in front

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of you, because the decision is
always to choose between a range of possibilities.

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Second, criterion information. Please collect
all relevant information about the situation,

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about the different options available. If
you make a decision without that information,

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you' re gonna fail. Therefore, we need to research, read,

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consult with experts and look at different
perspectives. A decision taken from the information

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leads to failure. The third criterion
is rationality. Ah yes, your decision

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has to be logical, it has
to be based on reason. Don'

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t let emotions make you act irrational. Do not let emotions push you to

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live from biases, from prejudices,
that do not resist a logical analysis,

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that does not resist in a rational
analysis. It tries to be objective,

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to have data, to have evidence
available and to analyze them as objectively as

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possible. Look, we have to
implement the decision. It is not enough

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to make the decision, to see
how it is made and to have an

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action plan. It is not enough
to say I want such a thing,

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I am going to do such a
thing, not how I am going to

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do it and you have to set
some parameters. It must be an action

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plan so that this does not remain
in a beautiful chimera, in a beautiful

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dream. Develops a plan allocates resources, overcoming obstacles that may arise from a

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more flexible approach. Please, you
need to know how to adapt to the

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dynamics that are being generated. You
can' t have a rigid mind that

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pretends reality is from her. You
have to have a flexible mind able to

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find a way to adapt to reality
to transform it, to control it.

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This is fundamental and one last criterion
that for me comes from ethics and has

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spirituality in mind. It' s
acting from the values that characterize you.

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It' s acting from the values
that define you. Don' t go

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against your values, never because you
regret it. Don' t go against

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your values because you end up crying
and suffering. After I tell you this,

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I close the book again the power
of decisions, and I put it

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back here, in this little vanidoteca, where are the titles I' ve

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written. Thank you for paying attention
to this small reflection. Write those criteria

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down and contract them with your life, don' t forget the power of

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decisions. You know.