El futuro no se adivina

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Bomba, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love is You and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know, I run into a
person who tells me he wants to guess

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my future. She tells me kindly, you let me tell you what'

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s going to happen in your life. I affectionately, with appreciation, say

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no, that I am not interested, that I am not interested in those

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predictive interpretations, that I believe in
the value of uncertainty. I thank you,

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and I' m on my way. As I walk a friend I

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was going with asks me Alberto and
why and I tell him that I am

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not able to believe that my future
is already programmed or already determined. That

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would imply that I am not a
free human being. That means that there

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is no free will, that is, that I am not really the owner

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of my existence, but that I
am an actor who is performing a previously

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written script and that that particularly makes
sense of existence. And there I immediately

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took my notebook and wrote down some
things to share with you in this episode.

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I think we need to assess uncertainty. That one doesn' t know

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what' s gonna happen tomorrow.
That doesn' t know exactly what the

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consequences of my actions are, because
it' s likely in my case it

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' s always so that one plans
for one to review. What are the

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possible consequences, but there is the
surprise involved and there are always situations that

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surprise you. If I tell you
we need to value uncertainty, among other

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things, because psychology has already taught
us that there is the prophecy of self

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- fulfillment, that is, they
tell you that something is going to happen

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and you end up fulfilling that prophecy
they made you. You end up determined

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by that ad they made you.
Today I want to invite you to value

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uncertainty and I would like to propose
four keys to reflection. First, we

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need to accept that the human condition
means not knowing the future. Being human

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is knowing the past, learning from
yesterday, being located today in the present,

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but not knowing what tomorrow is.
It is a characteristic of the human

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condition. Whoever knows it' s
going to happen tomorrow is not human.

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It is not human, because humans
live in the face of uncertainty and we

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have to accept uncertainty. If we
want to be happy, if we want

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to own every action, if we
want to live fully every moment, then

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the first key is to recognize that
you can' t know what' s

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going to happen tomorrow and that,
as much as they prophesy and as much

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as they tell you tomorrow depends on
free and conscious decisions from you and some

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people around you. That is why
the first statement is to accept uncertainty.

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Don' t see her as a
disgrace, don' t see her as

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a tragedy. On the contrary,
look at it with an opportunity, because

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if everything is already built in the
style of the fate of Oedipus Rey,

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if everything is already done and that, however much he flees he will fulfill

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the announced fate. There is no
freedom and that could end up making us

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live the absurd. The second,
which I think is fundamental, which I

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think is valuable, is that one
must then focus on what one can control.

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A lot of tomorrow' s stuff. I can' t control them

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because they don' t belong to
me, because surprise is possible, because

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I don' t own the causes
that produce them. What I can do

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to be a happy person, to
be a person living in harmony, living

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in happiness, is or to occupy
that which is under my control. I

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can' t decide how you accept
my ways, but what I can do

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is control the way I propose it, as the saga puts in the example

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with these episodes. I don'
t know if you' re gonna like

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it or not. I can'
t control that. I don' t

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know if it' s going to
be extraordinary for you I don' t

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know. What I do know and
because I have to control it is that

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I have to prepare it well,
I have to write it, I have

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to try to have some precise ideas
that I have read over and over and

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that I have to find a way
to express it in a simple way.

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I love it. One of my
exercises is that they look obvious so no

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one tells me I didn' t
understand that. I can control it myself,

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and then that' s my job, and that' s my effort.

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I insist on controlling what you can
and the future does not depend entirely

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on IT. The one that does
depend entirely on IT is the present.

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That' s why he works on
it. The third key I found is

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to be tolerant of what we don' t know is going to happen.

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I have to confess that one of
the things that bothers me is surprises.

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I, when I started my relationship
with my wife, told her I don

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' t like surprises. I'
m fascinated to be aware of what'

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s going on, what' s
going on. But to the extent that

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I have grown, matured through reflection, through meditation, through spiritual development,

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I realize that it has to be
tolerated. I don' t like it,

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but when it happens, the Tolees. I can' t get bitter

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because something happened that wasn' t
in my plans. I have to accept

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it. Sometimes I cry, sometimes
I celebrate. I react as it has

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to be, but I understand that
it is not up to me and that

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I cannot be bitter when I become
bitter at the surprise realization. All I

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do is fill my heart with pain, sadness, fears, and all I

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do is not be happy. Then
we must be tolerant of that uncertainty,

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tolerant of that situation that we cannot
control, that we do not know what

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is going to happen. And the
fourth key is to have full consciousness.

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I like that concept of full consciousness, that knowledge, through all my senses,

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through my relationships, through my approach, what' s going on,

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why it' s happening, what
I do, how I' m acting,

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how I' m living. Hey, you don' t own your

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morning, but you own your day. You own what' s happening right

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now. Focus on those two levels
that Daniel Goleman puts before us the inner

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focus and the focus with the environment, with the contexts in which we live.

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I' m sure you can build
a life in happiness. I'

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m sure everything doesn' t go
as planned. I' m sure there

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are surprises, I' m sure
there are pains, I' m sure

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there are experiences that hurt you,
but be assured that they will be catalysts

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for you to be uglier, for
you to live more fully. Hey,

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thanks for being there, thanks for
sharing this episode of my podcast with me.

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I am happy that you are on
each platform, in Spotify, in

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Deezer, in Amazon, in Apple, in Google Play, on all platforms.

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Hey, you know bu.