Cultiva amistad, cosecha felicidad

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Bomba, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always love

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is You, and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know I firmly believe that happiness
depends on the quality of our relationships.

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Tell me what kind of relationships You
have, and I will tell you if

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you really live in that state of
harmony that allows you to enjoy life,

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discovering in it a transcendent purpose that
pulls you, drives you, sustains you

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and I believe that one of the
bonds that we need to care for so

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that they have good quality and can
really allow us to live in happiness is

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friendship. Yeah, I think friends
need to be taken care of. I

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believe that we need to be clear
about who our friends are and live with

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them in a relationship that allows us
to generate synergies, solidaritys that drive us

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to live happily. I really like
reading ancient philosophy and I like epicurism or

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epicurism. You know that epicurism is
a Hellenistic philosophy founded by Epicurus of Samus

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in the fourth century B C,
and that its fundamental objective is the search

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for happiness through moderate pleasure and the
elimination of pain and fear. But one

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of the tasks raised by this philosophical
teacher is the care of friends. He

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believes that friendship plays a fundamental role
in achieving a full life, in achieving

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a happy life. For him,
friends are considered as an intimate family,

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a safe haven where to find support, understanding and companionship in the most difficult

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times we have. O. He
believes that a good friendship has at least

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five characteristics. The first, reciprocity
and mutual trust. Uh, it'

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s required to be a back-
and- forth relationship. I love you,

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you love me, I take care
of you, you take care of

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me. I' m important to
you, you' re important to me

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I trust you, and you trust
me, too. That is, there

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is no subordination, there is no
utilitarianism, there is no codependency. It

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is the exercise of two conscious free
human beings who decide to be friends from

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reciprocity and from mutual confun The second
characteristic that he poses is the absence of

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utilitarianism. That is, he believes
that friendship should not be based on personal

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interests or benefits. Friends appreciate themselves, not for what they can offer,

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not for the money they have,
not for the influence they have acquired in

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society, not for what they really
are. This is fundamental. Sometimes we

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forget. I like to think that
he is truly my friend, the one

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I am not useful to. And
yet it' s there. He loves

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me, values me, accompanies me, helps me. Yes, there must

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be no utilitarianism. We support each
other, we serve each other, but

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when you have nothing to offer me, when you have nothing to share.

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There I am for you too because
you' re my friend. You'

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re my friend. The third characteristic
is that he raises selectivity. Hey,

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we' re not all friends.
Roberto Carlos, the Brazilian songwriter. That

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' s where he was wrong.
We don' t have a million friends.

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I feel sorry for Facebook, but
we don' t have five thousand

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friends, neither should nor can we, because friendship is selective. You have

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a small number of friends, people
who have really shown that you can trust

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them, people who have been there
and who have shown that they are really

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worth it for you. Friends are
few. They teach us to take care

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of ourselves, to value ourselves,
to train ourselves, to defend ourselves.

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The fourth feature, obviously, with
friends are shared experiences and deep conversations It

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' s not just that we share
a hobby. It' s not just

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that we have fun having a drink
or having coffee. It' s not

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that we agree on essential things,
on deep things in life, and that

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we can talk about them and that
we can share them and that we take

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moments for it. Friendship is not
marked simply by fun, it is not

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marked simply by the moment of joy, of smiles that we have. It

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is also marked by those moments of
silence, by those moments of complicity,

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by those moments of support in which
we deepen in the depths of existence and

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share. What characterizes us and what
helps us to be happy. And the

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last characteristic that this philosophical school poses
is that friendship has to be a source

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of pleasure and well- being,
that is, the company of friends is

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considered a source of joy, of
relief, of feeling strengthened, of feeling

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accompanied, of feeling careful. Ah, we' re not friends to fight

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all day. We are not friends
to tell us the worst things, to

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insult us clearly that we are not
friends to generate that well- being,

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that good being that helps us to
live with joy and fullness. They are

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five characteristics posed by the friends and
disciples of picurus. You remember the Picuro

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Garden, which was a space for
friendship. His philosophical school was called the

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garden, and he believed that friendship, in this way characterized as we have

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just proposed it, was an antidote
against the fear of death, because the

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company of friends and sharing experiences with
them help us to appreciate life and face

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death with serenity, with joy with
fullness. You know that the Bible,

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for example, speaks very well of
friendship. He says whoever found a friend

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has found a treasure and that'
s a beautiful expression. But besides that,

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Jesus of Nazareth, he treats us
as friends. He does not want

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us to be his servants, he
does not want us to be just his

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disciples, but to be his friends. I' d like us to understand

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that today. García Márquez in the
Foreword of Pilgrim Tales. Say this and

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I' d like to share it
with you. I dreamt that I was

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attending my own funeral on foot walking
among a group of friends dressed in solemn

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mourning, but they were in a
party spirit. We all seemed happy to

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be together, and I more than
anyone for that opportunity that gave me death

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to be with my friends from Latin
America, the oldest, the most beloved,

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the ones I haven' t seen
for a long time. At the

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end of the ceremony, when they
began to leave, I tried to accompany

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them, but one of them showed
me with strict severity that for me the

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party was over. You' re
the only one who can' t leave.

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That' s what he told me
only then did I realize that dying

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is never being with friends again.
I love that experience. Thanks for being

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there. We are sharing and we
are always on all platforms. You know bu