Cultiva amistad, cosecha felicidad

0:00 Bomba, why the affective relationships I have are not stable. I like assertiveness because it invites us to prudence that what should motivate our word is always love is You, and that is already the basis to go out to conquer many goals, to fight, to give a better version and enjoy life fully. You know I firmly believe that happiness depends on the quality of our relationships.

0:45 Tell me what kind of relationships You have, and I will tell you if you really live in that state of harmony that allows you to enjoy life, discovering in it a transcendent purpose that pulls you, drives you, sustains you and I believe that one of the bonds that we need to care for so that they have good quality and can really allow us to live in happiness is friendship. Yeah, I think friends need to be taken care of. I believe that we need to be clear about who our friends are and live with them in a relationship that allows us to generate synergies, solidaritys that drive us to live happily. I really like reading ancient philosophy and I like epicurism or epicurism. You know that epicurism is a Hellenistic philosophy founded by Epicurus of Samus in the fourth century B C, and that its fundamental objective is the search for happiness through moderate pleasure and the elimination of pain and fear. But one

2:24 of the tasks raised by this philosophical teacher is the care of friends. He believes that friendship plays a fundamental role in achieving a full life, in achieving a happy life. For him, friends are considered as an intimate family, a safe haven where to find support, understanding and companionship in the most difficult times we have. O. He believes that a good friendship has at least five characteristics. The first, reciprocity and mutual trust. Uh, it' s required to be a back- and- forth relationship. I love you, you love me, I take care of you, you take care of me. I' m important to you, you' re important to me I trust you, and you trust me, too. That is, there is no subordination, there is no utilitarianism, there is no codependency. It is the exercise of two conscious free human beings who decide to be friends from

3:58 reciprocity and from mutual confun The second characteristic that he poses is the absence of utilitarianism. That is, he believes that friendship should not be based on personal interests or benefits. Friends appreciate themselves, not for what they can offer, not for the money they have, not for the influence they have acquired in society, not for what they really are. This is fundamental. Sometimes we forget. I like to think that he is truly my friend, the one I am not useful to. And yet it' s there. He loves me, values me, accompanies me, helps me. Yes, there must be no utilitarianism. We support each other, we serve each other, but when you have nothing to offer me, when you have nothing to share.

5:09 There I am for you too because you' re my friend. You' re my friend. The third characteristic is that he raises selectivity. Hey, we' re not all friends. Roberto Carlos, the Brazilian songwriter. That ' s where he was wrong. We don' t have a million friends. I feel sorry for Facebook, but we don' t have five thousand friends, neither should nor can we, because friendship is selective. You have a small number of friends, people who have really shown that you can trust them, people who have been there and who have shown that they are really worth it for you. Friends are few. They teach us to take care of ourselves, to value ourselves, to train ourselves, to defend ourselves.

6:20 The fourth feature, obviously, with friends are shared experiences and deep conversations It ' s not just that we share a hobby. It' s not just that we have fun having a drink or having coffee. It' s not that we agree on essential things, on deep things in life, and that we can talk about them and that we can share them and that we take moments for it. Friendship is not marked simply by fun, it is not marked simply by the moment of joy, of smiles that we have. It is also marked by those moments of silence, by those moments of complicity, by those moments of support in which we deepen in the depths of existence and share. What characterizes us and what helps us to be happy. And the last characteristic that this philosophical school poses is that friendship has to be a source of pleasure and well- being, that is, the company of friends is considered a source of joy, of relief, of feeling strengthened, of feeling accompanied, of feeling careful. Ah, we' re not friends to fight all day. We are not friends to tell us the worst things, to

7:55 insult us clearly that we are not friends to generate that well- being, that good being that helps us to live with joy and fullness. They are five characteristics posed by the friends and disciples of picurus. You remember the Picuro Garden, which was a space for friendship. His philosophical school was called the garden, and he believed that friendship, in this way characterized as we have just proposed it, was an antidote against the fear of death, because the company of friends and sharing experiences with them help us to appreciate life and face death with serenity, with joy with fullness. You know that the Bible, for example, speaks very well of friendship. He says whoever found a friend has found a treasure and that' s a beautiful expression. But besides that, Jesus of Nazareth, he treats us as friends. He does not want us to be his servants, he does not want us to be just his disciples, but to be his friends. I' d like us to understand that today. García Márquez in the Foreword of Pilgrim Tales. Say this and

9:28 I' d like to share it with you. I dreamt that I was attending my own funeral on foot walking among a group of friends dressed in solemn mourning, but they were in a party spirit. We all seemed happy to be together, and I more than anyone for that opportunity that gave me death to be with my friends from Latin America, the oldest, the most beloved, the ones I haven' t seen for a long time. At the end of the ceremony, when they began to leave, I tried to accompany them, but one of them showed me with strict severity that for me the party was over. You' re the only one who can' t leave.

10:18 That' s what he told me only then did I realize that dying is never being with friends again. I love that experience. Thanks for being there. We are sharing and we are always on all platforms. You know bu