Cuida tu familia

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Bombo why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love is

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You and that is already the basis
to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You know,

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no one has a perfect family.
Why nobody' s perfect. The

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family. For me it is that
inner circle of care and affection, that

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living space in which we feel loved, in which we feel helped. Today

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I want to stress four fundamental keys
to making family space. An experience that

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empowers you, an experience that throws
you into realization, an experience that helps

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you to endure in the midst of
limitations and that generates the relationships of solidarity

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required to be happier every day.
I think the first thing is to recognize

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the family, as it is.
I understand that there are family ideals,

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I understand that many times we hear
heroic stories, almost idealized from the family.

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If you want your family space to
be really that space in which you

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can realize it, it is first
to recognize it and accept it, as

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it is with many possibilities, with
many capacities, but also with limitations,

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also with shortcomings, because families are
formed by human beings, and all human

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beings have capacities and potentialities and we
have limitations and shortcomings. So, the

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first thing is that you recognize each
member and recognize them as they are and

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don' t ask him what they
can' t give and don' t

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try to change them because you'
re not going to. The members of

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your family have the characteristics that they
have, and I think we need to

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recognize them and accept them like this
and try to build healthy relationships with them,

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relationships in which we can combine objectives
and establish life plans that will lead

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you all to the happiness that the
first is that. Sometimes you want to

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have a perfect mom and not or
you want to have a perfect dad and

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not Sometimes you want your family to
be like family and not Sometimes your family

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just counts on your mom or it' s just your grandmother or it'

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s just your aunts who raised you
and they' re with you. You

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have to learn to recognize, accept, value and love your family, as

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it is. The second is that
I believe that limits and routines must always

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be established why. Because when you
set clear boundaries, consistent boundaries, everyone

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will know what or what to stick
to. Many times families fail because they

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don' t know what to stick
to. They don' t know what

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to expect from the others. They
do not have the limits that help you

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to know how far you go,
to know what you can ask, to

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know how you can collaborate or build. The limits and routines of time allow

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to create security structures that are expressed
in confidence. That' s why you

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have to have specific routines. Look. We meet every day at such an

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hour or weekly. We meet at
this moment or say goodbye as we go

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out or express affection constantly or forgive
ourselves what I know, but they have

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to be clear routines in the s
s s s s s, that each

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one feels realized, expressed and that
can be given without imposition. Now,

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these routines have to be characterized by
flexibility and adaptation, because life is changing,

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because human beings change, because we
are not always the same, and

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we do not need to go on
recognizing those changes and adapting to those changes.

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Sometimes it' s about changes in
work that disrupt all the routines we

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had and that have to be adapted. We' re not going to be

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crying that situation, but we'
re going to learn from it. Thirdly,

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I believe that it is essential to
promote respect and kindness. It is

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clear to me that no healthy bond
is given without kindness. I believe in

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the power of kindness, I believe
in good words, good attitudes, good

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gestures, good deeds. Then it
is essential that in the family there are

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friendly ways to relate, and this
means creating an environment of mutual respect.

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Don' t tell me what you
know hurts me and I won' t

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tell you what I know hurts you. I' m not trying to change

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you, because I know that'
s you. Because I know that'

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s you. Please don' t
try to use corsets so that I behave

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like I' m not, because
that not only harms us, but makes

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the family environment really unbearable. There
needs to be compassion, empathy, that

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we can feel each other. It' s just that we love each other,

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we take care of each other,
we know how important we are.

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This is how kindness is expressed and
here we must recognize the triumphs, the

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achievements of the other members of the
family. That brings us closer, that

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brings us together, that allows us
to build solid relationships. When I know

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that you rejoice in my conquests,
in my successes, I feel loved and

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I feel valued for you. And
the fourth key goes through spiritual experience.

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I' m blunt. A spiritual
experience that makes me despise the members of

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my family or makes me believe that
I am superior to them, is not

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good, is not healthy. True
spirituality brings us together in communion, and

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Communion always occurs in the midst of
differences, always occurs in the midst of

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the nuances that human beings have.
Then, please, it is necessary to

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find spiritual experiences, religious experiences that
help us to love, that help us

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to be supportive, that help us
to forgive and that do not demand angelic

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behaviors that we will not have and
that we will not have because nobody has

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them. Spiritual experiences can be expressed
through rites of moments. I remember how

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much I remember sitting at the table
with my family members and giving thanks for

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the food, or how much I
remember meeting with those I love to pray

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for one of our sick family members. That is definitely fundamental in family experience.

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Listen I wish you would see today
thanks for your family, that,

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if you have a spiritual experience,
you will pray for your family, because

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that space is the one you have
to be happy with, that space is

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the one you count with to get
ahead. That' s why I want

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you to review these four simple,
simple keys and try to make them a

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reality in your family space, that
there is a family space in which you

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can be freely. That will fill
you with joy and joy. I think

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it' s great that we can
love and care for our family. I

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recommend my book. Loving is winning
everything can help you establish healthier affective bonds.

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Thank you for being there and thank
you for sharing with us our show,

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our episode. You know or