Construyendo confianza

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Bombs, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness

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because it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always the

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love soy and that is already the
basis to go out to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and to enjoy life fully.

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You know how to be reliable.
That is one of the questions I ask

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myself the most in my daily life, because many times we ask others to

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trust us, but we are reliable. I' m always reading authors to

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help me answer these existential questions these
days. I ran into a number of

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them. Yeah, I started looking
in my library and I found Walterrizo,

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I found Curro Cañete, I found
jumaswell I found Daniel Coleman and I tried

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to look there for characteristics of a
reliable person. What characterizes a human being

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who deserves our trust. Without a
doubt, each one can establish some characteristics,

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but those that I have been able
to group here in this notebook that

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I have. I belong to the
previous time in which one wrote down in

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a notebook, ideas, in the
abstracts of books, quotations that he likes

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well, and I find six characteristics
that I want to share with you in

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this episode. I believe that the
basis of trust is integrity, that is

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to say, knowing that the other
person is a sonist by word, living

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according to values, that he exposes
freely and that he keeps his promises.

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If you want to be reliable,
you have to be whole. But how

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do you pretend that someone trusts You
if they find you lying, lying,

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if they find that you change values
according to convenience and circumstance, if you

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are not honest, with yourself and
we must lie lies to You to reassure

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you. They trust You if they
see you as a whole person, that

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is, a sincere person, a
person who shows what' s inside and

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then you know what to stick to
with that person. That means a person

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who lives with clear principles. Yeah, it doesn' t change principles.

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They are exposed there and one sees
them Despite adversities, despite pressures, despite

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many difficult moments, that is,
their ethical code is explicit and we consider

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it valuable. For me, you
can' t ask someone to trust him

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or her if it' s not
true. In these terms. The second

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characteristic for me is a responsible person
with solid commitments. That is, he

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admits his mistakes, he learns from
them, he does not spread blame with

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his index finger to calm his conscience
and feel good, but he accepts what

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got him muddy, what got him
wrong, what didn' t do the

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right thing. But that translates into
a firm commitment. It doesn' t

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leave easily, it doesn' t
leave. One thrown on the roadside,

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is persevering and gives the battle and
gives the battle with one. I love

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that story that maybe told Anthony de
Melo, that, in a war of

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those terribles of humanity, a soldier
goes to the officer and tells him my

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friend stayed in the trench. I
ask permission to go find him. The

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officer says don' t go looking
for him because I' ve already lost

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him and he' s very likely
to lose you. However, the soldier

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insists so much that he allows it. Soon he returns with his dead and

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wounded friend, and the officer said
to him now I also run the risk

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of losing you. It wasn'
t worth it and the soldier said yes

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it was worth it because when I
got here my friend hadn' t died

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yet and he told me he knew
you' d come for me. That

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' s called commitment, and that
makes you trust people. The third characteristic

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is the sum of humility and generosity. He is not a proud person who

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seeks to make one feel inferior.
How can I trust You if you live

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by disqualifying me, if you live
by saying that I am useless, if

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you live by questioning everything I do
with a certain haughty attitude? I don

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' t need to recognize you as
someone who values dignity equally, but at

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the same time what is generous that
gives away, which gives that you are

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not stingy with existential resources. That
makes you trust those people. How we

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distrust proud people, Kukhí people as
we say on the coast, that is,

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cheap people who are unable to give
anything out of fear of being alone.

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The fourth is a person who knows
how to live from effort, from

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sacrifice, from discipline, someone in
whom you can see a whole process that

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doesn' t want easy things,
because if you want them easy or look

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for the easy ones at any time
you can put aside and sell you for

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realizing your dream. On the other
hand, disciplines two, the sacrificed,

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those who live boldly, give one
confidence. The fifth is people who are

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working on themselves. They are flexible
people, people with the ability to adapt,

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creative people, people who lose some
learning because they are no longer generating

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the growth that is required. And
the last one. I trust spiritual people

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more than religious ones. I am
frightened by religious fanatics, those who believe

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that a dogma is above a person' s dignity, that a moral fact

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is above a person' s freedom. I like more the spiritual ones,

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those who transcend, those who smell
life, those who are able to discover

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in the orion new goals, new
challenges, new challenges, and see life

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as a whole and not simply as
the sum of the parts. There are

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six characteristics, they are not mine
properly, they are the ones I have

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here. Noted in my old notebook, in this notebook that always accompanies me.

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That' s why he misses us
if he sees me on public transport

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or at some table reading and writing, is that I' m putting food

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into this notebook. Hey. Thank
you for being there and thank you for

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sharing with me. I hope you
read my book. The man is alive

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and with you. I am convinced
that it can generate reflections that will make

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you happier. You know p Boom
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