¿Cómo vencer la apatía?

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Bomba, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love. It was this and that
is already the basis for going out to

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conquer many goals, to fight,
to give a better version and enjoy life

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fully. You know how to overcome
apathy. It was the question a young

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man asked me in the city of
Barranquilla. While I was waiting for public

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transport, he approached me, greeted
me very kindly and looking me in the

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eye, asked me that question.
Sure, He expected from me a magic

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formula, a few words that had
the power to fill his life with encouragement

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and strength to move on. So
the first thing I insisted on was that

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I had to reflect, train and
find a way forward and clear if it

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was necessary to seek professional help from
someone who would accompany him in that process.

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The first thing I did was ask
him what he understood by apathy and

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he told me what that boredom,
that discouragement or that indifference to life was.

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He told me I have a feeling
I don' t want to do

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anything. I lack interest in that
which I used to love to do is

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you. I looked at him fondly
and told him that the first thing was

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to look for the causes of that
apathy. I told him that from psychology

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or from the sciences of human behavior, it is believed that stress, especially

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chronic stress, can exhaust energy and
motivation by making one have that feeling that

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he denounces. Other cases are depression. It can be a symptom of depression

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apathy, and there you need to
go to the doctor to be diagnosed and

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to actually check what isn' t
working. I also told her that other

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authors think it' s lack of
sleep, not sleeping enough, not getting

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tired enough, that that has a
negative impact on the mood. Also the

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lack of purpose, that is,
not having a meaning in life, a

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direction, an object. It'
s possible that it ends up dismotivating and

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disinteresting people in life because they don' t really know what' s best.

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There may also be physiological causes from
some medications that you may be consuming.

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Then he insisted that the first thing
to overcome apathy is to have a

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clear cause. What is behind that
sense of discouragement, what is the source

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or what is the stimulus that causes
that emotional response of wanting to do nothing.

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Second, I insisted on the need
to take care of his health.

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Yes, I told him, you
have to eat well, you have to

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sleep well, you have to take
care of yourself physically, spiritually and mentally.

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Take care of your health, you
have to be aware of what'

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s going on in your body,
what' s going on in your mind,

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how you' re reacting emotionally and
what' s happening to you in

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your spirit. The third thing I
said, please, I have a life

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project. What has helped me the
most is to have a life project.

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I celebrate and bless my trainers of
the Juan 23tres Regional Seminary, the parents

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who welcomed me there when I was
seventeen years old and taught me to elaborate

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a personal life project, that is, to be clear about my purpose,

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what my dream is, and to
try to put it gradually in stages,

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being clear in resources and having clear
how to evaluate it. I believe that

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this is an instrument, a fundamental
resource in the training process. In all

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schools, every school should work on
the personal life project that everyone knows what

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they' re studying for, what
they' re doing what they' re

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doing. What are the dreams,
what are the desires that move it and

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that pull it out is definitely required
to set goals. Fourth, I told

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him to enjoy life through actions,
attitudes that generate pleasure, participate in activities

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that interest you and make you feel
good and do it. Please, even

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if you don' t feel like
it, many times we believe that first

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they are the desire and then they
are the activities, and not many times

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first we do and doing we get
the desire and in activity we get the

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desire for the passion, for the
pleasure that we are experiencing. This is

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fundamental that you are able to find
activities that will passion you for it,

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surround yourself with positive people, surround
yourself with people who encourage you, people

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who contribute to you, people who
believe in you, who trust you and

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fill you with desire, to go
forward with desire, to overcome difficulties and

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problems, one last thing I told
you avoid the substances that take you out

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of reality, Because, even if
you don' t believe, those substances

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that take you out of reality end
up causing, after its effect, that

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feeling of apathy, that feeling of
discouragement. I said firmly and clearly,

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look at the abuse of alcohol,
look at the abuse of drugs. That

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' s not good for someone who' s feeling unmotivated, so he'

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s feeling sad. And in the
end I told him listen think about an

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activity, a spiritual practice. If
you know me and ask me, you

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know that I am a Catholic,
you know that I am a priest,

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that I no longer exercise the presbyterate
and that I have religious practices that help

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me. But I told him to
look for spiritual experiences, those that allow

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you to skip life, those that
allow you to connect with the best of

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your being, those that allow you
to know valuable, valuable, namely that

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you are a person with so many
qualities and abilities. I told him to

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have moments for silence, for meditation, to thank, to see more sunsets

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more sunrises, to enjoy that which
perhaps many people do not value, but

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which is fundamental in the search for
meaning, in the search for desire.

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To move on, I ended up
praying for that young man. I told

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him I can do it, and
he said yes, Alberto, and I

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ended up praying for him and crying
to the God of heaven to give him

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strength, but immediately I climbed into
the transmeter I noted this I am telling

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you and I said I' m
going to do an episode of the podcast

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of this because, like that young
man, there may be many people who

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are or are discouraged and need reflections
that provoke them to want to get ahead,

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that provoke them to find tasks,
find ways to do. That is

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why today I invite you to reflect
on each of these keys that I gave

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to that young man and that I
believe he can help you. So do

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I. I' m convinced that' s going to help us all.

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I particularly have to thank that I
always live animated, that I always live

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eagerly and that in moments of apathy
are transmissory passengers in my life and I

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quickly get hooked on some project,
in some dream, perhaps because I am

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always reading a text that brings me
happiness. Or because I' m writing,

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scrubbing chronicles that may never be published
or articles that may not interest anyone,

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but that I' m happy to
write them. Or maybe because I

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drink coffee with the friends I love
and love, or maybe because I enjoy

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life with my partner doing what we
both like. Thank you for being with

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us. If you know people you
think this episode can help you, send

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it to them always does well.
We' re in Dizer, we'

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re in Spotify, we' re
in Apple and Amazon. I' m

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happy because the second edition of the
book is out. The man is alive

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and with you. I hope someday
you can read it and enjoy it.

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You know Boombaux.