Claves para superar una relación tóxica

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Or why the affective relationships I have
are not stable. I like assertiveness because

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it invites us to prudence that what
should motivate our word is always love you

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are and that is already the basis
to go out, to conquer many goals,

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to fight, to give a better
version and enjoy life fully. You

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know, we' ve all had
a toxic relationship at some point in life.

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I understand by toxic relationship those bonds
in which one or both people involve

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patterns of behavior that cause emotional,
psychological or even physical harm, relationships that

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make us suffer. These are relationships
from which we find it difficult to get

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out, these are relationships that mark
our existence. It is possible that one

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of you is living in one of
those relationships. That' s why I

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want to start by pointing out what
are those patterns that cause emotional damage,

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what behaviors are those that characterize a
toxic relationship. And so I quickly propose

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to you from literature five patterns of
behavior. The first, manipulation, is

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to try to control the other person
and try to control it through guilt,

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through fear or through pity. Another
pattern is verbal abuse, insults, constant

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critical screams, and an attitude of
contempt toward the person. The third could

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be excessive cellus that is about controlling
the other person and being controlled through mistrust,

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through possessiveness, is made to believe
that it belongs to him and that

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then he has to be willing to
all kinds of insecurity behavior of this person.

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There' s no shortage of isolates. These people, what they do

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is take the victim away from his
or her social or family circle. He

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' s cut off by friends,
cut off family visits. The one who

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wants to make the victim doubt his
own perception of reality is the one who

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tells him You' re crazy,
You' re crazy. Red isn'

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t red, blue isn' t
blue. And he does so with such

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a convict and with such a degree
of argument that the other person even ends

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up doubting the way he perceives reality. The question I want to answer today

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is how to deal with a toxic
relationship. What to deal with a bond

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of these that harms us, in
the face of a bond of this that

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generates emotional instability, that mistreats us
mentally and until it dominates us in physical

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and material terms. I propose six
keys to dealing with a toxic relationship.

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Obviously, the first is to accept
and recognize toxicity. Yeah, if you

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realize you' re in the middle
of patterns that hurt you, behavior patterns

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that hurt you, it' s
gonna be really hard for you to do

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something. It must be understood that
the behavior of that person is generating a

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harmful context, that is making me
lose my peace, that is making me

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doubt my worth, that is leading
me to a moment of emotional dependence that

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is not healthy. I know it' s not easy to admit it,

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but it' s essential to be
able to take action. And you don

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' t take action, but you
accept that you' re in the middle

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of a toxic relationship. Sometimes it' s hard for us to accept that

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that person I' ve loved so
much, that that person I' ve

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valued so much is toxic, but
it is. The second thing is to

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prioritize your well- being. Remember, the most important thing is your well

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- being. That' s the
most important thing that you know that bonding

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is not important, because if you' re not well physically, cynically,

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emotionally, psychologically, what that bond
is all about, what that bond brings

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about, your emotional health, your
mental health, is the most important thing.

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So, don' t feel guilty
about wanting to get out of a

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situation that hurts you. If you
are prioritizing your well- being and you

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realize that you definitely have to get
out of that relationship, then do it

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without letting yourself be manipulated, without
feeling guilty. Third, work on your

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self- esteem, because normally these
relationships happen because you have low self-

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esteem and because you have been caught
up in a bond where they make you

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believe they protect you, where they
make you believe they give you what no

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one else could give you in life
if you work on your self- sating

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if you rebuild that emotional opinion and
realize how valuable, how valuable you are.

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I' m sure you' ll
be more willing to say up here,

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I' m sure you' ll
be more willing to say I'

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m not still in this relationship.
A fourth aspect is to set limits,

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and those limits are born of your
dignity. You can' t let them

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put your dignity at risk and you
have to say it clearly, you have

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to manifest them with sincerity and firmness. I don' t tolerate this kind

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of behavior. I can' t
stand you treating me like that? I

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can' t stand you making those
trials against me. It' s that

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clear and safe. That person is
going to react with some manipulation attempt and

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you will have to discover that manipulation
and stand firm. A fifth aspect is

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to have an exit plan. If
you decide to end the relationship, elaborate

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a detailed plan to ensure your safety, because many times these people are dangerous

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and can even try to harm you, and then you have to be firm

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and smart enough to establish an exit
plan. I' ll give you one

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more element. It' s essential
that you seek support, talk to friends,

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talk to family or even a therapist
to help you live. This process

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of freeing you from this toxic relationship
generates a support system that allows you to

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feel strong and safe to make decisions. If you realize in the background these

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tips, these keys, these reflections, what help you is to generate the

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attitude of taking care of yourself.
Give yourself time to take care of yourself.

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You' re the most important thing
in your life. So, don

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' t blame yourself. Don'
t blame yourself. Believe in yourself,

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trust what you' re capable of. In patience. The processes are gradually

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taking place. They' re not
as fast as you want, and don

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' t forget that if necessary,
you have to seek professional help. We

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have to get professional help. In
some cases where you' ve already tried

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everything and haven' t been able
to a therapist can provide you with tools,

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strategies to overcome a toxic relationship.
There is a lot of literature about

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it and from the spiritual experience,
you cannot let yourself be manipulated these days.

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Someone who has these characteristics told me
you are, but you are a

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believer. You' re a Christian. Yes, I' m a Christian,

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but I' m not a fool. I' m a Christian,

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but I know how much I'
m worth. I am a man who

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seeks to be in contact with God, but I am clear that I cannot

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allow in my life. I'
m clear what I have to put an

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end to. Ton Es, please
work on these keys review them one by

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one, as I always propose.
Look for literature that will help you grow

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in this and generate life strategies to
get ahead. Don' t blame yourself

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for being in a toxic relationship.
It' s common for us to pass.

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It' s common for it to
happen. What we can' t

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allow is for it to hold on
in time. Thank you for being there

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and thank you for listening to this
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