Beneficios de la inteligencia emocional

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Bombax. Why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love is you and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know the lady looks at me
carefully and asks me Alberto what emotional intelligence

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is for. She tells me she' s heard a lot of talk,

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but she doesn' t really understand
what emotional intelligence is useful for. I

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smile and with kindness. The worst
first thing I' m saying is that

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we need to agree on what emotional
intelligence is, because sometimes we have the

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habit of using some terms without really
knowing what they mean and we can talk

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with different concepts about that same term. Then I tell you that emotional intelligence

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is the ability to identify, understand
and manage one' s emotions and to

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know how to behave before the emotions
of others. I remind you that emotional

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intelligence is composed, at least,
according to Daniel Goleman, of five very

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precise abilities. The first, the
emotional consciousness, what is more or less,

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the ability to recognize one' s
emotions and understand how these affect one

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' s thoughts and behaviors. The
second skill is emotional self- regulation,

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what is that ability to control emotions
and to express them properly. I like

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to talk about emotional management and the
third is motivation, which is fundamentally the

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ability to use emotions to direct behavior
and achieve goals. These three skills are

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personal. The other two have to
do with ties, with relationships, and

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then I talk about empathy, that
is, understanding and sharing the emotions of

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others and then social skills. What
it has to do with knowing, establishing,

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and knowing, maintaining healthy relationships with
others. Now yes, for what

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is the development of emotional intelligence useful. First, emotional intelligence can help us

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improve communication, conflict resolution, and
build stronger relationships. When you grow in

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your emotional intelligence, you are better
prepared to relate to other people. Why?

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Because, after all, the fundamental
thing in a relationship is communication,

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knowing, solving the problems that arise
and generating situations that lead to the bond

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being more solid. And that you
do when you are able to manage your

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emotions well, when you are able
to be empathetic, when you are able

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to establish r s rs relationships from
very clear social skills. Whoever grows in

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his emotional intelligence has better relationships with
others. The second benefit, no doubt,

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as the literature shows us, is
the management of clear stress. When

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you are able to handle your stress, when you are able to handle the

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pressure that some challenges give you,
you can prevent emotional exhaustion and you can

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manage all those forces wisely, properly. The third benefit has to do with

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decision- making. Hey, nothing
more harmful than being reactive than making decisions

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without thinking, than making decisions driven
by an emotional reaction. Who has grown

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in the management of their emotions,
makes better decisions because he thinks about them

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more, because he understands the consequences
that they generate and, above all,

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because he is clear what are the
values that define them and from those values

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he acts. Without a good development
of emotional intelligence, we cannot be proactive

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and nothing does more harm to personal
growth than to be reactive, because we

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end up manipulated and we end up
very predictable. The fourth benefit I tell

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the lady who looks at me carefully
is that emotional intelligence helps us prevent mental

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health problems, such as anxiety,
such as depreciating it. To the extent

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that you manage your emotions well,
you can prevent these syndromes that hurt us

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so much. Because one can be
in the present, because one can know

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how to release the experiences of yesterday, because one can close cycles without fear,

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because one is able to control,
manage one' s attitudes and ways,

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to be and to be in time. And I told her one last,

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one fifth benefit and it' s
work performance, because many of the

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problems we have in our work is
pure mishandling of emotions, because a lot

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of the unproductiveness we have is because
we' ve lost motivation and it'

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s because we' re not able
to manage the emotions we have well.

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So, when you develop your emotional
intelligence, you can improve your work performance,

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you can have higher productivity and you
can feel satisfied with what you do,

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because you no longer envy, because
you already know how to manage a

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scolding, because you know how to
handle your frustration at a mistake, because

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you understand that failure is not the
last word. The lady stared at me

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and then told me and what strategies
to grow in the development of my emotional

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intelligence. I smiled because I said
good. I' m gonna have to

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hear more of an episode of my
podcast, but I think you can work

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on three things. The first must
work in self- observing, in being

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able to identify your emotions, to
know what emotion and with what stimulus it

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triggers and understand how it affects you. That' s you in your way

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of life. I think if you
get self- observation, be aware of

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you as you' re going to
grow in your emotional intelligence. The second

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thing is to manage. And here
you have to learn techniques to calm down,

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you have to learn techniques to know, to manage that moment in which

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we feel overwhelmed to me particularly and
the spiritual dimension helps me a lot,

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I have learned to breathe, I
have learned to have moments of good breath,

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I have learned to meditate and that
helps me not to let myself be

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dragged by the emotional impulses that I
have. And thirdly, I think empathy

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helps a lot to work on empathy. What grandmothers said about putting ourselves in

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our shoes putting ourselves in the shoes
of others and trying to understand their emotions,

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trying to understand their feelings. I
think that helps us Mrs Smiled and

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kind of had another question, but
I immediately said no. I prefer you

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to listen to my episodes, which
are simple. They' re very simple,

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but provocative. You find them on
every platform, in Spotify, in

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Deezer, in Amazon, in Apple, in boom Box, there you find

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them. I gave him a hug
and said thank you for believing that my

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simple words could help him move on
in his life. I wrote down the

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dialogue with her and said I'
m going to share it in my next

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episode, and that' s what
I' m doing with you today.

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