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Boux, why the affective relationships I
have are not stable. I like assertiveness,

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why it invites us to prudence that
what should motivate our word is always

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love is You and that is already
the basis to go out to conquer many

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goals, to fight, to give
a better version and enjoy life fully.

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You know when I' m invited
to talk about leadership always made human,

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about an old book I have here
in my library is called the James Hunter

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paradox. There he defines leadership as
an ability and if it is an ability,

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it is the one that we can
all develop. I love that vision

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of not seeing it as a capacity, because capabilities are or are not,

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but skills can be developed, and
that would then give us all the possibility

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to be leaders, in principle,
leaders of our own life project, in

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principle, leaders of our existence.
And that would help us not to see

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the leaders as an elite, as
a group of super gifted that nature has

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rewarded and that we would all have
to look at them. Hunter in his

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book argues that to achieve person leadership, leaders must go through a process of

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personal transformation. This involves developing qualities
such as humility, empathy, service,

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love, and integrity. A person
who has a leadership position and doesn'

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t have these qualities that I just
pointed out is a boss, but he

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' s not a leader. He
is someone who gives orders and sure is

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obeyed, but he is not someone
who by his influence, who by his

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authority, moves others to serve according
to the common goal. I have to

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say that, while some people may
establish natural predispositions towards these qualities, their

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development, their strengthening, requires effort, practice and learning. That is,

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you can live a process of personal
transformation that will lead you to develop the

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skills of humility, empathy, service, love and integrity, so you can

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truly be a leader. This author, who I like so much and here

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I have the book underlined with very
personal notes, focuses on serving others.

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Yes, he believes that service is
that, primarily service to others. If

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you don' t understand your leadership
as a service, you' re going

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to get lost in the exercise of
power and you have to be clear that

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power destroys, that power not only
damages us inwardly because it fills us with

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anxiety, but that, besides that, it can end up destroying others,

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because we don' t know them
and we don' t understand that they

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are the center of the whole role
of leadership. So, if you want

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to be a good leader, that
is, a server leader as you have

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to be, you have to work
on what we call interpersonal skills, that

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is, you have to have effective
communication, you have to speak clearly,

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concrete short, you have to know
how to communicate the message so that it

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touches the hearts of others and drives
them to give the best. But,

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look, you also have to develop
active listening, that is, foster that

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attitude that allows you to know what
are the needs of those people who are

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part of your team and to whom
you are serving as a leader. But

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good communication and active listening are not
enough, but we have to learn conflict

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resolution techniques, where there is no
room for any form of violence, where

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you can always be able to find
the variables above that solve the encounter,

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the clash of interests. Ah But
you know how to solve conflicts you also

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know how to take care of ties, take care of relationships, you won

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' t despise anyone, because you
know that we are all important in the

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team, because you know that we
all have a role in the team.

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Without interpersonal skills there is no leadership. Because leadership is always a service and

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that means being in front of people. I like this author, James Hometer,

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in this book The Paradox, because
he emphasizes the importance of leaders having

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a deep knowledge of themselves. Yeah, that' s the base. I

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know myself, accept myself and love
myself by then to be able to know

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what my powers are and what my
limitations are, what are the most developed

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skills I have and what I have
to be working on. But, eye,

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it is not enough that deep knowledge
of oneself, but that one has

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to have a deep knowledge of those
who are part of the team, of

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those who follow us, of those
who are waiting for an indication, a

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word of ours to get ahead,
that is, of those who are part

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of the organization in which I work, of the organization to which we are

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directing. This deep knowledge is first
acquired through reading, through formation, through

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having leadership books. I am always
attentive to how much article of leadership I

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meet, because it is fundamental for
me, but also to the observation,

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to be attentive to the way those
people who are part of my team conform,

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as the way those who are there
act and also clear to be able

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to reflect on what I live.
I can' t live on automatic.

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I can' t let life be
a do, do, do and do.

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We must not stop and reflect,
finding the choices of life and obvious,

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deep knowledge is given through interaction,
sharing with others, constantly dialogue with

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each other. I insist, these
elements that Hunter poses are not a set

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of innate qualities, but are skills
that can be developed and that can be

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learned. However, it is important
to note that the author also emphasizes the

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importance of motivation and the desire to
serve others. You may have these qualities,

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those skills developed, but if you
are not motivated and do not want

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to serve others, you will surely
be a boss, a bad leader.

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An individual can have all the skills, but without desire it doesn' t

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work, because leadership demands commitment and
commitment demands a lot of motivation. Today

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I wanted to share this leadership experience
with you, because deep down, I

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want to invite you to be the
first IT leader, First of IT,

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to have a deep knowledge of IT
and know how to maneuver and manage your

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life project. But also if you
have an obligation as a leader, either

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as a dad, either as a
mom or in your work or in the

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group of friends, to understand that
service is the main feature of leadership.

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Without understanding, service will not be
able to be a good leader. You

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know that for me, the leader
by antonomasia would say the elders is Jesus

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of Nazareth. And if there'
s anyone who taught me how to serve,

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it' s him. If there' s someone who taught me that

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pro- existence is the greatest skill
of human beings, it' s him.

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That' s why I think that, to be a leader, you

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have to be a servant, a
servant, you have to be clear that

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others need the best of each of
us. Thank you for being there and

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thank you for sharing this simple reflection
with me. I hope, write me

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apea Alberto José Arroba hotmail com and
propose to me topics of these topics of

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well- being, of these topics
of personal development, of these topics of

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spirituality that interest me so much and
that move my personal search. Thanks for

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being there. You know.