Alimenta el amor

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Why the affective relationships I have are
not stable. I like assertiveness because it

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invites us to prudence that what should
motivate our word is always love is you

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and that is already the basis to
go out to conquer many goals, to

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fight, to give a better version
and enjoy life fully. You know many

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kill love and do it with words, attitudes and actions of contempt, indifference,

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lies of pain. Others just let
him die and let him die because

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they don' t feed him.
And they let him die because they do

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not cultivate him, because there are
no expressions that caress and show the care

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taken with love. But there are
also others who are able to make it

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grow and make it grow by understanding
the dynamics, understanding the nature of love,

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which is an emotion, but which
is also a decision and which,

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therefore, demands the integral commitment of
the people engaged in the bond. In

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all kinds of bond, whether in
the bond of a couple, love must

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be nourished, whether in the fraternal
bond, love must grow, or whether

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in the bond of friendship, love
must be allowed to develop. How we

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care, how we feed love.
I think the first way is to express

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explicitly that you love the other person
by telling him I love you without fear

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of expressing what you are feeling.
When you say I love you, you

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do, you provoke wonderful reactions in
the heart of the person who listens to

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you. Do not be afraid,
do not be afraid, to look in

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the eyes and to express with a
clear voice, with a safe voice,

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with a tender voice all that you
have in your heart, also when you

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are able to express admiration. I
am convinced that love is nourished by admiration.

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A couple who ceases to admire themselves
is a couple who begin to kill

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or let love die, we must
express admiration, and we do so when

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we recognize the qualities of the other
person, when we recognize his victories,

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when we recognize his ability to act, when we look at them or look

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them in the eyes and tell him. I love your intelligence, I love

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your beauty, I love your sense
of love, your sense of humor.

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I love the way you act when
you express admiration. You' re growing.

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You' re making love grow.
The third form would be sincerity.

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I think you can' t lie
to that person who claims to love lies

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is like poison. The lie is
like a dagger that enters the heart and

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destroys everything. Lie destroys trust.
That' s why you have to be

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honest and I say sincere, for
example, in praise, when you praise

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that person you love, do it
with sincerity that that person discovers in your

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words, discover in your expressions,
that your heart is speaking that there is

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no other intention than to make him
feel everything you feel. Hear one more

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way pay attention, spend time with
the loved one listen carefully, give him

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the opportunity to feel cared for,
to feel valued. Solidarity is also important,

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that is, to offer your help, to serve and to do so

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in a clear, selfless way,
that this person will not believe that you

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are after something. It' s
not s not just because you love her

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you' re there offering your hands
to work, to build. It'

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s important to pose real gifts.
I believe that the most important gifts are

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those that you build yourself, those
that you make yourself, that is,

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those that express attention, dedication.
I know that some purchased gifts are valuable

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and applauded, but I think the
ones that have the most strength are those

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that you build yourself. To me, particularly in my experience as a couple,

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it has been very helpful to build
some stories, write some poems,

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try to build some songs. That
feeds love, also gives quality time.

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Many times we do not forget that
the other person needs us and needs us

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not thinking about work, not watching
television, not writing something, but with

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all our senses open to that person, so that there is open communication,

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honest communication, because you know that
communication is fundamental in any relationship. Talking

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to the loved one about what we
are feeling, about what we are excited

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about, about what makes us suffer
surely generates conditions in which love will grow.

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I like compassion. I think pity
hurts love. I think pity is

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trying to end love, it'
s trying to kill love. But compassion

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is fundamental When that person feels that
you' re empathically joining and you'

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re trying to feel with her and
not to judge her pain and not to

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judge what' s going on,
but on the contrary, that you'

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re there to show her everything you
have. Remember it is necessary to express

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your love in an authentic and meaningful
way, and that makes love grow to

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be creative in the way it expresses
in the ways of expressing that love.

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Now you have to find out what
the language of your partner' s love

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is. You have to know which
channel you communicate best, because sometimes we

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put this in abstract and it turns
out that there are people who like a

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caress with a gift the most,
there are people who like a word of

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affirmation more than dedicated time. Then
it is important to know the other person,

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to know his needs, to know
what it is that makes him vibrate,

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what it is that makes him resound
to support and to give the best,

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I invite you to feed the love
that you feel with this person.

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Don' t let love die,
don' t make movies in love,

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because then breakups come, then pain
comes, then loss comes and then they

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begin to wonder why it happened.
Very simple, because you let it happen

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to me from the spiritual dimension.
I like to insist very much on recognizing

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the value of the other, on
recognizing the dignity of the other and that

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our actions are always oriented towards that
person being able to develop, to that

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person being able to give his best, to that person being able to build

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his project with firmness, with confidence, because he feels supported, because he

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feels that there is someone who is
making sense of him, who is giving

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him away, meaning that is recognizing
his value. Praying for loved ones is

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great, because intercession always has power, but praying with loved ones strengthens the

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relationship. I like them both.
Many times I am interceding for my partner,

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praying for her, crying for her. Other times I hold her hand

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and invite her to thank life and
I invite her to thank so many things

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that we have, so many opportunities
that we live. We need to learn

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to love, review what I have
told you simply so that you can grow

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tone, don' t let your
love die. Don' t kill love.

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You know.