Acompañamiento de emocional a los jóvenes

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Why the affective relationships I have are
not stable. I like assertiveness because it

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invites us to prudence that what should
motivate our word is always love is You

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and that is already the basis to
go out to conquer many goals, to

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fight, to give a better version
and enjoy life fully. You know,

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there' s a lot of news
coming from young people with emotional disorders,

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depression, stress anxiety, young people
who question the meaning of life and don

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' t know how to handle their
emotions. Today I would like to talk

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to you that you are an adult
so that you have keys to how to

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accompany young people in their emotional process, How to accompany young people make them

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able to manage their emotions in a
proper way that allows them not only to

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live in well- being, but
to have a meaningful life project. I

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would like to stress the mental health
of adolescents. You know the statistics say

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that one in seven young people between
the ages of ten and nineteen suffers from

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some mental disorder. These are World
Health Organization statistics. But you and I,

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as adults, as parents, as
teachers, as guardians of these young

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people, what we can do,
how we can generate a safe environment in

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which they can manage their emotions in
the best possible way. I want to

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put four keys to you. The
first one, I think you have to

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be a role model shows young people
How you manage your own emotions properly,

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How you have a healthy emotional life. Show them that life is worth it

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and that, in the midst of
adversity and difficulties, one can live balancedly

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and one can have those emotional impulses
as an opportunity for growth. For this

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I invite you not to complain so
much Sometimes we find adults who are constantly

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complaining, who are constantly saying that
life is a disgrace, that life is

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a tragedy. That is a strong
message for the young people around, because

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they then begin to believe that life
is really hell and many times they even

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want to get out of that hell
that you, with your constant complaints,

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have provoked them two. Avoid these
exaggerated emotional reactions, whether of anger or

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euphoria, because of course when something
provokes you, anger, because you have

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to live it, but without violence, without aggression, without losing control.

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The same in euphoria, then,
of course we celebrate if it goes well,

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because of course we celebrate if we
achieve a goal, but we do

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not lose control of life. Like
Dad, like a bus as a teacher,

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as a life partner. I think
it is necessary to be a model

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of handling emotions, to try to
be as healthy as possible so that they

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really see that yes, that you
can live in harmony and balance. The

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second key creates an atmosphere of trust. Yes, let young people express themselves

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freely, don' t disqualify them, don' t judge them. It

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is that sometimes we fall into the
temptation to believe that our time was perfect.

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Or to say that they are a
generation of glass and that they break

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through everything is not true. It' s not like that. We need

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to understand that life changed, that
social dynamics changed and that there are values

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different from yours and mine, practices, different life routines. Then please don

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' t mistreat yourself. You don' t even create that climate of insecurity

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in which they' re afraid to
express themselves. Let them be, let

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them behave naturally, let them behave
genuinely and know. That you are not

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a judge, that you are someone
who is capable of setting limits, that

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you are able to say what is
not right, but not in inappropriate ways.

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The third key, I invite you
to listen carefully. It is a

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consequence of the previous one. We
all need to feel listened to. We

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all need to feel like someone cares
about us. We all need to feel

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that our life is valuable, and
that is demonstrated by listening, by closeness,

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by offering help. Pay attention to
what they tell you, without interrupting

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them, without judging them, without
pointing them out, without drawing apocalyptic conclusions,

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without believing that the world is over. No, no, no,

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intelligently, calmly, you can do
it. Express your love for them as

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a proper listening attitude. And fourthly, I think it is necessary to offer

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support and guidance, that they know
that they are not alone. Sometimes young

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people make such definite decisions because they
feel alone and because they believe that everyone

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around them is not interested in them
or we are not going to support them

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and end up making decisions because they
assume that it is the only possibility.

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We' re not there. Offer
him your help, offer them help,

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support let us be his network let
us show him that there are paths of

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solution, that there are paths of
growth. You can, don' t

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be afraid to. Sometimes we need
to be supportive, empathetic. I look

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at the young and see that they
behave like their parents behaved, guarded from

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proportions, guarded from historical distances.
But it' s the same rebellion that

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the parents had, the same crisis
that the parents lived at some point.

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What happens is that some adults forget
about our youth, forget about the stages

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we go through and that leads us
to behave in the wrong way. I

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hope, today you have peace and
serenity to tell him what I am to

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what I am willing to help,
I am willing to collaborate, I am

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willing to put my hand also so
that you can get through and you are

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dense difficulties, do not stay in
selfishness, do not stay in judgment,

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do not stay in believing that you
know it all a way to show love,

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is to be empathetic and is to
be supportive with them. That'

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s fundamental. These four keys review
them as a model to continue to generate

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an atmosphere of trust, listen carefully
and offer support and guidance Now, if

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you see that the difficulties that this
young person or those young people are experiencing

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are very significant and cannot be easily
managed, then it causes them to have

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an appropriate professional help, that they
have a professional help that allows them to

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find ways and tools of solution.
I am sure that all of us can

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help young people navigate the emotions of
today' s world and build a healthier,

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happier future. I am convinced that
if we practice these four keys,

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we could actually generate that environment that
they need to grow and be happier.

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Thanks for being there. In those
days I have been sharing lectures on spirituality

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and mental health in universities, in
communities, always generating this kind of reflections

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that I now make with you hear. We' re in Apple, we

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